New Living Counseling

04/24/2026

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03/30/2026

03/30/2026

Last week I received notice from the EMDR International Association (EMDRIA) that, subsequent to application approval, I am now an EMDRIA Approved Consultant. What this means, among others, is that I am now able to furnish consultation of consultation to EMDR Approved Consultants in Training (a.k.a. CIT), all twenty (20) EMDR therapy consultation hours required for EMDRIA certification, and a letter of recommendation for the certification on behalf of those clinicians who undergo consultation with me.

As before, I continue to specialize in helping EMDR therapists navigate stuck processing, PTSD, complex trauma, dissociative disorders, mood/anxiety disorders, addictions, and readiness concerns using a grounded, practical Adaptive Information Processing (AIP)-informed approach as well as an integrative EMDR therapy approach.

My consultation style is friendly, collaborative, practical, and non-shaming. I help EMDR therapists slow down, strengthen their conceptualization, and use EMDR with clarity rather than fear or anxiety. I believe that consultation should increase your confidence—not your anxiety and/or shame.

Individual and group consultation options are available now; For more information or to book a consultation appointment, you may contact me privately via this facebook messenger and/or:
Email: hector@newlivingcounseling.com
Voice/Text: 470-239-0686

An EMDRIA Approved Consultant™ has conducted at least 300 EMDR therapy sessions with at least 75 different clients and has provided feedback and guidance to other EMDR trained clinicians regarding their use of EMDR therapy with clients. To achieve this credential, the consultant has met standards ...

03/25/2026

Emotions (emotions are not behavior) are not "bad;" Judging emotions with such a label is seldom ever helpful as doing so, for instance, may contribute to emotion avoidance/suppression (risk factors for experiencing illness) or may intensify uncomfortable emotions and/or contribute to emotion dysregulation. Emotions serve survival purposes; Nature, by design, put them in us for valid reasons.
Self-regulation is not being calm 24/7 (a humanly unattainable goal while in a conscious state): Exceptions aside, it is about staying within a window of tolerance where one is able to both think and feel.
May you effective co-regulate and self-regulate emotions, even the uncomfortable ones.
May you experience your emotions with mindfulness.
Namaste ❤️🙌🙏

03/24/2026

If you've spent time in anxious or unstable relationships, secure love can feel almost disorienting at first. The calm doesn't register as love because you're not used to it.

Secure love feels like being able to disagree without fearing the relationship will end. Knowing that mistakes don't threaten the entire foundation. Feeling safe being your actual self instead of a more palatable version. Not constantly scanning for signs that something's wrong. Not performing to keep their affection.

It feels like home. Not like a test you're always one wrong answer away from failing.
If that sounds unfamiliar, it might be worth asking what you've been calling love up until now.

03/19/2026

EMDR International Association

03/16/2026

People who endured a lot in childhood often develop powerful psychological traits that shape their behavior, emotions, and relationships in adulthood. In thi...

03/15/2026

“A lot of people evaluate trust based on how someone makes them feel rather than what they consistently do. But feelings can be created by chemistry, charisma, or familiarity. Patterns are much harder to fake. These four pillars give you something concrete to actually look at.”
By LoveSecurely

Transparency may be equated with honesty; I don’t know about you—but I simply can’t trust people who lie on a regular basis as if the truth didn’t matter: It absolutely does otherwise trust goes out the window🪟along with other things. Human life necessitates trustworthiness—not plentiful lies masqueraded 🥸 as truth. Quite frequently, communicating honestly requires a great deal of inner courage.

Trust isn't a feeling you either have or don't. It's something you can actually evaluate by looking at four specific things.

Consistency asks whether their words match their actions over time, not just when it's easy. Transparency asks whether you know who they actually are, or just who they perform to be. Accountability asks whether they own mistakes and actually change behavior, or just apologize repeatedly until you drop it. Reliability asks whether you can count on them during hard times, not just the convenient ones.

These four things together are what trust is built from. You can assess each one independently. And you can notice early when one of them is missing.