02/13/2026
Second in Command, First in Impact.
Story time.
There was a season when I wasn’t the one in control…
but I was carrying the vision.
The weight.
The emotional temperature of the room.
Two leaders.
One structure.
Different levels of authority.
And that space — that in-between space — became an Identity Transition for me.
Because when you are second in command, you’re constantly negotiating:
Who am I if I don’t have final authority?
Who am I when I see clearly but cannot override?
Who am I when my impact is real… but my control is limited?
That role will expose every crack in your identity.
It forces you to confront:
• Your attachment to recognition
• Your relationship with power
• Your tolerance for misalignment
• Your capacity to lead without possession
I realized something powerful:
Sometimes being second in command isn’t about staying.
It’s about becoming.
It’s about deciding whether your influence is meant to be exercised under someone else’s authority…
or whether it’s time to step fully into your own.
That season wasn’t about politics.
It was about Identity Transition.
And once your identity shifts, you can’t unknow what you now know about yourself.
Have you ever been in a role where you were leading… but not leading?
That space will either shrink you…
or prepare you.
