Kavita Murthy, PhD - Psychologist

02/12/2025

One of the best descriptions of how a good couples therapist can break through old patterns of resentment and anger. So well written.

It took a superstar couples therapist to help me see beyond my anger.

07/12/2024

2024-10-31

09/21/2022

My website, Kavitaphd.com has been compromised and had to be taken down. Apologies for any inconvenience! Hope to be up and running soon

10/11/2018

What if, after escaping years of chronic abuse and neglect at the hands of your family members, you remain tethered to the family that caused so much pain? You ache for your siblings to validate your story. (They Don't). You are desperate for your mother to see and understand. (She Won't). Tara Westover poignantly describes the challenges one must face time and again to break the cycle of ignorance and terror. If you or someone you know struggles with childhood trauma, my practice can help.

Tara Westover's coming-of-age story follows her upbringing in a survivalist family, and her decision to leave that life behind.

09/14/2018

What if you want to work on your marriage, but at the same time you cannot stop the affair? What if the affair is not about the other person but more about reclaiming some part of your darker more reckless self? Then what? Esther Perel in her latest book "State of Affairs" seems to understand that what lies beneath the surface is a true identity crisis that must be dealt with if one is to heal from the pain of betrayal. This is true for the one that was betrayed as well as the one who engaged in the betrayal. Before you engage in couples therapy, make sure you have a good individual therapist to help you navigate the darker more treacherous waters of your inner psychic world. Does your self image no longer match with your actions? Maybe it's time to seek help.

Henry VIII and Ann Boleyn. Elizabeth Taylor and Richard Burton. Monica Lewinsky and Bill Clinton. Stories of affairs have consumed, captivated, terrified and titillated us throughout history.Beyond the voyeurism of these public celebrity affairs, every day I work with couples who have been devastate...

07/15/2018

The way you tell your story matters. When you talk about your own story does it help you heal? Or does it keep you marginalized, stuck inside the trauma of humiliation and self-hatred? Watch 'Nanette' and hear the powerful soliloquy of Hannah Gadsby. Listen to why she is quitting comedy, and how storytelling can rebuild the broken part of us all. Connection & healing happens when your personal journey is witnessed and understood.

Let’s Begin.

The Australian comic on why her Netflix special upends the entire notion of comedy-as-catharsis – and how she ended up creating the moment’s defining stand-up set

06/10/2018

Sometimes the pain is too much. "Be the difference in getting someone the help they need."

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Speaker, Trainer, Therapist specializing in individual, couple and group therapy.

06/03/2018

This morning, I had a client tell me she is frustrated she is not making any progress and does not think therapy is helping her. I stayed present and engaged with her and tried very hard to not take her frustrations personally but helped brainstorm with her on what we could do differently together to help foster some change. She scheduled another appointment to come back.

And then, an hour later:

“I’ve worked with a lot of therapists in my life and what you do is different. You sense that I am uncomfortable and you zoom in to help me unpack the issues I do not want to face without making me feel bad about myself.

“I think you value yourself, which inspires me to do the same.”

My work is a very humbling, exciting roller coaster ride.

05/26/2018

Just finished reading "An American Marriage" by Tayari Jones.

Beautifully written, despite being filled with tragedy and trauma, reminds me of the many couples I have worked with over the years. You never know how the story will unfold. Thankful to be a part of that process.

Tayari Jones’s latest novel uses intimate methods of storytelling to depict the dissolution of a relationship.

05/19/2018

Looking for a guest speaker for your company retreat or professional luncheon? Contact me for a customized interactive talk, workshop, or motivational speech.

Building Resilience & Optimism
Developing your Grit
Learning how to Fight Fairly in Relationships
Workplace Communication
Personality Styles & Productivity
Regulating Emotions with Mindfulness Exercises
Stress Management Techniques

05/11/2018

Wondering what all my fellow therapists and clinical practitioners use to help them manage their practice?
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05/08/2018

Ever wonder what Couples Therapy would be like for you? Check out the following podcast by Esther Perel. So Validating to hear her demystify the whole process and be real! This is what I aspire to do in my practice with all my clients.

Download past episodes or subscribe to future episodes of Where Should We Begin? with Esther Perel by Audible for free.