01/08/2026
Sharing this from another grieving mother... the accuracy in this is so on point for where I am as a mother going through the rest of her life without her youngest son. 🧡💔
People say, ‘I don’t know how you survived losing your child.’
The truth is, the person I was didn’t.
The person you were before your child died does not make it through untouched.
That version of you ends.
What happens instead is quieter, harder, and rarely acknowledged.
You become someone new.
Not by choice.
Not because you’re strong.
But because there is no other way to keep breathing.
Grieving parents don’t survive child loss.
They rebuild themselves around it.
A new nervous system.
A new way of loving.
A new relationship with time, joy, meaning, and pain.
You learn how to carry unbearable grief and still show up.
You learn how to exist in a world that kept spinning when yours stopped.
You learn how to live as someone forever changed.
So when people say, “I don’t know how you do it,”
the truth is… you don’t.
You become someone else who can.
