Nelia Joyce Life Coaching

01/19/2024

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“ A new year, a new life”. “He who breaks a resolution is a weakling; he who makes one is a fool”. “May all your troubles last as long as your new year’s resolutions”. We are all familiar with the New Year’s resolution remarks, we’ve maybe even used some of them.  Whether you ...

02/17/2021

Just once I would like to stuff a dirty sock into the mouth of the person who first said; “It is what it is”. If there is a phrase that I loathe, this would be it. What a fatalistic, shrug-your-shoulders, awful approach. But recently I almost caught myself saying those exact 5 little words, which got me thinking…

It is probably not the statement that is so upsetting. It is more the victim mindset that frequently accompanies it. Nothing, I can do about it. Not my circus, not my monkeys. It is what it is. This phrase has become a siren song for millions of people who have accepted their lot without a cry of protest. Read more:
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01/04/2021

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My husband is a keen Wim Hof fan. For those who are not familiar with Wim, Wikipedia lists him as the Iceman, a Dutch extreme athlete noted for his ability to withstand freezing temperatures. Wim has set Guinness World Records for swimming under ice, prolonged full-body contact with ice, and he stil

12/09/2020

Something to think about if you have a tendency to strive for perfection... 🤔

Perfectionism is a symptom of some deeper issue, often connected to fear. This fear may have been created in childhood and led to you making decisions that only strengthened this toxic thought over the years. Maybe now this fear and perfectionism has become a part of your identity and the idea of letting it go seems terrifying, but at the same time holding onto this is causing you so much mental distress.

The first step in breaking free from this is simply the acknowledgment & awareness. Be honest with yourself- where is the perfectionism coming from?

Once you are more aware only then can you start processing, reconceptualizing, and healing. It’s going to be a long road but worth it.

I discuss this process of breaking free from perfectionism in one of the sessions at my virtual mental health summit. You can get all sessions here: https://vimeo.com/ondemand/mhss

I also go into detail on how to use the 5 steps to detox your brain from perfectionism & fear in my new book Cleaning up Your Mental Mess: https://www.cleaningupyourmentalmess.com

12/06/2020

Looks like it's a thumbs up from us both :-) Really enjoying the Virtual Mental Health Solutions Summit by Dr Caroline Leaf. South Africans unite! 🇿🇦 🇺🇸

10/15/2020

Self-preoccupation is defined as a state of being absorbed with oneself. When our focus is on us, we disengage and struggle to appreciate the world that exists outside ourselves. Self-preoccupation is a major contributor to depression and anxiety. Cease to be the focus of your attention! Self will never satisfy the soul...

10/12/2020

Most of us are familiar with the Greek mythology of Narcissus, the beautiful young man who fell in love with his own reflection. He became obsessed to the point that he would not leave the water for fear of losing sight of his reflection, at which he stared until he died.

Today, more than ever, people are accusing other people of being narcissists. And while it is a term that is overused, we have become a generation fixated on self.

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I am a life coach and in this blog I write about how we have the power to physically create new neural pathways and destroy old ones. We have what it takes to destroy toxic beliefs, experiences, and thinking patterns and wire in truths, positive thinking, good habits, and life-giving mind patterns.