09/03/2023
I run into this SO OFTEN as an occupational therapist.
Kids have been forced and expected to trace and write letters and words and sentences before the bones in their hand were even fully-formed yet.
They weren't allowed to play outside in the mud and get dirty, or play with playdoh freely and squish it everywhere, or explore utensils freely when they ate. They weren't allowed to climb on high things at the playground and strengthen their shoulders and their core, to fall down and land hard on their bodies and their joints.
They were expected to sit still and keep quiet for longer than their bodies were capable of doing.
They learned to be silent and compliant but they also learned that they didn't do anything right, and that they just couldn't. That they were just bad at it. That writing was just hard and bad and it was going to be hard and bad and not fun forever.
And then they got referred to OT for me to somehow fix it.
We. Have. Got. To. Stop.
(I write about this with some frequency, and I even have a tag on my website for all the posts about this: "making writing meaningful". https://www.occuplaytional.com/tag/making-writing-meaningful/ )
[Image description: a quote by Carol Black. "Let me repeat this: When you push a child to do something she developmentally cannot do, you create a profound belief that a) I hate this; b) I can't do this; c) I will never be able to do this; and d) There's something wrong with me. All, I should point out, profoundly disabling beliefs."]