Healing with Pat

07/30/2025

💫When your clients are your best advertisement because of their incredible transformation with Family Constellations! 🤗

07/24/2025

You’ve been on the healing path for a while now.
You’ve read the books.
Listened to the podcasts.
Maybe even sat in a women’s circle or two.

And still…

You find yourself saying “yes” when you want to say “no.”
Still walking on eggshells.
Still holding back your truth to keep others comfortable.

Here’s what I want you to know:
It’s not because you’re doing it wrong.
It’s not because you’re not “healed enough.”

💛 Many of us are carrying inherited silence —
Passed down by women who had no choice but to shrink to stay safe.
That’s why I am creating the Soul Sisters Healing Club:

A free sacred space for spiritual women ready to:

🌿 Break generational patterns of overgiving and self-abandonment
🗣 Reclaim their voice and speak with confidence and clarity
🔥 Rise into a version of themselves that feels whole — not just healed.

Inside, you’ll find:

✨ Weekly healing prompts and rituals
🧘‍♀️ Nervous system & embodiment tools
💬 Sisterhood support and voice-affirming spaces
🗣 Monthly live healing sessions
✨ This isn’t another Facebook group.

It’s a grounded, nurturing community, free from social media, where your truth belongs.

Doors open soon.

Join the waitlist + receive your free Safe to Speak Guide. 💌
https://bit.ly/soul-sisters-healing-club-waitlist

Much love,
Pat

07/22/2025

💫I spent years being the “nice girl.”

Always saying “yes,”

Making sure everyone else felt okay,

Trying not to upset anyone, even when it hurt me.

I thought it was love.

But it was fear.

Fear of conflict.

Fear of being too much.

Fear of being left.

And I didn’t even realize it was inherited.

My mother did the same.

And her mother before her.

These weren’t just personality traits…

They were survival patterns passed down through generations of women taught to shrink.

It wasn’t until I discovered Family Constellations that I saw the invisible threads.

And once I started healing them…

Everything changed.

If this speaks to you, you’re not alone.

💫That’s why I created the Soul Sisters Healing Club — a free community for spiritual women ready to stop overgiving, people-pleasing, and playing small to keep the peace.

🫶Come join us.

Let’s break these patterns — together.

👉The link to join is in my BIO.

Much love,
Pat 😘

07/22/2025

“Choose your words.”

“You can’t say that!”

“How are they going to react?”

These were the voices I carried for years.

And they still echo in the minds of so many women I work with:

We’re afraid of upsetting others.

We stay quiet to keep the peace.

And then we beat ourselves up for not saying what we really feel.

We feel weak, defeated, and disappointed in ourselves.

It creates this exhausting hamster wheel of self-silencing → self-abandonment → self-judgment.

And even after all the therapy, the journaling, the healing work…

We still freeze.

Because the fear isn’t just ours — it’s inherited.

From all the women who came before us and had no choice but to be quiet: our mothers, grandmothers, aunts, and great-grandmothers.

Like the color of our eyes and the texture of our hair, it passes down to us in our DNA.

It lives in our nervous systems.

It runs through our family lines.

My mission is to create a sacred, emotionally safe space where spiritual women can break free from inherited silence, release the need to overgive and prove, and finally feel seen, heard, and held, just as they are.

✨ That’s why I created the Soul Sisters Healing Club —

A free online community for spiritual women who are ready to stop performing, stop overgiving, and finally feel safe speaking their truth.

Inside, you’ll find:

🌿 Family Constellation rituals to heal ancestral patterns

🗣 Voice healing & conflict repair tools

🧘‍♀️ Embodiment practices to restore self-worth

💬 Sisterhood circles where you don’t have to shrink

We will open the doors soon.

Join the waitlist now and receive my free Safe to Speak Guide to begin right away.

👉 https://bit.ly/soul-sisters-healing-club-waitlist

You don’t have to carry this alone.

You don’t have to keep silencing yourself to feel safe.

Come be held. 💛

I will see you on the inside,

Pat 😘

Overgiving. People-pleasing. Playing small to keep the peace. If you’re ready to break the cycle and come home to yourself — this space is for you. 💛

07/20/2025

💫I have the best clients ever!

07/19/2025

🌿I thought I just needed to be stronger...

For years, I thought my problem was that I wasn’t strong enough.
I kept trying to be the “good girl” who kept the peace.
To be spiritual, kind, calm… even when my heart was screaming inside.
I read the books.
Did the meditations.
Tried so hard to “heal.”
But somehow, I still couldn’t speak my truth.
I’d freeze in hard conversations, say “yes” when I meant “no,” and spiral with guilt any time I put myself first - can you relate?
At first, I blamed myself:
"Why can’t I just express what I feel without fearing rejection?"
But then I saw the real pattern.
This wasn’t about discipline or strength.
It was about ancestral pain I was carrying — unspoken stories in my family line. I was living a script I didn’t even write.
That awareness changed everything.
I stopped trying to fix myself and began healing at the root.
Slowly, I started coming back to my voice, my body, and my truth.
And now I’ve created the space I wish I had back then:
✨ Soul Sisters Healing Club — a free sacred community for women who are ready to stop silencing themselves and rise into self-worth, together.
This space is about healing in sisterhood — not doing it all alone.
🫶 If you’re holding back your voice, your needs, or your truth — I see you.
You’re not broken.
You’re just carrying too much that isn’t yours.
💬 What’s one thing you’ve been afraid to say out loud — even to yourself?
You don’t have to name it here, but you’re welcome to.
Sometimes, naming it is the beginning of releasing it.
👉 The link to join the waitlist is in the first comment.
Your soft place to land is coming soon.
With love,
Pat 🤍

07/15/2025

💫If you feel like you’re stuck in one or more areas of your life, here is one exercise that can help you find the root cause:

Looking at your family system (parents, siblings, grandparents, aunts, uncles, cousins, great-greatparents), ask this question:

✅ Are you repeating the same story of one or more ancestors?

In a session with a client, her core sentence was “I am not strong enough to be on my own”.

By opening her family field, we were able to identify that she had been carrying the pain of her maternal great-grandmother, who was abandoned by her first husband.

Once identified, we then worked with a series of systemic exercises to return those feelings to her ancestor, allowing her to regain the strength and ability to stand on her own two feet.

She felt a great relief on her shoulders and a whole well-being in her body.

It always amazes me the invisible loyalties that we bring on our DNAs and how a series of simple yet powerful exercises can break those chains and give us the chance to make our own choices. 🤗

✅ If you feel called to work with me and get to the root cause of your challenges, comment ME below, and I will send you some more information.

Much love,
Pat

07/14/2025

💫It's been a rollercoaster of a summer…

From delivering an amazing Family Constellation workshop with incredible women to two wonderful trips to Brazil, to losing my dog.

Not just a dog.

My companion.

My anchor.

My heart.

The grief cracked me open in ways I didn’t expect. 😭

I stepped back from social media.

I stopped trying to “stay visible.”

And I gave myself permission to feel, to grieve, and to listen.

In that silence, something new began to rise. 💗

Not from strategy.

From my Soul.

A sacred space.

A FREE healing community.

Honestly, a space I've been craving for a while now.

A circle for Spiritual Women who are tired of carrying ancestral silence… and are ready to reclaim their voice.

💫If you’ve been feeling the need for community, connection, support, and just a space that you feel safe enough to show up in sweat pants and without your makeup on…

This new community might be for you.

💫 Drop a comment if you're curious, and I’ll keep you in the loop.

07/10/2025

💫 What if the reason you’ve spent your whole life overgiving, overworking, and still feeling unseen… didn’t even start with you?

Sharon came to me recently carrying a deep heaviness.

She shared how no matter how much she gave, how hard she tried to be “good,” she always felt like something was missing - can you relate?

Her words broke my heart:

"I don’t think my mother ever really saw me. Nothing I did was enough.” :-(

And as we gently explored her story, the tears came—along with memories of a childhood spent trying to earn love through perfection, obedience, and keeping the peace.

She realized that somewhere along the way, she had learned:

✨ “I have to work harder to be loved.”

✨ “I have to shrink myself to stay safe.”

Her Mother Wound—the invisible pain of not feeling truly seen, nurtured, or accepted—had followed her into adulthood, her relationships, even her business.

She was stuck in patterns that weren’t even hers to begin with - it started long before she was even born.

Through Family Constellation work, we discovered three generations of women who didn't feel loved, seen and safe by their mothers.

We honored those women's fate, limitations, and we gave that little girl inside her permission to stop striving for what was never hers to fix.

By the end of the session, something shifted.

She felt lighter.

Seen.

Enough—just as she was.

💖 This is the power of Family Constellations:

It reveals the invisible loyalties and wounds we carry so we can finally choose a different path—one of freedom, worth, and authentic joy.

I’m endlessly grateful to witness these transformations every day. 🌸

👉 If this resonates and you’re curious about how this work can support your healing, I’d love to invite you to book a free Discovery Call.

Drop your favorite emoji in the comments below.

You don’t have to carry this alone.

Much love, 😘
Pat

04/02/2025

💫I used to believe that if my parents had been more affectionate, more present, more something, I would have turned out different.

Better.

More confident.

More loved.

I spent years searching for what I didn’t receive—seeking approval in relationships, overworking to prove my worth, feeling like something was missing inside me - can you relate?

And for a long time, I thought healing meant understanding how they "failed" me.

But here’s what I’ve learned:

Healing is not about blaming or fixing the past.

It’s about reclaiming yourself from it.

As long as I held onto resentment for what they couldn’t give, I remained a child waiting for love.

Family Constellations helped me make peace with the way things were, so I could finally move forward.

It helped me understand that my parents were the perfect parents for me and gave the best they could with the knowledge and capabilities they've had.

The day I stopped blaming them was the day I set myself free and able to live from a place of complete self-worth and love, so I can show up in the world feeling ENOUGH.

👉 If you’ve been carrying pain from the past, I invite you to ask yourself:

What part of me is still waiting for my parents to make it right?

I hope this helps you today!

Much love, 😘
Pat

P.S. Curious about how Family Constellations can support your healing journey? Send me a PM.

04/02/2025

💫Your relationship with your mom is the blueprint for all your relationships, especially with your partner’s.

Expecting your partner to give you the love, safety and worth that you didn’t get from your mother is going to destroy your relationship.

The path is to make peace with what your mother was able to give you, being an imperfect woman, full of flaws and wounds, just like you.

Use these systemic sentences and watch your relationship with yourself, her and your loved one begin to heal 🤗

💫Dear Mom, I see now how the love I long for in my relationship reflects the love I needed from you.

I recognize that the way I feel unappreciated and unloved now may be tied to the love I missed from you as a child.

I release you from the expectation of having been able to meet all my emotional needs perfectly, understanding that you may have struggled with your own pain and limitations.

I know you gave what you could, and I honor the life you gave me.

I am choosing to break this cycle by seeing the patterns that have shaped my relationships, and I am ready to heal.

I no longer need to hold onto the hurt or the feelings of being unloved.

I create space for new love and appreciation in my life by forgiving you and releasing the unmet needs.

Thank you for the life you gave me, and I take responsibility for my healing and growth.

I choose to love myself fully and allow that love to flow into my relationship."💫

✅ If your relationship is struggling and you’d like to explore Family Constellations, send me a PM so we can chat.

Much love,😘
Pat

03/13/2025

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