08/15/2025
I have seen this again and again. Someone books Reiki or sound healing. They cancel. They decline a distance session. They tell me they are too sick, too tired, too anxious, too stressed. I hear the words, and I hear the story underneath. Sometimes people are invested in their illness. Sometimes they do not feel worthy of being free. Sometimes there is a payout for staying unwell. Attention. Sympathy. A check that clears. A role that makes sense. Healing threatens all of that. So the no makes sense too.
Here is the part that stings. The people closest to you, the ones who knew you before you practiced Reiki, are often the last to see your gift. They remember who you were at sixteen. They remember you crying in your car. They remember every version of you that stayed small to keep the peace. It is easier for them to keep you in that file folder than to meet who you are now. They do not do this to be cruel. Familiarity is a kind of blindness. The magic that lives in you feels invisible to those who grew up next to it.
Family systems like balance. You were the helper, the listener, the fixer, the quiet one, the funny one. Not the healer. When you step into a new role, you interrupt the story that kept everyone comfortable. Your power will trigger what they have tried to ignore in themselves. Your yes to healing might ask for their yes too. That is scary. So they call it a phase. They tell you it is not real. They smile and say they are proud, but they never book. Or they book and cancel. Or they want it free, which is another way of saying it has no value.
Here is another hard truth. If someone will not invest even a little, they rarely show up. Money is not the only way to invest, but it is a real way. Time is a real way. Preparation is a real way. When a session is free, a lot of people treat it like it is disposable. Your work is energy. Energy follows value. If you do not value it, they will not either.
So stop trying to convert your inner circle. Stop performing worthiness for people who need you to be who you were. Love them. Bless them. Stop convincing them. Let your work speak where it is received. There are people out there praying for exactly what you carry. They will make the time. They will find the money. They will say yes and then actually show up.
For the ones who cancel with a list of reasons, I hear them. Too tired. Too sick. Too stressed. Too anxious. I also hear the deeper truth. Those are not reasons to wait. Those are the reasons to begin. Healing is not a reward for already feeling well. It is the bridge.
If you are the practitioner, hold your line. Charge what your work is worth. Offer scholarships on your terms, not out of guilt. Put clear boundaries around your time. Say, my love is free, my work is not. Let the no from your inner circle be information, not a verdict. Keep serving the ones who are ready.
If you are the person on the fence, hear me. You are worthy of being well. You are allowed to outgrow the story that says you only get care when you are half dead. You are allowed to receive support before you crash. You are allowed to want a life that does not revolve around your pain.
And if you have people around you who cannot see your magic yet, that does not cancel your magic. It just means your miracle is not for their timeline. It is for yours. When you are ready, say yes. I will meet you there.