02/17/2026
February is often framed as a month about romance, but we like to think of it as a month about connection, both with ourselves and with each other.
If you’re craving deeper intra- and inter-personal intimacy (the kind rooted in honesty, nervous system safety, and authenticity), here are 6 therapist-recommended books we love at Autonomy Therapy:
📚 Wired for Love (Stan Tatkin)
A practical, nervous-system-informed guide to building secure partnership and lasting closeness.
📚 Fighting for Your Marriage (Markman, Stanley, & Blumberg)
Research-backed tools for communication, conflict, and strengthening your bond over time.
📚 Say What You Mean (Oren Jay Sofer)
A beautiful blend of mindfulness + communication skills for more honest, connected conversations.
📚 Attached (Levine & Heller)
A foundational read on attachment styles and how they shape the way we love and relate.
📚 Secure Relating (Heller & LaPierre)
A compassionate roadmap for creating healthier patterns of connection, trust, and repair.
📚 Setting Boundaries That Stick (Juliane Taylor Shore)
For anyone learning that boundaries aren’t walls, they’re bridges to more sustainable relationships.
Connection isn’t something we can force.
It’s something we build, slowly, through curiosity, compassion, and vulnerable conversations.
Which of these have you read?
Or what book has helped you feel more connected lately?
Which of these is going on your February reading list? 💛
