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12/22/2025

12/22/2025

💡 A great reminder for us parents as we head into the week of Christmas! 🎅 This busy Christmas season brings lots of joy, but also lots of disruption to routines. When kids struggle with behavior, it’s often their nervous system saying “this is a lot,” not a child being intentionally defiant. Regulation comes before reasoning, especially during busy and overstimulating weeks. 💡

12/21/2025

When a child is in meltdown, their brain isn’t learning a lesson. It’s calling for safety, connection, and understanding. Empathy doesn’t reinforce behaviour — it supports regulation, which is what actually helps behaviour change over time. This is what brain-based parenting looks like.

12/19/2025

12/19/2025

Complex trauma doesn’t always come from one catastrophic event. Sometimes it comes from a thousand small dismissals, from a lifetime of being told your pain isn’t real, your concerns are exaggerated, your feelings are too much.

When teachers, doctors, pastors, parents, friends, family, and officials all decide independently that you’re overreacting, the message becomes clear: your reality doesn’t matter.

This is how people develop CPTSD without a single dramatic incident to point to. It’s the accumulation of being gaslit by everyone who was supposed to believe you, the slow erosion of trust in your own perceptions, the internalized belief that maybe you really are the problem.

This kind of trauma is harder to explain because there’s no clear villain, just a network of people who all failed you in the same way.

It’s like a thousand paper cuts.

12/19/2025

Self-regulation doesn't come from sticker charts or consequences. It comes from co-regulation, or the attuned, caring relationships we build with children.

We can't expect children to regulate themselves when their brains and bodies are still developing that capacity. They need us to be their calm, their safety, their steady presence through the storm.

Through our tone of voice, our facial expressions, and our gentle presence, we help their nervous systems learn what safety feels like. Over time, this becomes their own ability to self-regulate.

12/14/2025

Always! 🙏💕❤️

The way we respond to our children in their messy moments becomes the way they learn to respond to themselves.

When they spill, stumble, forget, or fall apart, they’re not just learning about consequences — they’re learning about worthiness. About how to treat the parts of themselves that aren’t polished or perfect.

If we meet their mistakes with patience, they learn that mistakes are survivable.
If we offer kindness, they learn that flaws don’t cancel love.
If we stay steady, they learn that being human isn’t something to fear.

One day, when they’re grown and facing their own imperfections, your voice becomes their inner voice. Your reactions become the blueprint they draw from.

So speak with intention.
Hold them with care.

Because the grace you offer them now, is the grace with which they’ll one day hold themselves. ❤️

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12/14/2025

Love should NOT be something that is earned.

12/14/2025

December is National Giving Month, a time to celebrate compassion, generosity, and the simple acts of kindness that strengthen our communities. Dr. Maya Angelou believed deeply in the power of giving — not only materially, but also with love, time, attention, and care.

In her poem “Continue,” she reminds us: “Continue to be who and how you are, To astonish a mean world, With your acts of kindness”

Her words call us to recognize that giving is not limited to grand gestures. It lives in how we show up for others, how we speak life into one another, and how we carry hope into the spaces that need it most.

This month, we honor every person who gives — formally or quietly, publicly or behind the scenes. Your generosity uplifts, restores, and reminds us that we are more alike than unalike.

May we continue to give with open hearts and open hands, just as Dr. Angelou taught.

12/14/2025

Cannot say this louder. For those who have played the role of seer and hearer in my own world - my gratitude is deep.

Many of us grew up feeling misunderstood or too much. So learning to offer genuine attention—steady, open, and grounded—is not small work. It’s generational healing. And every time we practice it, the connection gets a little easier.

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12/13/2025

Sweetest Dreams Bravehearts 🩷