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Oakland Hills Counseling, LLC is a counseling practice based in Auburn, Michigan.

Oakland Hills Counseling, LLC is a professional counseling practice based in Auburn Hills, Michigan. We provide child, adolescent, and adult counseling services, as well as a broad range of relationship and mental health related seminars. Our company is committed to helping individuals, couples, and families to find practical solutions to the problems and challenges they face.

04/14/2026

How safe are your children when they use phones or screens online or scrolling social media?

Join Erin Bankowski, MA, LLPC, one of our staff therapists who specializes in working with children, adolescents and families as she shares her personal and clinical experience in helping keep kids safe. She’ll share research and practical strategies and tools to keep up with this ever-changing and sometimes dangerous “portal” to the online world.

04/08/2026

What are you up to this Monday night? Come join us for the second session in our three-part series on building healthy marriage relationships! We’ll be exploring how the conflict cycles we default to can actually be leveraged to increase our connection with each other. Come with your spouse, or come on your own! We’re counting down the days, and seats are limited. See link in bio to register!

04/03/2026

In closing out our series of posts on Emotional Gridlock, let’s consider some practical application steps!

In order to break out of negative reciprocity in our emotional responses, we need to slow down when we find ourselves caught in conflict. Identify your repeated reaction patterns, and instead of blaming your partner, be the first one to name your own impact. Consider your partner’s emotional needs, and be brave enough to ask about their underlying fears. Finally, step in to offer repair attempts early and often!

Remember, the way to break out of gridlock requires a discipline of humility and courageous responsibility in addition to the commitment to ongoing repair! No relationship is perfect, but the best ones are those that are committed to the ongoing work of connection amongst the conflict!

03/27/2026

When conflict erupts, if your FIRST MOVE is humility & a willingness to take personal ownership of your responses, you’ll reinforce positive emotional reciprocity! But what does this look like in real time?

Instead of focusing on at your significant other is doing, start by looking at yourself. Reactive self-protection or blame-shifting don’t work. What works, even though it’s harder, is a humble choice that starts with our commitment to acknowledging what is true. Speaking the truth will help to rebuild emotional safety, which will increase trust. The more trust you’ve established, the stronger base you’ll have for secure attachment!

See link bio for more information on how to get out of “emotional gridlock.”

03/26/2026

What are you up to this Monday night? Come join us for the first group in our three-part series on building healthy marriage relationships! We’ll be exploring how strong communication skills are the foundation for reinforcing emotional connection. Come with your spouse, or come on your own! We’re counting down the days, and seats are limited. See link in bio to register! 📋

03/20/2026

One of the bravest questions you can ask yourself is “What am I like when I DON’T get what I want? It takes courage to reflect on our own reactions, especially if we’re not proud of them.

But have you considered that being honest about your default reactions may be the key to breaking out of the emotional gridlock you face in your relationships?

Having the courage to be honest about our weaknesses requires humility, humility requires courage, and courage requires maturity. But in the end, happy couples are the ones who are willing to empathize with their spouse’s perspective, take personal responsibility for their part, and are willing to forgive. Instead of falling into the two extremes of blame-shifting or resentful acquiescence, growing emotionally and spiritually means being willing to risk honest self-assessment and then lean back into relational connection.

Would you like to read more about the power of humility and truth-telling in untangling emotional conflict? See link in bio for the full article on emotional gridlock!

03/18/2026

When you experience conflict in your relationship, your initial response or FIRST MOVE will fuel either a positive or negative cycle. If you quickly move into self-protection and blaming, then the conflict will spiral into disconnection and broken trust.

But if your FIRST MOVE is one of humility and taking ownership, then you’ll lean into emotional connection and strengthen your sense of safety & trust with each other! The safer you feel, the more likely you will be willing to respond with humility the next time conflict comes around! To escape emotional gridlock, make the FIRST MOVE of humility!

See link in bio for more insights on Emotional Gridlock!

03/13/2026

When you hit a point of tension or conflict with your significant other, your FIRST MOVE often directs how the rest of the conflict goes down. In the moment, we’re either reinforcing a cycle of NEGATIVE or POSITIVE emotional reciprocity. If your FIRST MOVE is one of Self-Protection or Blaming, you’re only going to push yourself and the relationship towards disconnection and broken trust. Instead, we need to employ a different FIRST MOVE.

Can anyone guess what that better FIRST MOVE is? Hint: it’s revealed in our most recent article & in our March Newsletter! See links in bio, and stay tuned for the secret to engaging in positive emotional reciprocity!

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03/11/2026

Do you find yourself getting stuck in the same kinds of arguments with your spouse? Did you know that these cycles can be self-perpetuating based on your emotional responses? Emotional Gridlock is a common experience, but there are ways to REPLACE the negative cycles with positive ones!

Do you want to learn more about emotional reciprocity? Subscribe and follow for more posts on breaking negative conflict cycles! Also, for more depth on this topic, check out the links in our bio for the full article and to subscribe to our monthly newsletter!

03/10/2026

Have you heard the news? We’re so excited to announce that our monthly newsletter is up and running! If you are the kind of person who likes FREE resources on relationships, mental health, and wellness, then jump on our subscription list! Our March newsletter releases THIS WEEK, and we’d love to share some research, encouragement, and other resources with you. The subscription link is in our bio, we can’t wait to share with you!

03/02/2026

02/27/2026

❄️ Who else is ready for a little more sunlight in their lives?

Vitamin D is an essential part our vitamin & mineral load, and without the sunlight, it can be difficult to absorb the necessary amount. If you’re feeling abnormally sluggish, consider talking to your doctor about the options available to you! And in the meantime, be sure to soak up as much “window time” as you can!

What are some ways that you like to log some sunlight time during the winter? ❄️

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3250 University Drive, Suite 115
Auburn Hills, MI
48326

Opening Hours

Monday	9am - 8pm
Tuesday	9am - 8pm
Wednesday	9am - 8pm
Thursday	9am - 8pm
Friday	9am - 5pm

Telephone

+12488442647

Website

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