02/02/2026
A new woman walks into class.
She’s early because she’s nervous.
She wants to get her bearings and feel safe.
She rolls out her mat.
A regular walks in.
She stops.
Looks at her.
And says,
“You’re in my spot.”
There is no faster way to make someone feel unwelcome.
And there is no faster way to expose where our practice is still surface level.
When I read stories like this, I feel horrified and grateful all at once. Horrified because there are studios where someone will actually look a new person in the eye and say, “You’re in my spot.” Grateful because I have never witnessed that in our space.
But I do see the pattern underneath it. I see it in the way people show up earlier and earlier to guard their spot. I see it in how we arrange our props like little safety zones. I see it when the room shifts and someone’s whole energy collapses because the plan changed.
Yoga asks us to notice where we cling, and right now we are a vata pitta society in a vata pitta deranged time, especially here in the U.S. Fast paced, full of fear, and full of people trying to create stability in any way they can. Sometimes it shows up in the smallest places, like needing your mat spot to feel okay. I get it, we are human. We love our rituals, and we long for predictability, especially when the world around us feels chaotic.
These things aren’t wrong. They are human. And they are invitations.
Aparigraha is often translated as non-grasping, but that doesn’t mean giving things up. It means looking at the places where we hold on so tightly that our flexibility disappears. It means noticing when our sense of safety gets tied to a corner of the room or a familiar routine. It means remembering that yoga is meant to soften us, not make us territorial.
If you feel unsettled when someone takes “your spot,” that feeling is not a failure. It is insight. It is the exact place your practice is inviting you to grow next. The moment you soften your hold, your practice expands.
Let the mat move. Let the view shift. Let yourself be shaped by the moment instead of the ritual around it. That is the transformation. That is the work. That is yoga.