09/05/2025
What is a "discard"?
A "discard" is not a normal breakup. Normal breakups involve communication, understanding, and some attempt at empathy. There’s usually a conversation, even if it’s difficult, that allows both people to process the ending. A discard is nothing like that. It’s sudden, blindsiding, and entirely one-sided. The person doing the discarding doesn’t consult, discuss, or consider your feelings—they act as if your emotions don’t exist.
There is no closure. There is no acknowledgment of what the relationship meant, or the time, energy, and love that was invested. Often, the discarder’s eyes are cold and empty, carrying a “dead” expression that communicates detachment, superiority, or even disdain. It’s a look that says, without words, that you were never truly important, that what you felt never mattered, and that the bond you shared can be tossed aside without hesitation.
Being discarded feels like being thrown in the trash. You can replay every moment, every shared memory, and still be left with a hollow emptiness, questioning your worth. You are left to grapple with the realization that someone who may have claimed to love you could erase you so easily from their life. It’s not just an ending of a relationship—it’s an erasure of validation, a stripping away of emotional significance, leaving a deep wound that takes time to heal.
A discard is an experience designed to destabilize, to make you doubt yourself, and to remind you that in their eyes, you were replaceable. It’s an ending without acknowledgment, a goodbye without respect, and a pain that lingers because it refuses to make sense.
