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Just a friendly little reminder that we can't heal what we don't feel. ⁣***Follow for more on how to feel⁣ your feeling...
06/13/2024

Just a friendly little reminder that we can't heal what we don't feel. ⁣
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Stop drowning yourself trying to keep a ship afloat that doesn't want to. ⁣⁣Save yourself and let the ship sink. ⁣⁣⁣And ...
05/29/2024

Stop drowning yourself trying to keep a ship afloat that doesn't want to. ⁣
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Save yourself and let the ship sink. ⁣
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Instead of focusing on what could go wrong, turn your focus to everything that could go right ⁣✨⁣Don't let fear keep you...
04/29/2024

Instead of focusing on what could go wrong, turn your focus to everything that could go right ⁣✨
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Don't let fear keep you from living fully. ⁣
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Anyone else done silencing themselves???⁣⁣I went to an event the other day and in the midst of mingling, in my typical f...
04/29/2024

Anyone else done silencing themselves???⁣
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I went to an event the other day and in the midst of mingling, in my typical fashion, I skipped straight past the small talk to the nitty gritty (small talk is quite literally physically painful for me and it always will be).⁣⁣⁣
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Towards the end of the conversation it became apparent to me that one individual was uncomfortable with the conversation. Not that it was an inappropriate topic, but it was a little deep and could have brought up some uncomfortable emotions for some.
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My automatic thought was “Why do you always say too much? You should have kept your mouth shut”.⁣⁣⁣
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Which I quickly followed up with “no Ashley, we aren’t thinking that way anymore”. ⁣⁣⁣
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I have silenced myself for the majority of my life for fear of upsetting someone else or making them uncomfortable. ⁣⁣⁣
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I’ve pushed down my truth, bit my tongue, and modeled who I thought I should be all for the sake of others. ⁣⁣⁣
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And where did that get me?⁣⁣⁣
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Miserable, lost, ashamed, and depressed. ⁣⁣⁣
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But it isn’t my job, or anyone’s for that matter, to hide their truth, to silence themselves, or to make themselves small in order to prevent the discomfort of another. ⁣⁣⁣And someone else’s discomfort in your truth isn’t an indication that you should have stayed silent.
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So I’m going to keep saying the weird things. And I’m going to keep showing up in my fullness. ⁣⁣⁣
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Because we all deserve to live in authenticity. And there will be plenty of people who love and appreciate us for it. ⁣⁣⁣
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So here’s your little reminder to say the weird thing unapologetically 💛⁣⁣⁣
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Speak your truth | Authenticity | Be true to you | Stop people pleasing ⁣⁣⁣
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No one, and I mean no one, is worth losing yourself over. ⁣⁣Like, comment or share if this resonated with you 💛⁣⁣And fol...
04/25/2024

No one, and I mean no one, is worth losing yourself over. ⁣
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When your focus shifts from being chosen to whether or not someone is even the right choice for you, you know you are gr...
04/22/2024

When your focus shifts from being chosen to whether or not someone is even the right choice for you, you know you are growing. ⁣
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Remember, you are worthy of doing the choosing too. ⁣
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For years I have allowed the fear of being perceived to scare me into the passenger seat of my own life. ⁣⁣It was as if ...
04/12/2024

For years I have allowed the fear of being perceived to scare me into the passenger seat of my own life. ⁣
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It was as if I was teetering on a cliff ready to jump off in to a world of endless possibilities, but every time I went to take a step fear would rear its ugly head and send me running back to what I knew. ⁣
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🌿 And then one day, I realized the only people who were criticizing me were the ones who were too afraid to take a chance on themselves in the way that I was daring to taking a chance on me. ⁣
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✨ I also realized they don’t have to my bills and in this economy let’s be real, who can afford to let someone else get in the way of their success? ⁣
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🌿All this to say, gone are the days I allow the criticism of those not in this fight with me to keep me from showing up. ⁣
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✨ As one of my favorites says “If you are not in the arena getting your ass kicked on occasion, I am not interested in or open to your feedback.”⁣
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I hope you learn not to allow the opinions of those who aren’t brave enough to bet on themselves to hold you back from taking a chance on you. ⁣
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What something you are striving to do more of in this new season of growth?⁣ 🌿⁣Follow for more relatable mental health ...
04/11/2024

What something you are striving to do more of in this new season of growth?⁣ 🌿
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What are you leaving behind in this new season of growth?⁣⁣Don't forget to follow for more relatable mental health cont...
04/08/2024

What are you leaving behind in this new season of growth?⁣
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Someone's inability to give you what you want and need has nothing to do with your worthiness to receive. ⁣⁣Allow yourse...
03/28/2024

Someone's inability to give you what you want and need has nothing to do with your worthiness to receive. ⁣
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Allow yourself the opportunity to find someone who is at a place to give you what you deserve. ⁣🌸
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Turning 35 has been a tough one for me. ⁣⁣So to ring it in gently I took some time to reflect on some of the biggest tak...
03/27/2024

Turning 35 has been a tough one for me. ⁣
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So to ring it in gently I took some time to reflect on some of the biggest takeaways I have come to know in my short time so far on this earth. ⁣
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I struggled to narrow it down to just a few, so in honor of my birthday I decided to stop at 35. ⁣
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I hope that these will resonate with you as much as they have with myself. ⁣
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And to keep the life lessons going, what would you add?⁣
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Let's have a real conversation for a minute here, because I think a lot of people can resonate with this in our current ...
03/19/2024

Let's have a real conversation for a minute here, because I think a lot of people can resonate with this in our current climate. ⁣
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If we know anything about Maslow's hierarchy of needs, it's that you can't make strides towards much of anything if your basic human needs aren't met, such as food, shelter, safety and security. ⁣
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The result of a lack of basic needs is a dysregulated nervous system, which can manifest itself in a couple different ways. One of which is to freeze. ⁣
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Now there is acute freeze, which is a quick temporary reaction to a stressor, and then there is functional freeze, which is a perpetual state of shutting down. ⁣
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Our nervous system goes into this state when fight and flight don't seem like viable options or after being in a constant state of fight or flight as an attempt to protect us from further harm and conserve energy. ⁣
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When one is in functional freeze, they feel stuck, unmotivated, disinterested, and quite literally at times, immobilized. ⁣
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In order to come out of this frozen state and start to make progress again towards our goals, we have to begin to regulate our nervous system. ⁣
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But we CAN NOT regulate a system from a place that lacks safety and security. ⁣
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So that means that before we can even begin to work towards balance, we have to meet our unmet needs. ⁣
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If your basic needs aren't met and you are feeling shame or shame is being projected onto you for being "lazy", please know that it isn't you, it's your environment and/or the fu**ed up system we live in.⁣
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Allow yourself the space and self-compassion to slowly work towards meeting those needs, rather than taking on shame and self-criticism that will just drive you further into the pit you are working so hard to pull yourself out of.⁣
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