Julia Rocque Coaching

06/05/2025

06/03/2025

I coach on self-love EVERY. SINGLE. DAY. People get confused, thinking that they will somehow become prideful, unkind, and self-centered if they allow themselves to love themselves. But the opposite is true. When we love ourselves, we become MORE humble, loving, and selfless. This is because we stop comparing ourselves and trying to EARN our worthiness. Self-love is at the foundation of better relationships, more confidence, and greater happiness.

06/01/2025

We don't actually want our kids to be happy all the time. That's not the goal. We want them to be strong and resilient. We want them to have confidence they can do hard things and not quit. We always need to remember we are not just raising kids; ultimately we are raising kids to become healthy adults.

05/30/2025

It's always good to remember that we're allowed to do things differently than what was modeled to us. We don't need to be held back by past programing and beliefs. Paving new trails isn't easy, but it feels so rewarding to overcome parts about our past that no longer serve us.

05/28/2025

Our instinctual brain's main job is to keep up alive, but doesn't care if we have a fulfilling life. If we want an amazing life, sometimes we have to see where our brain is holding us back and be the boss of it.

05/26/2025

My mom used to say, "All you can do is the best you can do," and that is SO true! We never wake up and intentionally do a bad job....EVER! But sometimes we make mistakes. I hope I'm not alone in saying sometime my best is terrible! Sometimes I'm running at 10% and I'm not operating at my usual capacity. But that was still my best for THAT day. We need to be proud of ourselves for showing up....ESPECIALLY when we're struggling.

05/24/2025

Who can relate? The truth is our unconscious brain is wired to make predictions and try to minimize danger and suffering in the future. So, sometimes this leads to overthinking. This sometimes helps us when we have control over the outcomes in our lives. But it often backfires when we are applying this to our teens. Worry, fear, and anxiety pretend to be useful, but never actually prevented a catastrophe in someone else's life.

05/22/2025

Validating someone's emotional experience seems so simple, but it's very impactful. It's basically saying, "I believe you," "That must be hard," "It makes sense why you're upset." We don't actually have to feel the same way or think the other person is "right." But validation can help sooth the other person just because they don't feel alone anymore. Validating teens is more important than fixing their problem. Once they feel heard, they will fix their own problem.

05/20/2025

A little humor for you today. What is it about staying out late that makes everything so much more appealing and fun? I remember feeling this way as a teen, but I honestly can't remember why. Feeling exhausted and miserable the next day after staying up half the night was no fun at all. I guess it's all just part of learning.

05/18/2025

I love teaching my clients about the importance of having a relationship with their past and future self. You don't need to be mad at "past-you." He/she went through a lot so you could learn valuable lessons. And "present-you" has the opportunity to totally hook up "future you." Take such good care of him/her! The future is your reward if you do your best today.

05/16/2025

Choose your hard. It's hard to have difficult conversations. It's hard dealing with the aftermath of conversations that never happened. It's hard dealing with an unhappy teen after you've set a boundary. It's hard dealing with a teen that takes advantage of you. It's hard to give consequences. It's hard to have a teen (who then becomes an adult) that never learns to take responsibility for their actions.

05/14/2025

If it doesn't scare you, it doesn't require courage. But fear is NEVER a reason to stop or run away. We have to override the part of our brain that thinks that staying "safe" is the ultimate goal. The life we actually want requires courage.