CB Connect Therapy

12/09/2025

I don’t tend to follow reel trends, but this one captured something I see so often in the therapy room.
Many of us learned early on that love required perfection, effort, or self-erasure.
The truth is — your humanity never disqualified you from love.
It’s safe to show up whole now.

12/08/2025

I used to think self-care lived in rituals and routines.
Turns out, the deepest version is way simpler.

Life has felt heavy in a lot of ways lately, both in my own world and in the world around me. And instead of seeing self-care as something extra that no one really has time for, I’m realizing it’s more essential than ever.

It’s presence.
It’s honesty.
It’s asking, “What can I do for me right now?”
And then meeting myself there with care.

A reminder to anyone who needs it today.

12/02/2025

What a gift it is to create spaces that feel like this.

11/25/2025

Sometimes in couples work we uncover that blame isn’t coming from a mean or critical place.
It’s coming from exhaustion.
Fear.
Past stories.
A younger part trying to be heard.

Blame can be a protector for the parts of you that feel alone, overwhelmed, or afraid of being disappointed again.

When we slow it down, the “bad guy narrative” often softens and something much more tender emerges.
A longing.
A fear.
A need.
Something human.

If you see yourself in any of these slides, you’re not alone.

And this is exactly the work we do in EFT.
Helping couples understand their patterns instead of getting trapped inside them.

Reach out if you’d like to learn more 🤍

11/24/2025

What if witnessing was enough.
What if it always has been.

I took this clip last week.
Nothing dramatic, just sky and sunlight.
And it made me think about how often we rush to fix ourselves and the people we love.
But sometimes the real shift happens when we pause long enough to simply see what is there without rescuing or managing.

A thought going into the week ahead:
What would change if you let yourself and the people in your life be witnessed instead of fixed?

11/23/2025

Some of us learned to survive by becoming the one who understands.
The steady one.
The caretaker.
The partner who can read every shift in someone else’s emotional weather.

It looks like empathy.
It feels like love.
But sometimes, it’s a way of staying far from your own hurt.

Focusing on their pain becomes a shield.
A distraction.
A well-intentioned escape hatch from the feelings you were never taught how to hold.

But here’s the truth that eventually finds all of us:
You can’t keep disappearing into someone else’s wounds and expect to heal your own.

Your feelings matter.
Your needs matter.
Your pain matters.

Turning inward isn’t selfish.
It’s the moment your real healing begins.

11/17/2025

Feeling so grateful this morning — for the spark I followed, for the space I created, and for the women who showed up with openness and heart. ✨
Trusting these little whispers really does lead to something beautiful.

11/16/2025

For years@I thought calm meant I was doing it right.
That stillness was strength.
That swallowing the words, biting my tongue, and staying composed was maturity.

But calm can become its own kind of armor.

The kind that hides the parts of us still aching to be heard, the parts that call out when something feels unfair, when a boundary has been crossed, when we have carried too much for too long.

I’m learning that anger isn’t the enemy.
She’s the truth-teller.
The one who says, “Something here isn’t working.”

And when I finally stop silencing her, she softens.
She becomes clarity.
She becomes boundary.
She becomes voice.

🌿 If this resonates, if calm has become your disguise too, I’d love to explore this with you.

The current Dance of Anger book circle is full,
but you can message me to get on the interest list for the next round or to explore this work one-on-one in therapy.

11/06/2025

11/03/2025

Being spontaneous… in the best way possible.

I get sparks of ideas all the time — little creative threads that light up inside me — and then I overthink them.
I wait for the perfect timing, the perfect wording, the perfect plan.
And before I know it, that spark joins all the others sitting quietly on the shelf.

But today, I’m doing something different.

I recently heard about The Dance of Anger by Harriet Lerner, and something in me lit up.
I feel called to explore it — and what better way than with other women who are also curious about anger, boundaries, and how we show up in our relationships?

So… here’s the flyer. Here’s the link in my bio.

If you, too, want to explore anger, voice, and changing the patterns of your relationships, I’d love to have you join me for this 3-session virtual book circle.

🌿 Free or donation-based
💻 Virtual on Zoom
👥 Small group (6–10 participants)
📖 Inspired by The Dance of Anger by Harriet Lerner

Here’s to following the spark — and seeing where it leads. ✨

10/31/2025

It doesn’t always look like fear.
Sometimes it looks like silence.
Like pulling away.
Like not having the words yet.

Avoidant patterns are often misread as indifference—
but they’re usually about overwhelm, shame, and longing.
This reel is for the quiet ones.
And the ones who’ve been waiting outside the quiet.

10/27/2025

Lately, a quiet grief has been visiting.
Not a tidal wave. Just a soft knock.

I’ve been avoiding it.
Getting busy.
Distracting myself.

And today, in my one free hour…
I made this post instead of sitting with it.

No shame. Maybe a little disappointment.
But also, maybe this is a kind of sitting too.
Maybe tomorrow I’ll open the door a little more.

If you feel it too,
that whisper of sadness or ache you’re not quite ready to name,
I want you to know:

You’re not doing it wrong.
You’re not weak.
You’re not alone.

Sometimes grief just wants to sit beside us.
Therapy can be a place to let it.

💻 Free consult link in bio.