Dr. Daniela Krotzer

01/02/2026

Falling, and staying, in love requires getting to know someone at a deeper level continuously over time. One reliable way to cultivate that kind of intimacy is asking questions like these.

01/01/2026

12/31/2025

12 Common Thinking Traps That Exhaust Your Mind

So many people blame themselves for “overthinking,” when in reality the mind is just trying its best to protect them in familiar (but unhelpful) ways. As a practicing counser, this is often the first relief I see on a client’s face: “Oh, it’s a pattern… not a personal failure.” Recognizing these thinking traps is a gentle first step toward change, not a reason to judge yourself.

↳ Mind reading: Assuming you know what others think about you.
↳ Negative focus: Only noticing what went wrong, never what went right.
↳ Catastrophizing: Jumping straight to the worst-case scenario.
↳ Labeling: Calling yourself names instead of noticing your feelings.
↳ Overgeneralizing, should-thinking, emotional reasoning, fortune-telling, personalization, owning the “truth,” just-world thinking, and control fallacy can all quietly shape how you see yourself and your life.

Cognitive distortions are inaccurate thinking. The goal is to have accurate, healthy thinking. Reach out if you need help with this.

12/31/2025

Especially after a busy fall and holiday season, January is a great time to put your self-care much higher up on your priorities list.

Our whole month of self-care ideas focuses on simple, relaxing, and enjoyable routines and activities you can try throughout the month. If there are any you particularly enjoy, you can think of ways to work them into your schedule on a more regular basis.

09/17/2025

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09/17/2025

What we already know from decades of research into adolescent social, emotional, and biological development provides a clear roadmap to identify the urgent risks posed by AI. It is critical that we act now to prioritize children's well-being.

Read the full testimony from APA Chief of Psychology Dr. Mitch Prinstein: https://at.apa.org/bdfe00

09/10/2025

Strategies for de-escalation used by special education teachers! 💕

09/10/2025

Today, on World Su***de Prevention Day, I want to say this: You are not a burden. You are not alone. And the world is better with you in it.

09/10/2025

OCD isn't always visible! While the media representation of OCD often revolves around visible behavioral compulsions like hand-washing or checking, OCD compulsions can also be entirely mental. It's not uncommon for someone to behave entirely "normally" while still struggling with intense, debilitating OCD symptoms. Here are a few invisible or 'hidden' symptoms of OCD - have you experienced any of these? What other symptoms would you add?

09/08/2025

PDA isn't the only type of 'Demand Avoidance', and it's a very rare presentation.

Here is a little bit of information on the different types of demand avoidance, it's important we investigate them when a child/adult is demand avoidant so we can understand the real reasons behind it. Here's a little bit of information on these...

EXECUTIVE FUNCTION AVOIDANCE
This is when certain tasks prove difficult due to executive function difficulties or impairments - such as starting a task or using one's working memory. We have 7 executive functions that are constantly in use every day. Give them a google to understand more!

SENSORY AVOIDANCE
When an environment isn't a 'sensory match' for a person, it can be overwhelming or over/under-stimulating and this can naturally lead to a person avoiding that environment. We have 8 senses and it's important we understand them and how environments affect them in order to know if sensory avoidance is an issue.

LOW SELF-ESTEEM BASED AVOIDANCE
When a person has low self-esteem and low self-efficacy it stands to reason that they will fear failing and this can put huge pressures on them. The easiest way to rid that pressure is to avoid the activity altogether. With neurodivergent individuals Rejection Sensitivity Dysphoria may also play a part in this.

ANXIETY DRIVEN AVOIDANCE
Think about it... If a person, environment or object causes anxiety in someone it's very natural and rational for them to avoid the cause of the anxiety. It's a way of keeping oneself safe.

PATHOLOGICAL DEMAND AVOIDANCE
This is a really rare presentation and is linked to the demand (not necessarily the activity). The demand will trigger anxiety which leads for a 'pervasive drive for autonomy', or the desperate need to be in control in order to bring anxiety down. This need for control can often become the overriding factor in the situation, and can often appear 'irrational' where the demand avoidant response seems unnecessarily excessive or extreme. You may also find ALL of the other reasons for demand avoidance are present in a person with PDA.

Always great information from Sunshine Support❤️!