Shelly Boismenu, MA Transpersonal Psychology

02/24/2024

I was excited to speak with Brook Olson on his podcast about high conflict custody. Applying the principles I teach to high conflict custody experiences and seeing everything transform is the joy of my professional life. Please enjoy this meaningful conversation:

In this episode Brook has guest Shelly Boismenu MFT as his guest. Brook and Shelly discuss how the period of time during high conflict divorce and custody struggles, is one of the most fertile times for transformation and new ways of thinking. Looking toward what you want to create rather than the p...

09/26/2022

Taste and See.

Psalm 34:8 tells us to "Taste and See that the Lord (The Law) is good. They who trust in it are blessed."

What does it mean to taste and see?

It means that we are sometimes called upon to begin a new way of thinking, perceiving or acting BEFORE we experience the evidence of our new choice.

Often, our old programming feels natural and, if not good, then definitely right. We may know in our mind that we want something different for ourselves, but feel incapable of behaving or thinking or feeling in a new way to achieve a new outcome.

This is what it means to first taste and then see.

It requires faith to live this way.

Faith in the Law of Assumption. Faith in the power of your subconscious mind. Faith in the presence of the Fourth Dimension - the knowledge that God resides in you, as you.

This faith, we are told, is how we experience our blessed nature. Our reward.

09/24/2022

The space between stimuli and response is where all power lies.

This is for two reasons.

First, How you respond to everything, even things that trigger reactivity in you, is the only control you have over who you are. And shifting your responses to your experience so that you are responding as the version of you that you want to be changes YOU into that person.

Second, once YOU change. Once YOU are a different you, the physical world must reflect that change. And, will not reflect old versions of you, but this new you.

One example of this is women who often ask me how to stop getting involved with the same kinds of people they view as toxic.

This is how.

First, you change your response to them.

And, then the physical world stops sending them.

That simple?

Yes. And, no.

You, too, must examine yourself for your own toxic thoughts.

It is toxic to crave dependency.
It is toxic to want to be financially kept.
It is toxic to want s*x and intimacy with someone who hurts you.
It is toxic to move too fast in relationships with strangers.
It is toxic to say "yes" when you feel "no."

These principles are the secret to creating the life you dream of.

08/19/2022

Suspending meaning making is a helpful practice.

“This doesn’t mean what I think.”
“This doesn’t mean anything at all.”

When you say these things to yourself in times when you might typically have a negative impression, you change the way things unfold.

There is no better way to work on shifting your old programming - your familiar fears and perceptions - than to suspend the meaning making process until a new thought emerges.

Each time you do this, you shift again and again, allowing new expressions in your physical reality.

08/07/2022

The inner journey is expressed as the outer reality.

Inner first.
Then, outer.

If your inner journey is dominantly negative, pessimistic, lacking gratitude, unlovely in any way... it will be expressed in your outer world.

Not. As. Punishment.

This is key.

Not to teach you a lesson (although you may learn something).

It's just the law.

When you drop something, it breaks.

Not to punish you.

Not to teach you (although you may learn something).

But, because gravity is a law of the universe.

This is the way with the Law of Assumption.

But, do not shift your outer behavior to get more of what you want. It won't work.

Often, good people are good because they believe they are not good and they must behave "good."

The assumption is what creates. So, no matter how good they behave, the assumption (I am not good), that is driving the good behavior, is what will express itself.

So, do not work on being good.

Work on feeling good. Work on imagining good. Work on believing good. Arrange things in your life to allow for this inner journey to increase.

Then, you will experience an outer journey filled with all your desires.

It is law.

07/30/2022

“Oh taste and see that the Lord is good: blessed is the man that trusteth in him.” Psalm 34:8.

The meaning of “Lord” is “a ruler by hereditary right or preeminence to whom service and obedience are due.” This is why we translate “Lord” to “The Law.” The Law of Assumption says that what you assume, you empower. In other words, your Assumption, your sub-conscious mind is your Lord.

As this scripture tells us, when we live by faith in the Law, we see how good it is when we taste its fruits (creations).

Women who work with me know that I say this a lot, but all it takes is just once ignoring a negative circumstance long enough to experience an incredible desired outcome…

And with that little bit of evidence in the power of the Law, you will be hooked!

Taste. (Try it) and See.

07/22/2022

A recent experience reminds me that nothing needs to be done beyond following desire and listening to inner urgings while living a loving life.

A need to meet a certain high profile person came to me as a desire one day.

I followed a series of inner urgings/breadcrumbs (in this case, laying on the couch and watching tv). Yes, laying on the couch and watching tv can be used to further your desire.

As I watched this particular program, I was lead to look something up on the internet.

When I did, I was stunned!

The high profile person I felt the need to meet, who lived very far away and was not easily contacted, was going to be in my close proximity within ten days and was holding a small event which the public can attend.

BOOM!

Within ten days of my desire to meet with someone I could easily have believed was unattainable, I was driving barely an hour to do just that.

Don't tell me something is impossible.

"With man this is impossible, but with God (I AM) all things are possible." Matt 19:26

07/22/2022

I get asked a lot about destiny. Does it exist? Are things "meant to be?"

What I say is this...

If there is a destiny, a meant to be-ness of your life,

You will only arrive there through being ever more you.

Desires and intuition that flow from the pure, true you are the stepping stones to any destiny your soul has.

Follow them.

God resides in you as you and wants everything for you that you want for yourself, but also much, much more.

This is how the Law becomes the Promise.

This is how you go from simply getting what you want to being deeply, fully consciously who you are meant to be.

"So do not fear, I AM with you." Isaiah 41:10

07/10/2022

The Law of Assumption is a universal truth and once you learn of it, you see it everywhere. Recently, a commercial played the old song, "Don't Worry, Be Happy." As I sang the words in my head... "In this life there may be trouble, but when you worry, you make it double..." I heard The Law.

What we assume, we create.

Worry is an assumption. An assumption that something is to be feared.

And, it's not that we double the trouble, it's that we activate the circumstance in a particular direction by giving it the meaning "this is something bad, something to worry about."

Life becomes exactly what you assume.

Neville instructs us to see everything as beneficial, as part of our bridge intended, not to harm us or punish us, but to purify us on our journey to our wish fulfilled.

I had a recent wonderful experience, as I typically do when I suspend meaning making related to a circumstance I do not prefer.

I had a sudden debt applied to me. The reason I incurred the debt was something very essential and ultimately, positive, and so I assumed that the debt would not be a problem. In other words, I assumed the debt was nothing to worry about and I focused on how much I benefited from the situation that created it.

I made several financial adjustments so I could make payments towards the debt and I did so happily and with peace.

In other words, I had no "worry" about my "trouble."

Within less than two months of payments, I received a written communication that the business to whom I owed the debt had chosen to forgive 80% of it despite my never requesting this or doing anything to bring it about.

Each situation in your life is offering you the opportunity to see The Law's truth and power and live more freely and more happily. It just takes the faith to try and assume the best.

07/08/2022

Jean-Jacques Rousseau was a philosopher who inspired the Enlightenment - a time of great individual awareness.

He famously said, "Man is born free, but is everywhere in chains."

The truth is that man is born to be free and our chains, whatever ways we experience them, are only a reflection of our limiting inner thoughts.

The inner state of consciousness determines where we find chains in the physical reality.

If you are experiencing, as Rousseau says, "chains everywhere" you can reflect on which thoughts of yours, which perspectives, which beliefs may be creating them.

You are the primary cause of your chains and your freedom.

Circumstances don't matter and can't impede your freedom. Only your thoughts about yourself and the world can do that.

07/05/2022

To live by faith and not by sight means that when your current reality seems to oppose the fulfillment of your desires, you deny it and see only the inward vision for yourself.

Learning not to assume anything about what's to come based on what is is how you become a creator. To "be still and know" in times of great consternation, disappointment and uncertainty is the great lesson.

These times of remaining unmoved when it feels as if all hope is lost, staying with what is revealing itself to you (or often, what is not), being in the in between, on "the bridge", as Neville says... This is living by faith.

The bridge can feel like loneliness, boredom, dissatisfaction, frustration, a feeling of your life being too small for what you want to become...

Stay still.

Be faithful to your desire for more... happiness, love, peace, well-being, freedom.

It is all only a persistent belief away.

07/04/2022

What does it mean to "live by faith and not by sight?"

It means we must not assume that what we see today means anything about tomorrow.

To live by sight means to look around and accept that what the five sensory world is showing you has no bearing on your desires.

The world you currently see is only a reflection of what you have been thinking and believing. It is not a fixed reality.

To live by faith means to KNOW that your desires are fulfilling themselves, that current reality cannot influence, effect or impede the fulfillment.

In practical terms, your current low bank account balance has absolutely nothing to do with your desire to be wealthy.

The only thing that currently impacts your desire to be wealthy is your belief that your current low bank account balance has anything to do with your desire.

It's all about what you believe (FAITH) and not about what you see.

Look away from reality and go inward to the vision of the life you want for yourself.

In this way, you will experience it.