Janeff Counseling

04/15/2026

Love this. Grief is a forever thing. Every grief journey so unique.

02/25/2026

I have read quite a bit about grief and loss over the years. Some of it touching my heart and some of it offering a moment of transcendence. But this from a Lutheran theologian who resisted Adolph Hi**er and paid with his life is beyond any writing I have read on this topic. By far. It so captures a loss and the absence.

Dietrich Bonhoeffer is not someone I knew until recently.

"There is nothing that can replace the absence of someone dear to us, and one should not even attempt to do so. One must simply hold out and endure it. At first that sounds very hard, but at the same time it is also a great comfort. For to the extent the emptiness truly remains unfulfilled one remains connected to the other person through it.

It is wrong to say that God fills the emptiness. God in no way fills it but much more leaves it precisely unfilled and thus helps us preserve - even in pain - the authentic relationship. Further more, the more beautiful and full the remembrances, the more difficult the separation. But gratitude transforms the torment of memory into silent joy. One bears what was lovely in the past not as a thorn but as a precious gift deep within, a hidden treasure one can always be certain."

12/29/2025

Hello! I just published this blog on my Top 7 Skills To Get Your Relationship Back on Track. As a couples therapist in Austin TX and Amherst MA, I have offered these skills so often that I thought I would put this list together and share it with you.

Here's to a new year for relational health! Thanks, Dean.

Learn my seven essential skills to get your relationship back on track!

11/23/2025

11/19/2025

I just finished an article on the My Top 7 Skills to Get Your Relationship Back on Track.

I offer seven pieces of advice to help couples who come to see me.

I have used them so often that I thought I would put this list together and share them with you. These skills are game changers to learn and if done repeatedly will give you the relationship you want.

Overriding pattern takes intention and repetition.

Learn my seven essential skills to get your relationship back on track!

09/03/2025

September is su***de prevention awareness month. 988 for Su***de and Crisis Hotline. Hold on. There are people who can help. You are needed and not forgotten.

08/28/2025

Freedom is what you do with what's been done to you.

Jean- Paul Sartre

05/16/2025

Just love this. Slowing down and connecting. I hope this take root here in the States.

All around the world, elderly face the issue of loneliness and even isolation. With the digital age, times are difficult for the elderly.

05/04/2025

May is mental health awareness month reducing the stigma of mental illness, promote understanding and encourage people to reach out for help.

There is nothing wrong with you. You don't have to do this alone!

02/24/2025

Hello! Here is a blog post I just finished.

4 Ways to Know if Trauma is Impacting Your Life.

I have dedicated my career as a therapist and supervisor to understanding the nuances and intricacies of complex trauma and the ENORMOUS impact it has on an individual, relational and societal level. I hope you find it useful!

https://deanjaneff.com/blog-and-resources/blog/4-ways-to-know-if-trauma-is-impacting-your-life

02/19/2025

I'm thrilled to announce a new associate I plan to supervise.

Heidi really wasn't sure if she should become a therapist until her disabled son, Tucker, looked at her square in the face and said, "Mom, you have to do this!"

Everything changed for Heidi in that moment and it has been her mission ever since to support families with a disabled child.

She offers therapy for the whole family, couples therapy and therapy for the children. I am convinced that Heidi can help families struggling with disconnection, stress, overwhelm, anxiety, unease and hopelessness.

Heidi has lived it and has extensive, in depth training to help with all levels of experience: Relational, systemic, emotional, cognitive and nervous system/somatic. She has that rare combination of knowledge and heart.

I look forward to supervising and consulting with Heidi on the nuances and intricacies of complex trauma and relational dynamics. She is now accepting clients and offering a free 15-minute consultation to see if there is a good fit. Go Heidi!

https://livingtapestry.life/

11/19/2024

The best meal you can make is with ingredients you already have.

Chinese Proverb