03/17/2026
A Reflection on the Long Road to Intimacy
Lately I’ve been reflecting on the winding path that led me to the work I do today.
For much of my life, a quiet dream lived in my heart: to experience a relationship where two people truly stand together as a team. A partnership where you feel chosen, respected, and supported… where you face life’s challenges side by side and come home each day to someone who feels like your safest place in the world.
But life has a way of testing our deepest dreams.
Many years ago, while living overseas for my husband’s job, my daughter entered a terrifying mental health crisis. Beginning at the age of 10, she struggled with su***de attempts and self-harm and ultimately spent more than two years in residential treatment just to keep her alive.
As devastating as that was, another painful truth was unfolding at the same time. Instead of facing the crisis together, my marriage began to fracture under the strain. I felt increasingly dismissed, invalidated, and painfully alone at the very moment when partnership mattered most.
That period broke me open.
What began as a desperate search for answers became a decade-long journey into personal growth, healing, and relational transformation. I explored many different paths and teachings, trying to understand not only how relationships break down, but what truly allows them to thrive.
One realization eventually changed everything for me:
Real intimacy doesn’t grow from trying to perfect ourselves.�It grows from learning to accept ourselves.
When we reconnect with our own worth and aliveness, something shifts. The way we show up in relationships changes. The way we love changes. And the kind of partnership we are able to create changes too.
Today I’m grateful to share my life with my partner Tim in a relationship that is deeply loving, passionate, and rooted in mutual growth — the kind of partnership I once hoped was possible but didn’t yet know how to create.
We just celebrated out 4th anniversary of our first date and we are building a beautiful life together in Southern Oregon, and our connection continues to deepen in both love and intimacy as we face life's challenges together.
The long journey that brought me here also led me to the work I do today: helping individuals and couples release the patterns that keep them stuck so they can create deeper intimacy, authentic connection, and relationships where passion continues to grow rather than fade.
Life rarely unfolds the way we imagine.
But sometimes the moments that break us open become the doorway to a more authentic life than we ever dreamed possible.
If this reflection resonates with you or touches something in your own journey, I’d love to hear what part of it spoke to you. 💛
