01/03/2026
Perhaps some of you were surprised when I shared this meme from to my stories yesterday. Let me explain.
From my limited human experience, I’ve realized/witnessed/participated we humans have a habit of staying silent when someone—a parent, teacher, elder, someone of prominence—has done us or something wrong.
I don’t know about anybody else, but I was taught to be polite, not antagonize, fear retaliation, so I have kept quiet many times too many to “keep the peace.”
I think many of us have been taught this bc fights suck, can get ugly, ARE UNCOMFORTABLE. And if the person doing you dirty is bigger, older, stronger than you, there is also the fear of things turning violent. So we grin & bear it, stay in the discomfort bc we fear the discomfort of confronting someone is more uncomfortable than trying to change the status quo.
Here’s the thing: As I’ve found the courage to finally address people in my life I should have spoken up to long ago, I’ve come to realize that staying silent just gives the oppressor, the situation more power over you, keeping you in a cycle of silence & forced acceptance.
The longer you stay silent, the harder it is to speak up.
Using the phrase “Go f*ck yourself” might not be the appropriate phrase to use in every situation, but I hope you find the strength to speak up when you feel a boundary has been crossed, you’ve been slighted, or taken advantage of.
Things will never change if you keep your head down & never express yourself.
May 2026 be the year we all start speaking up…if you aren’t already 💛