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03/25/2026

There are TOO many men not listening right now to women and femmes.
TOO many men being defensive.
TOO many men giving justifications & excuses.
TOO many men deflecting the abuse and harm done onto other issues

I would hope that if you feel you have a lot to say right now and you’re a cis het male - and you’re having a hard time hearing women and femmes that you take this moment to listen. TRULY. Sometimes we need to shut the f**k up. Seriously.

As a femme, as a sexual assault survivor, as a mental health thera**st - I ask that you take this moment to do transformative work for yourself.

This is not the time to out point other harms done to other groups. This is not the time to philosophize. This is not the time. PERIOD. Sexual violence perpetuated against women & femmes is who we are centering right now. Listen.

Many of you are trying to claim solidarity by reinforcing patriarchy in the manners you are behaving right now.

03/25/2026

Continued in comments:

On harm and excuses:

I’ve said this hundreds of times - via posts, in person, in sessions.

A mental health diagnosis’ is NEVER as excuse for inflicting abuse or harm or hurt on someone.

Having your own trauma is NEVER an excuse for inflicting abuse, harm or hurt a person.

Neurodivergence is NOT an excuse for inflicting abuse, harm or hurt onto others.

Having an oppressed identity is NOT an excuse for inflicting abuse, harm or hurt onto others.

PERIOD.

We are humans who for many reasons can and do inflict abuse, harm or hurt onto people. But we cannot excuse it away. PERIOD.

We must take ownership of OUR actions. We must sit with the wounds we have caused. We must accept that there are many harms that are not repairable and we must hold that.

A few years ago I was part of a “day of healing” event at Lancaster prison. This day brought together men who had committed murder with people like myself, someone whose loved one was murdered (I’ve shared before that growing up one of my brothers was murdered). This event was focused on having us all share our stories, the incarcerated men and those of us survivors.

Majority of these men were lo Black and brown men. And to be honest after hearing about their lives and knowing their oppressed identities it helped me understand them and their actions.

However one moment in my small group (we were split up into groups) that felt really important for me was when one of the men who had committed murder spoke about how no matter what he had been through himself, no matter all the struggles, he never tried to excuse the fact that he murdered someone. He shared that everyday he thought of the man he murdered bc for him it was important to remember the consequences of his actions no matter what he struggled with.

He understood that his lived experiences and struggles impacted the actions he took but he also held himself responsible for those actions.
He never made excuses.

03/23/2026

Moody Monday! Meme medicine. 💊

03/21/2026

My pumpkin pies 🥧 The Coven, indoor and outdoor members.

Yep that’s 7 plus raccoons, squirrels and birds 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

Bc I prefer animals to ppl 🤣🤣🤣🤣

03/21/2026

As a survivor of the Eaton fire last year, films about the fire are especially powerful. And as someone who has pets, aka the Coven, I know how hard evacuation was trying to get one’s pets during hurricane level winds and a fire ! I know ppl did the best they could given the horrendous circumstances and the loss of many pets is felt heavily in such a animal loving community.

This is why I wanted to see a screening of the short animation film in the works called , based on the true story of a cat that was reunited with her family 30 some days post fire. It’s truly a story of hope and the resilience of animals.

Last night’s event was hosted and the hosts provided this beautiful and touching manner to help remember the pets lost in the Eaton fire. A pot with soil to plant the paper cat and bone in, once watered the paper dissolves and become seeds. And a memory stone.

Thankfully I did not lose a member of the Coven, though many of you know I almost didn’t get one of my cats Steve Nicks out. As a thera**st who works with grief and loss I know how debilitating and profound pet loss can be, a type of loss often overlooked by many.

This little pot will be in my home as a memory to all the pets in Altadena and wildlife lost.

is truly beautiful and I hope many of you follow them and please 🙏🏼 help support the completion of this film by donating to the production and or sharing their work.

I also am incredibly thankful for the TNR volunteers who came to help find pets post the Eaton fire. Amazing amazing ppl.

03/21/2026

Had the pleasure of stopping by to find a great collection of books by Trans authors for the Trans read a thon ! And a collection of horror books by women authors ! I also discovered these amazing Q***r bats!!🦇

Independent bookstores are my favorite places to be! This is one of my fave bookstores - a Q***r haven! Please support them when you can!

03/18/2026

To many, the news about a well liked man in an organizing space being a predator isn’t new.

As a thera**st that has worked and works with clients in organizing spaces MANY of those clients (women & femmes) have suffered sexual violence and abuse by men in those organizing spaces.

When we idealize people - we give them power. When we idealize people we don’t see their whole selves - we just see the good. Whether it’s an organizer, a family member, a friend - putting someone on a pedestal is not just problematic for that person but it’s problematic for the community as it gives the idealized person protection.

There are men out there now in leftist, organizing spaces who are actively abusing women and femmes and there are women in these same spaces staying silent.

Be willing to see people, even those you might admire as being capable of causing harm.

My heart breaks thinking of Dolores Huerta living all these years not only with the heaviness of that secret but having to see everyone around her praise and honor her ra**st.

To the women/femmes in movement and organizing spaces who have fought and fight for liberation who have stayed silent, who are silent - you are held by generations of mujeres.

May we remember that fighting for a cause, trying to eradicate violence for certain people should never bring about violence to the very people in our movement spaces. This is not liberation, its exploitation and it’s violence.

03/18/2026

It’s werewolf Wednesday!!! Get your howl on 🐺