Inner Most Healing Therapy Shannon Myers LMFT

03/13/2026

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03/08/2026

Once, during a therapy session, a wife shared that as she was vacuuming, her husband came in and threw down his work bag a few feet from her. She described how angry she got telling me he “never notices what’s going on around him.” The husband confused about the situation and hurt asked her why she always assumed the worst about him. “I feel like she thinks I’m a bad husband.”

They both looked to me as their therapist, desperate for me to decided who was right and who was wrong. What they didn’t understand is: both of them were right. It wasn’t about a vacuum. It was a wife who had spent her whole childhood performing to be seen. Who’d did all she could to be perfect, and quiet, and good. And then her husband comes in as she’s once again, doing it all— and doesn’t notice. She felt every past moment someone didn’t notice her. Her inner child was running the show, and was rightfully angry.

Her husband, who had a critical father, saw her look of disgust and the anger in his wife’s voice. To him, it was just a bag and it’s where he always placed it. He didn’t think it would disrupt her ability to vacuum. He became that 6 year old boy who felt small, and not good enough. Her tone brought him back to all of the moments he was scolded and told to be quiet. To all of the moments his father would look at him with contempt instead of love. To all of the moments where he once again, wasn’t good enough for someone.

After seeing this over and over again, I realized I was giving the tools for better communication and regulation. I was trying to help them with the present moment, but they didn’t just need help in the present. They needed to reparent themselves and each other. They needed to see the 6 year old in the person they loved, and they needed to see that 6 year old was terrified. Terrified of not being good enough. Of being left. And of not being seen.

Until there’s Reparenting, it’s two children in adult bodies fighting over wounds they didn’t create.

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03/06/2026

This is your reminder that progress isn’t perfect and growth isn’t linear.

And the moments that feel like setbacks are often part of the process.

So if today feels like a step back, don’t panic - you’re still in the dance ❤️

03/02/2026

Some of the people in your life won’t ever change.
And that’s okay.

You don’t have to fix them, convince them, or manage their emotions.

What is yours to choose is how you show up.
Consider your boundaries, your tone, and your peace.

Walk into these situations grounded.
Stay connected to who you are.
Leave with your values intact.

That kind of response changes everything.

02/20/2026

🧠What’s the difference between EMDR and Brainspotting?🪄

Here is an extract taken from Taproot Therapy - talking about when David Grand Discovered Brainspotting through the use of EMDR.

‘During that session, Grand was using EMDR’s bilateral eye movements, slowly waving two fingers back and forth as the skater tracked them while focusing on the performance block. Then something shifted. As Grand moved his fingers to a particular position in her visual field, he noticed an involuntary wobble in one eye, a reflexive response he had observed countless times during EMDR sessions but never understood. Usually, he would continue the bilateral movement pattern, following the EMDR protocol. This time, acting on pure intuition, he did something different. He stopped moving his hand and held his fingers in that exact position where the eye wobble occurred.

“Keep looking right here,” he told her.

What happened next changed both their lives and ultimately the field of trauma treatment. As she maintained her gaze on that fixed point, processing accelerated dramatically. Material emerged that hadn’t surfaced during months of bilateral EMDR. Memories, emotions, physical sensations, and insights cascaded through her awareness with unprecedented intensity. The session produced breakthrough after breakthrough, layer after layer of the trauma and psychological material underlying her performance block releasing in ways Grand had never witnessed.’

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Brainspotting Therapy Promises a Novel Way to Heal from Trauma. Here’s What Happened When I Tried It

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