06/08/2025
𝗔 𝗿𝗲𝗰𝗲𝗻𝘁 𝗗𝗠 𝗜’𝗱 𝗹𝗶𝗸𝗲 𝘁𝗼 𝗦𝗵𝗮𝗿𝗲
Thank you for all the love on my recent post!
I appreciate every kind word, likes, and shares—it means so much.
Today, I want to take a moment to address a message I received yesterday from a young man who reached out to me privately, and with his permission I’m sharing this conversation, So let me say this with compassion and with a little chuckle I share not sure if his question is BS or a real concern for him but I thought I'd share anyway.
Because I believe a lot of younger professional men are thinking the same thing but aren’t sure how to ask. I have seen this in my practice where folks will not even say they have to go to the bathroom and just be uncomfortable. Stop it’s normal. Really.
𝗛𝗲𝗿𝗲’𝘀 𝘄𝗵𝗮𝘁 𝗵𝗲 𝘄𝗿𝗼𝘁𝗲:
“H𝘦𝘭𝘭𝘰 𝘔𝘴. 𝘓𝘦𝘴𝘭𝘪𝘦, 𝘐 𝘭𝘪𝘬𝘦 𝘺𝘰𝘶𝘳 𝘱𝘪𝘤𝘵𝘶𝘳𝘦—v𝘦𝘳𝘺 𝘯𝘪𝘤𝘦 𝘴𝘮𝘪𝘭𝘦. 𝘐 𝘩𝘢𝘷𝘦 𝘢 𝘲𝘶𝘦𝘴𝘵𝘪𝘰𝘯 𝘵𝘩𝘰𝘶𝘨𝘩. 𝘐’𝘷𝘦 𝘢𝘭𝘸𝘢𝘺𝘴 𝘸𝘢𝘯𝘵𝘦𝘥 𝘵𝘰 𝘨𝘦𝘵 𝘢 𝘮𝘢𝘴𝘴𝘢𝘨𝘦, 𝘣𝘶𝘵 𝘐’𝘮 𝘢𝘧𝘳𝘢𝘪𝘥 𝘐 𝘮𝘪𝘨𝘩𝘵 𝘨𝘦𝘵 “F𝘶𝘭𝘭” ( 𝘺𝘰𝘶 𝘬𝘯𝘰𝘸 𝘸𝘩𝘢𝘵 𝘐 𝘮𝘦𝘢𝘯) 𝘰𝘯 𝘵𝘩𝘦 𝘵𝘢𝘣𝘭𝘦 𝘢𝘯𝘥 𝘧𝘦𝘦𝘭 𝘦𝘮𝘣𝘢𝘳𝘳𝘢𝘴𝘴𝘦𝘥. 𝘐 𝘥𝘰𝘯’𝘵 𝘸𝘢𝘯𝘵 𝘵𝘩𝘦 𝘵𝘩𝘦𝘳𝘢𝘱𝘪𝘴𝘵 𝘵𝘰 𝘵𝘩𝘪𝘯𝘬 𝘐’𝘮 𝘢 𝘱𝘦𝘳𝘷𝘦𝘳𝘵 𝘰𝘳 𝘴𝘰𝘮𝘦𝘵𝘩𝘪𝘯𝘨. 𝘞𝘩𝘢𝘵 𝘤𝘢𝘯 𝘐 𝘥𝘰 𝘵𝘰 𝘱𝘳𝘦𝘷𝘦𝘯𝘵 𝘵𝘩𝘢𝘵? 𝘐 𝘳𝘦𝘢𝘭𝘭𝘺, 𝘳𝘦𝘢𝘭𝘭𝘺 𝘸𝘢𝘯𝘵 𝘵𝘰 𝘴𝘵𝘢𝘳𝘵 𝘨𝘦𝘵𝘵𝘪𝘯𝘨 𝘮𝘢𝘴𝘴𝘢𝘨𝘦𝘴. 𝘊𝘢𝘯 𝘺𝘰𝘶 𝘩𝘦𝘭𝘱?”
I can’t speak for every therapist out there, but I can tell you how I operate and how I trained others in my practice.
Massage therapy is one of the only professions where you walk in, check in at a front desk, and within minutes, you’re in a softly lit room filled with calming aromas. You're asked to undress (to your level of comfort), lay on a warm, cushioned table, and cover yourself with a sheet. Then, a trained professional enters that room, exposes one section of your body at a time, and gently applies warm oil to your skin.
That’s a deeply human experience.
Touch is powerful. Touch is intimate. And for the male body—just like any body—touch can trigger a physical response like becoming “Full” (again you know what I mean). It doesn’t mean you're doing something wrong. It doesn't mean you're thinking inappropriate thoughts. It means you're human.
When I speak with clients—especially men—I explain this upfront during the consultation.
𝗜 𝘀𝗮𝘆:
“M𝘢𝘴𝘴𝘢𝘨𝘦 𝘪𝘴 𝘯𝘰 𝘳𝘦𝘴𝘱𝘦𝘤𝘵𝘦𝘳 𝘰𝘧 𝘨𝘦𝘯𝘥𝘦𝘳. 𝘠𝘰𝘶𝘳 𝘣𝘰𝘥𝘺 𝘮𝘢𝘺 𝘳𝘦𝘴𝘱𝘰𝘯𝘥. 𝘛𝘩𝘢𝘵’𝘴 𝘯𝘰𝘵 𝘵𝘩𝘦 𝘪𝘴𝘴𝘶𝘦. 𝘈𝘴 𝘭𝘰𝘯𝘨 𝘢𝘴 𝘺𝘰𝘶 𝘳𝘦𝘮𝘢𝘪𝘯 𝘴𝘵𝘪𝘭𝘭, 𝘳𝘦𝘴𝘱𝘦𝘤𝘵𝘧𝘶𝘭, 𝘢𝘯𝘥 𝘵𝘩𝘦 𝘦𝘯𝘷𝘪𝘳𝘰𝘯𝘮𝘦𝘯𝘵 𝘴𝘵𝘢𝘺𝘴 𝘱𝘳𝘰𝘧𝘦𝘴𝘴𝘪𝘰𝘯𝘢𝘭, 𝘺𝘰𝘶 𝘩𝘢𝘷𝘦 𝘯𝘰𝘵𝘩𝘪𝘯𝘨 𝘵𝘰 𝘣𝘦 𝘢𝘴𝘩𝘢𝘮𝘦𝘥 𝘰𝘧. 𝘛𝘩𝘦 𝘣𝘰𝘥𝘺 𝘸𝘪𝘭𝘭 𝘴𝘦𝘵𝘵𝘭𝘦.”
I always encourage male clients to lean into the experience. Let go. Breathe. This space is for you. If you get "full" it happens, that’s between you and God. My only concern is maintaining a space that is positive, appropriate, and professional. If that boundary is ever crossed, the service ends immediately, and that’s a different conversation.
But in the absence of disrespect, your physical response is just that—a response. It’s not perversion. It’s not shameful. And it’s more common than you think.
So, to the men reading this who’ve been curious about massage but too nervous to try it—you deserve wellness too. Your body, mind, and nervous system carry so much. And while conversation with the Guy's at the sports bar is great, regular spa therapy is a way to balance the social activities. It has lasting benefits to the body. It’s the opposite of a hangover—it’s a healing reset.
You don’t need to wait until you’re burnt out to take care of yourself. Massage isn't just for sore muscles. It’s for your peace. It’s for your clarity. It’s a vibe to rest, restore, meditate, manifest, or just be quiet.
𝗛𝗼𝗽𝗲 𝘁𝗵𝗶𝘀 𝘄𝗮𝘀 𝗶𝗻𝘁𝗲𝗿𝗲𝘀𝘁𝗶𝗻𝗴, 𝗽𝗹𝗲𝗮𝘀𝗲 𝘀𝗵𝗮𝗿𝗲 𝗮 𝗰𝗼𝗺𝗺𝗲𝗻𝘁 𝗮𝗻𝗱 𝗮 𝗹𝗶𝗸𝗲 𝘁𝗼 𝗹𝗲𝘁 𝗺𝗲 𝗸𝗻𝗼𝘄 𝗶𝗳 𝘁𝗵𝗲 𝗰𝗼𝗻𝘁𝗲𝗻𝘁 𝗶𝘀 𝗶𝗻𝗳𝗼𝗿𝗺𝗮𝘁𝗶𝘃𝗲,
𝗣𝗼𝘄𝗲𝗿 𝗱𝗼𝘄𝗻. 𝗣𝗼𝘄𝗲𝗿 𝘂𝗽. Own the moment.
You deserve to feel good—on purpose.
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