04/03/2026
I need to share something personal with you today. And I’m posting the video to go with it.
In 2017, I stood frozen inside the Statue of Liberty while my daughter climbed to the crown alone.
It was her last spring break trip with me before she graduated high school. We had planned it together. We had tickets to the crown. And when we hit that last narrow spiral staircase — my nervous system said absolutely not.
She went up without me. I stood in that stairwell in full blown nervous system response, wondering how I was even going to get back DOWN, knowing she was up there alone in what was supposed to be our moment.
That experience changed something in me.
What followed was years of intentional work — small moments like getting on a ladder, building to bigger ones like standing at the edge of the Grand Canyon, rappelling down an 80-foot slot canyon at Zion National Park, and eventually — in 2023 — jumping out of an airplane.
Back then, the work was nervous system RECOVERY. Learning to feel the response come up — and learning to bring it back down. Breath by breath. Step by step. That work was real, and it mattered deeply.
In the video you’ll see me giving a big thumbs up inside the plane. Confident looking, right? And then the very next shot is me eyes closed, doing breathing techniques — because my nervous system was already in full response mode before we even got to the door. That’s recovery work happening in real time.
When I landed, my daughter called me. She had witnessed my fear of heights her whole childhood. She knew how real it was. She could not believe I had actually jumped.
In the years since that jump, I’ve gone even deeper — coming to understand that there’s a difference between nervous system RECOVERY and nervous system INTEGRATION. Both are important. Both are distinct. And that understanding now lives at the heart of everything I do with my clients.
One of the greatest feelings I’ll carry from this experience isn’t just that I faced the fear. It’s showing my daughter what’s possible when you do.
What fear has been costing YOU moments you can’t get back? Drop it in the comments. 👇