09/24/2025
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Jasmine Hutchison was planning a traditional 21st birthday celebration. Her mother, Hope Hooks, talked about going with her. She even picked out an outfit and asked Jasmine to do her hair.
Yet Jasmine knew her mom might not be up to it.
Hope was 46 and had been dealing with an irregular heartbeat for 10 years. An implantable cardioverter-defibrillator (ICD) helped regulate her heart rhythm. A week before, the ICD had gone off. Since then, Hope’s heart issues left her so fatigued that she had to sit out her youngest child’s 10th birthday party.
Still, Jasmine held out hope. But on the big day, her mom told Jasmine she was too tired.
So Jasmine headed to a club with her friends. At midnight, her parents called to wish her a happy birthday the minute she turned 21.
The next morning, Jasmine found Hope on the kitchen floor. She wasn’t breathing, and her skin was cold. Hope had passed away on Jasmine’s 21st birthday, Dec. 1, 2014.
“Most people dream of their 21st birthday as being some sort of official welcome party to adulthood, but mine will always be a nightmare,” she said.
Jasmine put a return to college on hold to help take care of her younger siblings, then 10 and 14, and support her grieving father.
“I had to grow up really fast,” Jasmine said.
Jasmine returned to school a few years later, once her family was in a more stable place. She’s since gotten married, moved into her first house, and now lives in Indiana with her husband and two dogs, Hope and Halo.
When she looks back on her 21st birthday, Jasmine recognizes how much strength she found to keep going through her grief.
“In those quiet moments before anyone else arrived after my mom died, it was just me, my mom and God,” she said. “I remember sitting on the floor beside her, overwhelmed and wondering what my life would look like moving forward.
“If you had told me then that I’d be where I am today, I wouldn’t have believed you.”