Inner Most Healing Therapy Shannon Myers LMFT

02/11/2026

02/04/2026

These pairs often get confused because they can look identical from the outside - and sometimes even feel similar in the moment.

The key isn’t waiting to see how you feel after. It’s getting clear on what outcome you’re actually working toward.

⭐️Accountability vs. Shame: Do you want to learn from this mistake and do better next time? Or are you just beating yourself up on repeat? Accountability is future-focused. Shame keeps you stuck in the past.

⭐️Processing vs. Ruminating: Are you working through the emotion to reach understanding? Or are you replaying the same thoughts without resolution? Processing has movement. Ruminating is a closed loop.

⭐️ Boundaries vs. Walls: Do you want to protect yourself while staying open to connection? Or are you shutting people out completely? Boundaries are selective. Walls are total.

⭐️ Assertiveness vs. Aggression: Are you standing up for your needs while respecting the other person? Or are you bulldozing over them to get your way? Assertiveness honors both people. Aggression only honors one.

➡️ The distinguishing question: What am I trying to create here?

When you’re clear on the outcome you actually want - growth, resolution, safety with connection, mutual respect - it becomes easier to recognize which path gets you there.

02/03/2026

01/28/2026

Real repair has three parts: ownership (I see what I did and I’m not defending it), empathy (I can feel what it was like for you), and a plan for change (here’s what I’ll do differently when we get back here). Without ownership, apology feels hollow. Without empathy, it feels cold. Without a plan, it becomes a loop.

01/24/2026

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09/09/2025

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