09/20/2023
Homefront Dads,
"Their world is your world"
From birth, our kid's perspective and surroundings, internal dialogue-their worlds, come from whom, what, where they are influenced by. That is something of paramount vigilance for us as parents, as Dads and protectors/nurterers, to keep in mind as we go through our days.
With how much of their worlds come from us as parents from the beginning and what we provide holistically, our role is critical. Our kids are the best part of this world and life, and their world is in our hands.
Our world is their world, what does that look like for you?
Does it contribute and build for them or, does it negatively take from or affect them?
Physically, mentally, emotionally, financially, spritually.
Is it filled with emotional ups and downs indecision/decisions? Inconsistent circumstances and surroundings, or behaviors and love taken/given to them?
A quick example of a boy I worked with, I say boy because he was no man. He, let's say Jaret, said "he's hard on his daughter and buys and does what he wants not anything for her because, his life was effed-up so if he had to do it so will she." He had/has 2 rooms dedicated to his gaming and shoes collection that she is not allowed in, and sleeps next to his bed. Our conversation did not go jovial after that.
That's stuck with me though because, I hear that from so many people like my former boss, call him Dusty, used to draw blood on his sons both sub-10 years old, for reasons he never could quite justify because "he got it as a kid."
Dads, I hope every one of you takes that to heart that there are some kids out there with dads, lowercase D, whom are still needing to rise to the standard.
I hope despite what any of us endured as kids with our Dads/parents/caregivers/etc, we all see the beauty in not passing that on to our children.
That we rise to the standard ourselves developing and evolving passed those things, and giving, teaching, loving to our kids all that we possess to be able to; that they may never feel unloved, unsafe, unassociated from those they are naturally supposed to have all that from no matter what.
Now many of us are Christian, or believers in something, and one of the Dads out there we are huge fans of, Bedros Keuilian, brought up something on a different topic that relates.
"Your creator did not put you here to be fat, sloppy, lazy, dependent, and by being so you disrespect your creator."
Dads that resonates on every level and something our Bible study also discussed. Our children beat some wild odds and are here with us, thank God. How could we, apart from the immeasurable love for them, ever treat, talk to, behave toward our kids, that God has trusted us with, in any way unbecoming?
That is an insult and disrespect to our/your God. If you believe and try to aspire to a life of good stewardship, how can anyone ignore or lessen the most important mission He gives us when we become parents?
One last example from a neighbor who's joined up with us, call him Dan. His truck is a fantastic, expensive, fully loaded Power Wagon that I dont recall ever seeing the slightst dirty or in disrepair, even the tires are always current and fresh.
But you look at his kids' clothes and shoes, and their playground in ruins in the backyard they never use anymore and it hit us to look at our own situations.
Continous improvement, Dads that's what counts, rise to that standard and don't miss out on the time you'll never get back, the worlds yoi can never rebuild.
