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Sidu Arroyo, LPC • Becoming at Home

Family Psychotherapist helping you:
➡ Deepen connection with your child
➡ Increase emotional understanding
➡️ Become more at home within yourself

02/26/2026

Are you experiencing a lot of sibling rivalry in your home?

Sibling discord and quarreling may just be a rite of passage. What else can we expect when you have different wants, different needs, and different developing minds and bodies interacting!

"Mom, he hit me (again)!"

"Dad, she said she didn't want to play with me anymore, but I just played with her."

Sibling squabbles happen, but sibling rivalry, the fighting for attachment needs, doesn't have to be a part of your family when you nurture the natural order, with you as the lead.

Nurturing the natural order can happen is small moments when you highlight the older child's good intentions toward the younger sibling. When you see the older sibling doing a "big brother, big sister" act, you notice and name it. You notice for the older sibling, how the younger sibling responded to their good intent.

You can even notice out loud, indirectly, as if you are simply talking to the younger child, but more than likely, the older one is within earshot.

"Zane seems to really enjoy you coming to spend time with him."

"Thank you for helping your sister, Isla, reach the toy. She is so happy you helped her."

"Your big brother is so silly. He really loves to play chase with you, doesn't he? He is very good at playing chase with you."

The bond between the older and the younger, and between the younger and the older, is reinforced.

In a world where children are facing a crisis of feeling useless, it is more important than ever that we help strengthen the bonds in our families.

Because your child has a purpose: to lead, to follow, to respect self and others, and to belong.

How do you strengthen the natural order?

02/11/2026

part 2: let's dig in.

Parenting is a relationship. I am afraid that culturally, we have forgotten this. And as is true for all relationships, they can feel uncertain and uncomfortable.

While certainty is a beautiful fantasy, perhaps we can trade it for peace, rest, and vulnerability in our relationships with our kids.

Still just as hard but also freeing.

What would you add?

If you're new here, follow along for more on intuitive parenting, relationships, and musings on being human.

If you've been here for a bit, 🙏 and share with someone who could use a parenting/relationship hug.

02/10/2026

How do I talk to my child about (blank)?

Whether it's death, divorce, current events, or a major life transition, this is one of the most common questions I hear from parents and also one of the most sought-after on media platforms.

But a certain set of words doesn't guarantee an easy, anxiety-free outcome. More than our words, I want to encourage you to notice YOU.

How is your body processing the conversation you plan to have with your child?

How much is your child already carrying?

Where do you need to take in less, if constant dysregulation keeps showing up?

These are much harder questions, absolutely. They ask us to stop and be present to the pain and mixed emotions.

Sitting with these questions and reflections, however, may bring you closer to what works for your family.

What are your thoughts on these?

01/29/2026

Virtual signaling is when we express our moral or political views, primarily to signal our own righteousness or belonging to a group...but rarely without concrete action.

I place no judgment toward you or anyone for how you engage in these spaces. We are all living in uncertainty, heightened uncertainty, and my mission will remain the same. To advocate for and support families who feel stuck, disempowered, or lost. As the adults caring for your children, it is imperative to find grounding as best you can.

Here are the 5 tips to stay grounded.

1. Let fear exist without letting it take over.
2. Hold onto what is still here.
What are your anchors?
3. Create space for hope, love, and meaning. (Often accompanied by feelings of guilt.)
4. Limit how much you are taking in!
5. Stay connected instead of carrying it alone. (With individuals who know you.)

And if you are capable, take action. It has a bigger effect than virtue signaling.
- Vote (primary in TX is March 3)
- Donate to causes and charities
-Set up or participate in outreach programs in your local community.

Hope continues to be renewed in me as I witness those in my local community continuously reaching out to those in need.

12/18/2025

What are your thoughts?
How does this resonate with you?

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12/16/2025

What emotional pain do you want to protect your child from? Does the emotional pain tell you anything about something unresolved and unmet within you?

As parents, we intuitively protect our children from the overwhelming pain in this world as we should. Yet, some pains we protect against because they feel unbearable within us.

We help our children avoid the feeling of rejection, but are we actually helping or are we protecting our own pain associated with rejection?

This is not to say that we throw our kids into rejection, disappointed, abandonment, and as parents we will step in to intentionally protect them from some of these but when it becomes a pattern, it can be helpful to ask who are we ultimately protecting?

What do you think?

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11/21/2025

Emotions guide us to needs. Do they always? No, not always. Do we need to live in an emotional state and immerse ourselves so deeply in it? Not necessarily.

Emotions don't need to dictate everything we do, but they typically guide us into our most vulnerable needs.

What do you think?

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11/11/2025

Becoming a parent (or being a parent) can be terrific and life-giving, but parenthood is also:⁣⁣
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Crying as you rock your baby to sleep for the eighth time that night. ⁣⁣
Feeling as if you've messed up your child because your teenager is acting out.⁣⁣
Missing the freedom you had before children.⁣⁣
Feeling overwhelmed because you don't know how to support your child's feelings.⁣⁣
Feeling frustrated and angry because you don't know how to stop yourself from yelling.⁣⁣
Grieving the parenting experiences you needed as a child and adolescent.
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Parenthood is messy and raw. It challenges us beyond what we think we are capable of. It is never perfect, and yet there can be beauty and growth in the imperfections and messiness. ⁣⁣
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You are not alone. ⁣⁣
You matter.
You are the parent your child needs and the parent you need. ⁣⁣

In what areas are you growing as a parent? In what areas are you feeling challenged as a parent? Feel free to share below or in my stories.

11/06/2025

I'm a family psychotherapist and yes, I used the word never. 🙈😉

A child, whether two years old or 42 years old, never outgrow the need for parental care and openness. Our children will need different things from us as they grow but the longing for parental care remains.

How does this post resonate with you?

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11/03/2025

Children push boundaries!

Is it because they're being defiant? Choosing to ignore you? Or trying to make your life miserable? Sometimes it may certainly feel like it but one reason children push boundaries is because nature has designed them to individuate. Their wants, feelings, and needs will not always align with yours or their siblings.

When your child pushes a boundary, how do you respond? What happens inside of you? Do you feel angry, frustrated, sad, hopeless? If any of these feelings show up what are you inclined to do? Punish? Negotiate? Isolate? Concede? Notice the pattern(s) and be curious about the stories interwoven into them.

As far as your child, when we as parents are wavering in our ability to lead, children notice. Our struggle to lead can create a dynamic which puts your child in charge, and children truly do not want to be in charge of themselves.

Be certain about your role. You have within you the instincts to care, nurture, lead, and guide your child. If these feel difficult, you may be needing these in your own life. 💛

Follow along for more on strengthening family relationships.

Does this resonate with you? Have you seen a partner struggle with this?

10/30/2025

What helps children thrive?

Caregivers who are accessible, responsible, and emotionally engaged often enough. You, as a parent, have all the instincts to offer your child what they need; I genuinely believe this and have seen it time and time again with the families I have worked with.

Yet when you didn't receive, or are now missing, nurturing, care, and responsiveness from your caregivers, village, friends, or community, these instincts can be diminished by inner criticism, shame, and the beliefs that you don't have what it takes, leading you to outsource your instincts.

When another (or others) holds you, you may begin the journey of releasing yourself from these unhelpful grasps and live more into the parent your child needs and that you desire to be.

Share or tag someone who needs this reminder. 💛

10/29/2025

Children who are struggling with anxiety, depression, clinginess, repetitive relational safety seeking behaviors, or over thinking to solve relational concerns are typically struggling with attachment panic, or attachment alarm.

While there are many reasons as to how a child got here, as their parent you have within you everything your child needs to find their way back to safety and security. When you look beyond the behaviors, which can feel distressing, you will often see your child—scared, lonely, and confused waiting for you.

This post is not to say that the care of your child all falls on you solely. Calling on your resources (your village) for support is brave and part of helping your child and yourself. Getting professional support to guide you in supporting your child and yourself is courageous.

# attachmentparenting

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