01/11/2026
All day long, humans engage in self-talk, the ongoing chatter in our minds as we go to work, talk to friends, scroll social media, or try something new. For many people, that voice can be pretty harsh. Thoughts like “I’m a failure,” “I’m not good enough,” or “I suck at this, so why even try?” can pop in automatically and fill your internal landscape with self doubt and critique. To make it even tricker, many people believe this kind of self-criticism will motivate them in some way to “do better.” But research doesn’t actually support that. Over time, negative self-talk increases stress, decimates confidence, and shapes behavior negatively. The good news, though, is that you CAN change how you talk to yourself. And yes, it can feel silly to focus on small language shifts, like changing “I should” to “I could” or “I want to,” or moving toward more neutral body talk. But we encourage them because they really make a difference. Building a more supportive inner voice builds the conditions for resilience, growth, and real change. You’re with yourself all day. Learning to be a bit kinder makes a world of difference.
Now, this is easier said than done! We work with so many clients on their self-talk and internalized beliefs. If you’re struggling, reach out. We’re here for you.