02/06/2023
Love this post by Aviva Romm!
When we hear the word motherhood, many of us automatically envision a place of bliss, unconditional love and bonding with baby, and pure happiness. While this may be the experience for some, these views create a romanticized version of motherhood that often leaves out the other parts that are just as valid in our experience of motherhood.
It's important for us to make room for all of our feelings as mothers- the fear, frustration, anxiety, uncertainty, depression, helplessness, anger, overwhelm - even regret - we can feel periodically.
If you are experiencing any of these, you're not a bad mother and it's not only okay - but it's HEALTHY AND ESSENTIAL to ask for help!
For many new mothers, there are deep valleys and mountains to climb:
🤰🏻1 in 5 pregnant and new mothers experiences a PMAD- Perinatal Mood and Anxiety Disorders (PMADS)
🤰🏻1 in every 10 mothers/birthing people endures postpartum anxiety and 6% experience it while still pregnant
🤰🏻More than 15% experience postpartum depression, perhaps even more given that the diagnosis goes highly unreported
🤰🏻3-5% of mothers/birthing people report feeling as though they cannot escape intrusive, irrational, and upsetting thoughts about something happening to baby
🤰🏻About 1 in every 500 experience postpartum psychosis
Not enough of us are talking about and normalizing this side of motherhood. Sometimes, just voicing what we are experiencing and asking for support can create a huge relief.
Building a safety net and support team with your bestie, midwife, doula, therapist, partner, and other mamas can be a crucial step toward healing. But you may need more than this! If you're currently struggling, there are resources available for you such as the Parental Stress Line (1-800-632-8188), The Blue Dot organization, Motherhood Center in NY, and others.
My guests and I share stories, struggles, and resources in my On Health podcast episode, The Hidden Motherhood Struggle. Please listen in at the link.
If you're a mama who has worked through tough thoughts and emotions, what can you share with new mamas? What stories do you have? They would be so helpful to hear in the comments ❤️.
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