01/05/2026
Desire Myth That Needs to Go Bye-Bye:
“If you don’t want s3x, you don’t love your partner.”
So many people carry this secret fear:
“I do love them. So why don’t I want to be intimate?”
Often, desire is responding to things like:
• Exhaustion and mental load
• Feeling unappreciated or unseen
• Old trauma your body still protects you from
• Medication, hormones, pain, or health issues
• Feeling checked out from your own body
You can love your partner deeply and not have much desire right now.
You can be working through conflict and still feel drawn to them physically.
Instead of using desire as a “love test,” try asking:
🧡 What does my body need to feel safe and relaxed?
🧡 What emotional repair might need to happen first?
Lack of desire isn’t proof you don’t love someone.
It’s proof that your body is telling the truth about what it needs.
