Healing History Counseling

08/22/2025

War is not a requirement of PTSD.

Many people who struggle with PTSD have never been in the military nor have they been in a war. PTSD can develop anytime a person feels so endangered or scared that it overwhelms their brains ability to process the events (check out this blog post about the criteria for PTSD: https://healinghistorycounseling.com/know-ptsd-8-parts-pts?utm_campaign=meetedgar&utm_medium=social&utm_source=meetedgar.com…/). When this occurs, PTSD can develop. People's minds continue to work to process those events that are stuck unprocessed. For many people this means that over time they are able to process the event. But for some, about 20% of people who experience trauma that could lead to PTSD, time does not lead to change. Their minds continue to try to resolve the memories but cannot. This results in PTSD. People struggling with PTSD can heal. Often it helps to work with a person trained to help heal trauma and knowledgeable about PTSD.

I am an EMDR trained trauma therapist with offices in North Austin & Belton TX. I specialize in helping adults put their pasts behind them. I also offer sessions by video.

Interested in working with me? schedule your free consultation NOW at: http://ed.gr/cumpk

08/21/2025

Some days are harder than others.

Sometimes what looks like no big deal is actually a huge achievement.

On days when getting out of bed feels impossible, we need to not beat ourselves up. We need to acknowledge that today it is harder and thus every accomplishment should be owned as the achievement that it is.

I am an EMDR trained trauma therapist with offices in North Austin & Belton TX. I specialize in helping adults put their pasts behind them. I also offer sessions by video.

Interested in working with me? schedule your free consultation NOW at: http://ed.gr/cumrd

08/21/2025

When we grow up in homes that were not safe and where we could not prevent bad things from happening we can find that our adult lives feel beyond our control, unsafe, and that we don't know how to fix it.

If we didn't know safety as a child, how are we supposed to know how to create it for ourselves as adults?

If we couldn't prevent bad things from happening while we grew up, how can we expect ourselves to know how to prevent bad things from happening to ourselves as adults?

In fact, if we grow up in such an turbulent environment we can learn that there is no such thing as safety and that we are powerless to keep ourselves from being hurt.

In order to be able to create the healthy happier life that we deeply desire, we need to unlearn these lessons from our childhood. We need to learn what healthy and happy looks and feels like before we start trying to create it. And most of all we need to discover that we can have a positive impact on our own lives.

I am an EMDR trained trauma therapist with offices in Austin & Belton TX. I specialize in helping adults put their pasts behind them.

Interested in working with me? Schedule your free consultation NOW at: https://healinghistorycounseling.com/schedule_now/?utm_campaign=meetedgar&utm_medium=social&utm_source=meetedgar.com

08/20/2025

Silence is the perpetrator's friend. They tell us to keep it secret for their protection. They tell us that no one will believe us because they want us to believe it is true, not because they know it is. They tell us it is our fault because they know if we believe them we will stay silent. They threaten us to keep us quiet because they are afraid we may speak up. Often the survivors of abuse continue to obey those expectations for many years beyond the abuse.

Break the silence! Sharing our pain with an understanding, compassionate person can start the healing process.

We all deserve to heal! No matter how long ago it happened. No matter how much worse others had it. No matter how much we believe we asked for it or deserved it. WE ALL DESERVE TO HEAL!

I am an EMDR trained trauma therapist with offices in North Austin & Belton TX. I specialize in helping adults put their pasts behind them. I also offer sessions by video.

Interested in working with me? schedule your free consultation NOW at: http://ed.gr/cumre

08/20/2025

Unresolved trauma's and past events that still bother us continue to weigh us down and keep us from achieving our greatest potential.

We must learn how to unburden ourselves from those experiences and let them go. Just pretending they do not weigh us down will not set us free. In fact ignoring them may allow them to continue to wreak havoc on our lives.

The best way to release the history that holds us back is to heal from it.

I am an EMDR trained trauma therapist with offices in North Austin & Belton TX. I specialize in helping adults put their pasts behind them. I also offer sessions by video.

Interested in working with me? schedule your free consultation NOW at: http://ed.gr/cumr6

08/20/2025

People who were sexually abused by a woman as a child often get a very different response from people compared to other victims. There can be disbelief and derision.

This blog explores differences between male and female offenders and how society responds differently to victims of female abusers.

It also includes some tips on how to respond when someone shares their history of abuse with you.

When we think of someone who would sexually assault a child we, think of a man. And often we would be right but not always. Women are believed to perpetrate 5-15% of childhood sexual abuse. That’s 3100-9300 children each year*. Unfortunately, these victims find that there is less belief in the val...

08/19/2025

I see them as great badges of courage. They are proof of battles fought, survived and healed. They are the maps of our history.And unlike an open or infected wound, a scar shows not just where the harm was done, they also show where the healing occurred.

Not all scars are on our skin. Those scars on our heart and soul are the most beautiful of all because they show the invisible traumas that we have not just survived but also healed. Long after the physical wound has healed, the emotional and psychological woulds can remain unhealed. They too need to be tended and healed. Without healing they can continue to cause pain and harm in our lives for many hears to come.

I am an EMDR trained trauma therapist with offices in North Austin & Belton TX. I specialize in helping adults put their pasts behind them. I also offer sessions by video.

Interested in working with me? schedule your free consultation NOW at: http://ed.gr/cumr4

08/19/2025

And just because it is still with you, does not mean that it can not be put behind you.

Painful and upsetting events from our past can continue to interfere with our current day lives. Particularly if we continue to carry them around with us. Healing from those experiences can be an important part of leaving our past where it belongs - IN THE PAST.

Our past experiences should inform our current life, not rule it.

I am an EMDR trained trauma therapist with offices in North Austin & Belton TX. I specialize in helping adults put their pasts behind them. I also offer sessions by video.

Interested in working with me? schedule your free consultation NOW at: http://ed.gr/cumr3

08/18/2025

And each day is an opportunity to try something new!

When life beats us up and knocks us down it can be hard to jump back up and rejoin the fight. I totally understand that! Taking some time to shake our selves off, nurse our wounds and regain our strength can be a great strategy.

So take a moment. Breathe deeply. Recenter yourself. Remind yourself of your goals and step into the new day.

Sometimes it can be a wise choice to seek assistance in the battles we wage. At times like these a supportive partner, a trustworthy friend or a professional can be a great asset.

I am an EMDR trained trauma therapist with offices in North Austin & Belton TX. I specialize in helping adults put their pasts behind them. I also offer sessions by video.

Interested in working with me? schedule your free consultation NOW at: http://ed.gr/cumr2

08/18/2025

Despite the American ethos that independence and self-reliance is valued over community and inter-dependence, the simple fact is that we all need connection.

A baby that doesn't get enough time being held can die, even if they have everything else they need! We don't outgrow this need. It is as vital as air, food and water!

Unfortunately, it can be really difficult for adults who grew up in dysfunction homes or experienced childhood trauma to create those vital healthy connections that we need. Feeling safe enough to relax and connect can be practically impossible for trauma survivors.

But healing can help and practicing creating connections in a safe environment can help us learn to create more healthy connections.

I am an EMDR trained trauma therapist with offices in Austin & Belton TX. I specialize in helping adults put their pasts behind them.

Interested in working with me? Schedule your free consultation NOW at: https://healinghistorycounseling.com/schedule_now/?utm_campaign=meetedgar&utm_medium=social&utm_source=meetedgar.com

08/17/2025

Although really deep personal work is important, it is also important to step back and enjoy playing with the less intense stuff.

When working hard to heal it can happen that healing becomes woven into every aspect of life. This can be too much. Step back, PLAY. Take a break and set the hard work aside for a while.

Not only will it be a relief, it will also help you do better deep personal work when you return to the healing journey.

So, Go play.

I am an EMDR trained trauma therapist with offices in North Austin & Belton TX. I specialize in helping adults put their pasts behind them. I also offer sessions by video.

Interested in working with me? Schedule your free consultation NOW at: https://healinghistorycounseling.com/schedule_now/?utm_campaign=meetedgar&utm_medium=social&utm_source=meetedgar.com

08/17/2025

Fear can be fun - scary movies, haunted houses and exhilarating activities.

But fear is also a vary valuable tool! Fear lets us know to stay alert and be careful. It warns us that we may be in danger or that we are doing something risky.

Fear is not a bad thing. It is not a bad thing to feel fear. Fear is the caution cone that warns you of about hazards ahead. It primes us to make careful choices and use caution.

The secret is to use fear as a warning or reminder without letting it overwhelm us or prevent us from doing risky things that may truly be worth doing.

For people with histories of trauma fear can be a constant companion or it may be so long ignored that we can no longer hear the warnings it is sending us. Finding a healthy connection with our fears can help us become more able to use it to help us make our best choices.

I am an EMDR trained trauma therapist with offices in North Austin & Belton TX. I specialize in helping adults put their pasts behind them. I also offer sessions by video.

Interested in working with me? schedule your free consultation NOW at: http://ed.gr/cumr0