Coaching for solutions

10/10/2024

A heartfelt compliment can truly transform a relationship, brightening someone’s day and strengthening the bond between partners. Encouraging clients to take a moment to genuinely acknowledge something they admire about their partner—be it their smile, kindness, or unwavering support—can have a lasting impact.

10/09/2024

Because breathing is the unique autonomic process that we can also take control of at will, slowing it down sends a powerful signal to the rest of the Autonomic Nervous System:
“If I have the time to breathe slowly, I’m probably not actually running for my life. Maybe I am safe, and we can turn things down a little, autonomically speaking.”

To accomplish this, deep and slow exhalations activate sensors in our respiratory system that serve as vagal triggers, causing us to downshift our autonomic state. This message of safety then proceeds to bounce up and down our vagus until it reaches the rest of our body, making breathing an incredibly powerful tool for keeping our entire body calm and cool.
Long exhalations, in particular, are key to this process. The opposite type of breathing, with short exhalations and long inhalations, effectively mimics the act of hyperventilation and can have the opposite effect, revving up our ANS into a state of danger.

So next time you feel anxious or overly activated, do yourself a favor and take that deep breath, hold it for a moment, and then breathe out very slowly...
You are activating your vagus and effectively telling your body that, by virtue of having the time to slow down and take this breath, you are actually safe and not running for your life.
Your body will get the message.

09/17/2024

You try to forget, but the memories are on repeat in your mind. You try to work through it, but it’s still affecting your relationships, work, and self-esteem. You try to move forward, but the anxiety, depression and panic is keeping you from experiencing the life that you want. Fortunately, there is help and hope.

EMDR Therapy can help you heal from trauma, anxiety, and distressing experiences- in a matter of a few sessions, as opposed to months and months of traditional talk therapy.

Tim Ervin is an experienced therapist trained in EMDR and can help you experiences relief from your symptoms in ways that traditional therapy may not.
Visit https://emdrtim.com or call 847-929-9057 to learn more and get started!

04/28/2024

The 4 stages of building a loving relationship that can stand the test of time:

Admiration 😍
Chemistry 🔬
Commitment 🕒
Compatibility 👫

You won’t see perfection as one of the stages to a successful relationship because perfection isn’t real. It’s not relatable, it’s not admirable, and it’s not what bonds us. Striving for perfection and looking for it in others will only imprison us and keep us from being able to experience the magic of what a real relationship can actually be.

03/01/2023

Back to nature. So many memories

02/25/2023

Becoming more confident can be a gradual process, but here are some tips that can help:

Identify your strengths: Make a list of your accomplishments, skills, and positive attributes. Focusing on your strengths can help build your confidence.
Practice self-care: Take care of your physical and emotional well-being by eating healthy, getting enough sleep, exercising regularly, and practicing relaxation techniques like meditation or deep breathing.
Set realistic goals: Break down your goals into achievable steps and celebrate your progress along the way. Achieving goals can help build confidence.
Challenge negative self-talk: Replace negative thoughts with positive affirmations. For example, instead of thinking "I'm not good enough," say to yourself, "I am capable and deserving."
Surround yourself with positivity: Spend time with people who uplift and support you. Avoid people who bring you down or undermine your confidence.
Practice assertiveness: Speak up for yourself and your needs in a clear and respectful way. This can help build your confidence in your abilities and your right to be heard.
Learn new skills: Taking on new challenges and learning new skills can help build confidence by proving to yourself that you are capable of growth and development.

02/19/2023

02/12/2023

The unknown can often hold a sense of mystery and intrigue, and it's true that some of the most amazing and transformative experiences and discoveries happen when we step out of our comfort zones and into the unknown. It's in the unknown where we have the opportunity to learn, grow, and challenge ourselves. However, it's also important to approach the unknown with caution and consideration, especially when it comes to things that may pose a risk to our safety or well-being. The unknown can be both exciting and intimidating, but ultimately, it's up to us to determine how we want to engage with it.

02/11/2023

Intermittent fasting 16/8,
Low Carb,
Bullet Proof Coffee
1st thing in the morning,
Size 42-36 waist,
XXl to XL/L,
Better metabolic
health than 10 years ago,
I enjoy sharing my journey
Please contact me for more.