01/12/2026
I used to think self care was taking a bath, going to yoga, eating what is best for my body, or buying a new outfit for work. While all of that is essential for my physical and mental well-being there is more to self care. At times, we all need space for ourselves to calm our nervous system and to clear our perspective. This type of space takes patience, and often we don’t want to sit in the uncomfortable feelings of space.
I worked as a Chief Compliance Officer in the investment industry for over 20 years. There was an incident that required me to report a member of upper management to the owner of the company. It wasn’t an easy thing to do, for I knew the ramifications would be uncomfortable. I did my job, and reported the employee. Afterward, I’d pass him in the halls and he wouldn’t look at me, let alone speak to me. He’d turn his back on me if I ran into him in the staff kitchen area. It made going to work miserable. I met with my counselor and I explained how uncomfortable it was in the office. She said, “Actually, by not talking to you he is giving you space. You too are giving him space by not approaching him further. You know he needs to process his actions. You are providing him space with grace.” I never forgot those words.
Today I use those words as a form of self care. There are times when I interact with others and for whatever reason I need space from them, or they need space from me. In an effort to support a resolution I provide space knowing it’s provided with grace. One tool that has helped me when I am providing space with grace is Tarot. In one sitting I asked Tarot, “How can I be comfortable in the uncomfortableness of providing space with grace?” That led me into self discovery and understanding of myself in a deeper sense.
If you struggle with providing space with grace, or giving yourself permission for self-care, I invite you to contact Ace of Cups and ask for a Tarot reading. Just going once will show you more of who you are, and that is certainly self-care!
Be Well,
Sharon
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