02/14/2026
Dear Doctor Coyote, My teen has been getting more interested in dating. I know this can pose potential problems when dealing with personal relationships. What should I know to help protect my child? Signed, Concerned Parent.
Dear Concerned Parent, this is the month for Valentine’s Day and romance but February is also Teen Dating Violence awareness month. If your children are getting to the age where they are wanting to go out on dates you need to help them be aware of the realities of the potential for problems in these relationships.
Reach out to your youngsters so they know that you love and care for them and want to help identify potentially bad situations. Talk to them about the dangers of drugs and alcohol as it relates to dating. Suggest they use a buddy system or date in a group setting when getting to know someone. Help them to establish personal boundaries and what to do if they are violated.
According to loveIsRespect.org here are some signs to identify the potential for dating violence:
• Checking your phone, email, or social media accounts without permission.
• Putting you down frequently, especially in front of others.
• Isolating you from friends or family (physically, financially, or emotionally).
• Extreme jealousy or insecurity.
• Explosive outbursts, temper, or mood swings.
• Any form of physical harm.
• Possessiveness or controlling behavior.
• Pressuring you or forcing you to have s*x.
The Boys and Girls Club of America reports “today, 1 in 3 high school students experiences some form of dating violence in their relationships. For Native American teens, the rate is even higher.” In one study by the Center for Disease Control, the rate of teen dating violence among high school students in Alaska’s Native communities is 13.3 percent, nearly 4 percent higher than the national average of 9.8 percent.
Having open communications with your teen is the best way to let them know you are there for them. Showing them that women have a traditional role of honor and respect in our societies can give them a sense of self-confidence and increased accountability. Share with them the teen dating violence hotline phone number 1-866-331-9474 or to text loveis to 22522.
Signed, Dr. C, who has a very special love song
For more information and resources on Teen Dating Violence please go to:
VIDEO: Teen Dating Violence Awareness-Signs to Look Out For
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=x2WE2I1nkYA
VIDEO: American Indians and Teen Dating Violence Awareness
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=3OmLA25zxP8
VIDEO: Teen Dating Violence in Native Communities Curriculum
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Du3gOlazvuY
https://www.ncai.org/section/vawa/overview/key-statistics
https://www.thehotline.org/
https://www.nationalsafeplace.org/teen-dating-violence
https://www.loveisrespect.org/