Supporting and empowering Korean Adoptees and busy professionals through their health transformation Here’s the best advice I ever got…
“The best skill in the world is being able to do what you need to do even when you don’t feel like it.
If you’re waiting to feel like it, you may never feel like it. The more you practice it, you start actually falling in love with it.” -Jay Shetty
10 years ago I was single mom, overweight, unhappy, stuck in survival mode, and doing what I needed to make things work for my daughter and me. I had to get healthy for my daughter because she was the only thing that mattered to me. I knew that in order
Operating as usual
Why I stopped apologizing to everyone…
Years ago, I was sitting at the bar at Cheesecake Factory with my ex (we had been together for a few years and had recently gotten engaged).
We were both happy to be together, unwinding on a Friday night after a tough week.
The bar was buzzing with lots of good vibes and happy chit chatter.
Just after we finished our first round of drinks and our appetizer, he hit me with the most devastating words I could imagine…
“I’m being considered for a job out of state and I may be moving away.”
It was as if someone had just told me my grandmother, favorite Kindergarten teacher, best friend, and my favorite pet had all just died, and then proceeded to punch me in the stomach.
It was in that second, all of my fears - fear of abandonment, fear of rejection, fear of not being good enough, fear of not being worthy - all of them took over and I just crumbled in to a big puddle of tears, grief, anger, resentment, and hurt.
I had to leave the restaurant, and even after I got home, I cried for hours and hours, unable to get control of my emotions.
It wasn’t until after we ended our relationship and I had years of healing and personal development under my belt that I realized why I had reacted the way I did.
I had been living my life as someone else, wearing a mask of someone who I didn’t recognize.
I had been so worried about being “perfect”and living up to everyone else’s expectations.
I had been apologizing my whole life for not being who I thought others wanted me to be.
I had been under the illusion that other people’s opinions of me mattered more than my own.
I was living in fear that if people found out who I really was, they would leave me.
Well, guess what?
I was finally “found out” and THANK GOD I no longer have to wear that mask!
Today, I am free to be whoever I feel like being.
And, I have to say I like it this way. I am just me - imperfect, honest, and free.
No apologies or f**ks given.
So, are you ready to take off your mask?
If you’re considering it, I will say that it’s the BEST feeling in the world!
Let me know if you agree 🥰
We get programmed from an early age to think that something or someone is going to come “save” us or magically change our lives.
You know what’s super awesome?
Someone CAN come along and change your situation and help you achieve your goals.
And that person is YOU!
YOU are the person that has to decide to change.
YOU are the one who has gotten in your own way…until now.
YOU will make it happen, and YOU should be proud of all your positive changes!
I believe in YOU!!!
Does this resonate?
Have an amazing day everyone 🥰💕
A beautiful day begins with a beautiful mindset 🌈☀️💜
I came across this photo taken a year ago and I was reminded of how much my mindset has changed in just a year.
My first thought when I saw the photo was that I looked happy, peaceful, comfortable in my own skin.
I was surrounded by beauty - the warm sun, the river, the trees, the rocks, and even the dirt.
I felt grounded and in my own element. I felt healthy and strong, vibrant, beautiful.
I wondered why I never posted this photo before.
Then, I remembered why.
I had decided not to post it because I didn’t like the way my stomach looked, I felt it was sticking out and I thought it made me look fat.
Despite it being an amazing photo, that one thing - that I had made up in my head - held me back.
I thought that everyone would take one look and judge me.
I felt like I wasn’t good enough.
I was sad because I didn’t love my whole self, I only loved certain parts of myself.
But just as the trees, rocks, and dirt that surrounded me that day are not perfect - they are all flawed in their own unique way.
I still appreciate them BECAUSE of their imperfections.
What a difference a year has made!
Today, I’m reminded of all the work that I’ve put into myself - personal development, mindset coaching, journaling, meditation, breath work and more.
Today, I’m learning to love who I am today, despite all my “flaws” and imperfections that I couldn’t accept when I was younger.
It’s been quite a journey and I’m working on loving my WHOLE self more.
Because I am worth it.
I hope you have a beautiful day ☀️
Let me know if this message resonates with you!
Want to love your body more and gain body confidence?
Here are 3 things to start doing right now!👇👇👇
💪Instead of focusing on your scale weight, set at least 1-3 non-scale related goals.
For ex: get a workout in at least 5 days, learn a new sport or hobby which challenges you, or add a new habit like yoga or tai chi which gets your body moving and flowing.
💪Give yourself credit for doing amazing things with your body! Be grateful you have a body and practice self care as a way of respecting your body.
For ex: go to bed earlier, improve nutrition, positive affirmations, doctor check ups, hydrate, wear sunscreen, go to the beach if you love that, and wear that bikini with no regrets
💪Stop following social media accounts that make you feel crappy about yourself or if you feel the need to compare yourself. Instead, focus more on your own personal development.
For ex: find an awesome podcast to listen to, read a book, get a coach, mentor, or accountability partner to help push you!
Wanna know more about how to love your body?
Join me tomorrow live at 12:00 EST with my Badass Mindset Academy!
Click the link in my bio to join🙌🏽🙌🏽
What’s your why?
There are two types of people in this world. I used to be the first type:
Some people see their environment as a struggle, or something which is getting in their way of becoming who they truly want to be in life.
They blame their health issues, bad genetics, growing up poor, having children and lacking time to work on themselves, not college educated, and stuck with unsatisfying relationships.
Their mindset is fixed and these factors become the reason why they stay the same and never change.
Other people have a growth mindset and view their world as opportunities to learn how to overcome their challenges.
These environmental factors become the reason why they decide to change, and becomes an important part of their transformation journey.
When I had a fixed mindset, I used to blame my environment - people around me, my job, my lack of money, my tired, out of shape body, and my poor mental health for my unhappiness.
As a single mom, I felt responsible for giving my daughter 110% of me, but never gave one thought to what I needed to stay healthy.
I thought my environment was the reason why I couldn’t change.
Today, I have transformed my mindset and health!
I NO LONGER blame my circumstances or other people for holding me back in life.
I was able to take the action needed towards my goals BECAUSE of my circumstances.
I started taking action BECAUSE of my daughter, and I realized that if I didn’t take care of myself, it was a real possibility that I wouldn’t be there for her in the future.
My daughter is my why.
If you are feeling yourself wanting to grow forward and make positive changes in your life, I encourage you to lean into where you feel the most uncomfortable.
Shine that light into the dark places that you have been too afraid to look at and start getting curious about why it makes you feel triggered, judgmental, ashamed, sad, or angry.
You are meant to live your life to your fullest and highest potential and you’ll start transforming your life when you can see yourself as the brightly shining star that you truly are 🤩🤩🤩
What’s your why?
Sending you all love, peace, and happiness 💜
5 reasons why grounding (aka earthing) is amazing for you and how to do it!
1. Grounding benefits your heart health.
2. Grounding helps you sleep better at night as it assists in normalizing stress hormones. It can even reduce hot flashes.
3. It can reduce pain, even DOMS (delayed onset muscle soreness) because mobile electrons from the Earth make contact with your skin and enter your body, acting as natural antioxidants. They protect cells, tissue, and organs from oxidative stress.
4. Grounding improves your mood. Those who practice grounding regularly tend to be centered, balanced, calm, strong and positive.
5. It helps improve blood flow.
Emerging evidence shows that contact with the Earth—whether being outside barefoot or indoors connected to grounded conductive systems—may be a simple, natural, and yet profoundly effective environmental strategy against chronic stress, ANS dysfunction, inflammation, pain, poor sleep, disturbed HRV, hypercoagulable blood, and many common health disorders, including cardiovascular disease.
I like to practice grounding my walking barefoot on grass, soil, or the beach.
I also practice grounding meditation and simple exercises like this:
Working backward from 5, use your senses to list things you notice around you. For example, you might start by listing:
five things you hear
four things you see
three things you can touch from where you’re sitting
two things you can smell
one thing you can taste
Let me know if this is helpful and please share with someone who could benefit from grounding 🥰🤗
The best six doctors anywhere 👇👇👇
Be sure to see these doctors first!
Studies have shown that sedentary jobs and unhealthy lifestyles can lead to obesity, type 2 diabetes, some types of cancer, cardiovascular disease, and even early death.
Please get your health in order so you don’t have to see the other kind of doctor.
Peace, love, and happiness 💜✌️🥰
I’m so honored to be featured on The Asian Hustle Network Stories this week!
Asian Hustle Network is a global online and offline superconnector for diasporic Asians crafting creative and entrepreneurial roads to success.
I can’t tell you how inspiring and motivating it is to have a community of badass Asian entrepreneurs to network and collaborate with.
I couldn’t be more grateful for their support 🙏💜
Go check them out and let me know if you would like to connect and how I can help you with your business🤗
How I transformed my health and saved my life.
The picture on the left was me when I was in my late 30’s.
A single mom, overweight, unhappy, stuck in survival mode, and doing what I needed to make things work for my daughter and me.
I looked ok on the surface but honestly, I was dying on the inside.
I felt anxious, stressed out, sad, lost and scared, while I was trying to survive one failed relationship after another after another.
I was numbing my feelings by over eating, smoking cigarettes, and drinking alcohol almost every day.
I was just praying for someone to come and love me enough to save me. But the harsh reality was this:
No one was coming to save me.
Then, after I turned 37, I was diagnosed with diabetes.
This was the wake up call that I needed to light a fire in me and I knew I had to make changes.
I had to get healthy for my daughter because she was the only thing that mattered to me.
I knew that in order for me to change, I had to start loving myself.
Fast forward to today, I lost 30 lbs, I quit smoking and drinking heavily, and I reversed my diabetes.
Today, I am the healthiest and the happiest I’ve ever been.
So what was the secret to making my transformation? It was 100% mindset.
I had to literally imagine my old self was dying in order for me to allow the change to happen.
I didn’t wait until I reached my goal weight, quit drinking and smoking, or find someone to love me to be happy.
The actions and behaviors I took were as if I was already that person I always wanted to be.
I learned to enjoy my journey and be happy along the way.
I visualized my new self every single day.
I am confident. I am healthy. I am loved. I am happy. I am worthy. I am a f*cking badass!
Thank you for reading this and letting me be completely honest and vulnerable.
I am sharing my story with you because someone out there may resonate with it.
If that’s you, then just remember you can do it because YOU ARE WORTH IT!!
If you are struggling with your mindset, please remember my inbox is always open.
Have a beautiful day, and remember to love yourself 💜💜💜
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