01/25/2024
Who is the biggest cheerleader in your life? My suggestion of who should be, may surprise you!
As a Holistic Wellness Coach, I have learned many things that I was uncertain I really believed when I first heard. A big one was, "We have to love ourselves before we can truly love anyone else." To do that, we must change how we speak to the person we talk with most, ourselves, through our internal conversations.
I'm sure I rolled my eyes and muttered "whatever" under my breath, "I'm sure I'm fine". However, after that seed was planted, I noticed that the conversation inside my head was pretty bad; I could never imagine saying the things I was saying to myself to the people I loved. I tended to blame myself for everything and call myself horrible names, things like "stupid idiot" or "worthless piece of sh*t." Humph, wow...
The more I became aware of my internal dialogue, the more I began to ask myself questions. Why would I say that? I would never let my kids say that to each other. Where did these come from? As I analyzed these thoughts and began to challenge them each time they came up, I learned to change the dialog. Granted, this took a long time and much self-awareness, but I have learned to re-write the script.
After much soul-searching, I reflected on what I felt I was missing and needed to hear. I needed to give myself permission to feel proud of where I have come from and who I am becoming. At first, this felt arrogant and haughty; as Christians, we are taught pride is a bad thing, but it brought me to tears every time I thought about it.
So, I began to write the phrase that spoke to me in places I would see it regularly and smile when I saw it. A simple reminder: "I'm SO proud of you!" I began to become my own cheerleader, and I noticed things began to change for me. I am proud of myself, my journey thus far, and my hope for my future destination.
I challenge you to take your thoughts captive and notice how healthy your relationship is with yourself. Flip your script and love yourself a little more today than you did yesterday. Write your truth and become your own cheerleader!
