Medusa Pelvic

05/11/2026

05/07/2026

I have been in an interesting headspace recently, in which I feel really good about being an OT but that sometimes I am really awkward about the business owning end of things. One set of skills certainly does not ensure the other will follow. Business owning as a mom is a whole other level of s**t show, that to someone easily distracted, can feel really overwhelming.

Interestingly, this is a very common headspace for most of my clients coming into my clinic, not necessarily business owners or even moms, but women who are multitasking every minute of every day, small things, big things, enormous things, tasks, emotions, to dos, concerns, pain, frustration, sadness. When I’m in my clinic space with the weight they carry, I’m tuned in, I’m honing in, I’m there 100%. I’m present and I’m showing up.

But when we have to show up 100% in 100 ways as opposed to 100% in a few ways, the body keeps the score. And one of our greatest defense mechanisms is to mask. And much like we’ve been advised to do always, we keep on keeping on. Until we collapse.

I don’t always have a solution for that. Not for my clients, and frequently not for myself. But when life is really overwhelming, I find myself craving slowing down. A slow burn. I don’t want big flames, I want hot coals. I want to slice things thin. I want to hear each individual breath I’m taking. I have to slow the body as much as I’m slowing the mind. Because sometimes if you slow the body, and don’t give the mind the respite too, then you worry you’re not getting enough done, and back on the hamster wheel you go.

So you just have to learn to find a tweak that will allow you to slice it all very thin. For me that’s finding a task of organization. And so I’ll sit down and organize a bookshelf. A junk drawer. The bathroom cabinet. I’m not going to attack any kind of paperwork, or anything that carries with it the cumbersome weight of must get done. No, these tasks of organization are to beautify, to make tidy, to break down and rebuild, to trust the process. It is not a means to an end, but it is worthwhile in its own right.

04/18/2026

Strike a pose. It will shine later.

04/16/2026

04/15/2026

Somewhere along the way, pelvic health got reduced to: “just squeeze it.” If you’re leaking. After birth. For better s3x.

I’m heavily rolling my eyes over here, because it’s so…archaic.

There are a lot of us out here proper trying to undo that s**t. But it’s still what I hear clients and friends tell me their docs are advising them to do.

But the whole problem is, it’s a simplified isolated exercise theta often done prescribed irrespective of all other body and life contexts, is like handing someone a horse saddle and saying, Cool, you’re ready to ride.

Ride what, exactly? And how? And with what training? And when? And does it like apples?

What they are suggesting is this: kegels in the carpool line, at stoplights, folding laundry, during peeing or s*x. You’ve got the saddle, maybe you’re even polishing it, and you might even have really excellent saddle control at this point. But no one checked if there’s a horse. And worse, no one asked if the horse is tired, overworked, undertrained, in pain, to tense, or straight up refusing to cooperate. No one noticed the reins are tangled (that’s an analogy for shallow breathing), the terrain is chaotic (that’s one for your daily life), and the rider hasn’t been shown how all of this is supposed to move together (that’s...you.)

So now we’ve got a very dedicated rider…sitting on a saddle…that’s on the ground. This is what happens when we isolate the pelvic floor from the rest of the system. And the rest of your being and your day. Kegels are wildly overprescribed and usually under-contextualized. The pelvic floor responds to pressure, to breath, to how the ribs move, how the core manages load, how a you lift a car seat, how you hold tension when overwhelmed, how you move and live and breathe and think in and outside your body all day long.

Sometimes the answer is strengthening, and sometimes it’s letting go. And lots of times it’s coordination, timing, habits, teaching the system how to actually respond under that real-life wildly crazy demand.

So forget the saddle. Find someone to first help you connect the dots, and then lead you to water.

04/15/2026

But he was so proud to help! 🥹

And really, it’s not like even when the laundry is folded perfectly by me, that it ends up in tidy rows in their dresser because I ask them to put their own clothes away and they just…stuff it whatever it fits.

So somewhere along the way the system breaks down, but it also is rebuilt better, too.