Jennifer Hopes, LMFT

Jennifer Hopes, LMFT Are you looking for help with managing your anxiety/stress? Tired of struggling with depression? Wishing your work life was more satisfying?

Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist providing mental health services to residents of California, Texas, and Nevada

License # CA: 82200; TX: 205951; NV: 4564-R Conflicted about interpersonal relationships? Finding yourself always fighting with your teenager? Battling low self-esteem? Therapy is an excellent opportunity to improve these areas of dissatisfaction. I will provide a safe place for you to feel comfortable talking about your struggles, process your feelings, and find lasting solutions to an improved quality of life. My name is Jennifer Hopes and I am Licensed Marriage Family Therapist practicing in a private office in Bakersfield, California. I provide mental health services to individuals, couples, families, and children. I practice a collection of theoretical approaches, which vary depending on the client. I will often employ Psychodynamic Therapy ("talk therapy") to identify underlying concerns and address the root of the problem. I also utilize Cognitive Behavioral Therapy, an approach that analyzes thoughts, assumptions, and core beliefs. Lastly, I enjoy Solution-Focused Therapy as it holds emphasis on finding a solution, focusing on positive attributes, and is directed toward future goals.

What if “getting grounded” wasn’t something you had to achieve, but something you could remember?This month’s theme is R...
11/04/2025

What if “getting grounded” wasn’t something you had to achieve, but something you could remember?

This month’s theme is Root 🌿
A gentle invitation to pause the endless motion and find steadiness beneath it all.

Each week, we’ll explore one small, body-based practice to help you reconnect to your inner ground. No pressure, no perfection, just quiet recalibration.

Because before we can rest, we have to root.

Release softens us. It opens a quiet hollow where what was can finally settle and what’s next can begin to take hold.Roo...
10/29/2025

Release softens us. It opens a quiet hollow where what was can finally settle and what’s next can begin to take hold.

Rooting doesn’t start with certainty; it starts with space. With breath. With the smallest permission to stay where your feet already are.

This is the season of grounding into what’s left and trusting that it’s enough to grow from.

When we try to manage every outcome, the nervous system stays braced for impact.Release begins in the breath—one unclenc...
10/22/2025

When we try to manage every outcome, the nervous system stays braced for impact.
Release begins in the breath—one unclenched moment at a time.

There are things I tried to force before they were ready. I made plans, set timelines, tried to “do everything right.”Bu...
10/14/2025

There are things I tried to force before they were ready. I made plans, set timelines, tried to “do everything right.”

But life has its own way of arriving—usually when we’ve stopped chasing it.

When I finally released my grip on how and when things should unfold, I noticed a shift in my body. A softening. A quiet exhale.
And in that space, something new began to take root.

Sometimes letting go isn’t giving up. It’s trusting the unseen rhythm that’s been trying to move through you all along.

I used to resist letting go. It was slow learning for me, but eventually I realized that the fear was bigger than the re...
10/07/2025

I used to resist letting go. It was slow learning for me, but eventually I realized that the fear was bigger than the reality. Releasing didn’t mean failure, it meant relief.

My favorite part of this learning curve? Release creates space for anew❤️

Sometimes what we’re clinging to is heavier than we realize. Letting go creates a kind of lightness you can’t know until you feel it.

💭 Where in your life are you holding on so tightly that you haven’t noticed the weight?

In last month’s reset series I mentioned that I felt a release happening that I didn’t quite have words for yet. That it...
10/03/2025

In last month’s reset series I mentioned that I felt a release happening that I didn’t quite have words for yet. That it felt like a slow simmer, a quiet whisper, a gentle nudge…imperfect, unfinished, but real.

In keeping with the theme, October reminds us that letting go is a part of life, not a sign of failure.

Nature models release so beautifully. No grasping, no panic, no “what ifs.” Just trust that renewal will come in time, and oh is it coming!🧡

Maybe this month we can follow the trees’ lead.

Perfectionism whispers: “You’ll be enough once you do it right.” Consumer culture echoes: “You’ll be enough once you buy...
09/30/2025

Perfectionism whispers: “You’ll be enough once you do it right.” Consumer culture echoes: “You’ll be enough once you buy the right thing.”

Both keep you running.

Healing, for me, has looked different. Less about nailing it. More about softening into what’s already here.

It isn’t a finish line. It’s a relationship with myself. It’s having patience, again and again.

So much of healing gets sold like a product. One more thing to buy or master that will finally make you feel whole.But w...
09/26/2025

So much of healing gets sold like a product. One more thing to buy or master that will finally make you feel whole.

But what if “not enough” isn’t proof you’re broken? What if it’s a signal?

A signal to rest. To listen. To soften.

Enoughness doesn’t arrive once you’ve achieved enough. It shows up when you stop treating yourself like a project to fix.

There are weeks when my life is just…full. Work. Responsibilities. Emotions. Other people’s needs. I used to think simpl...
09/24/2025

There are weeks when my life is just…full. Work. Responsibilities. Emotions. Other people’s needs.

I used to think simplifying meant overhauling everything. A clear calendar. A perfect routine. A 60-minute solo walk at sunset.

Now, I know it’s more subtle than that.

Sometimes, simplifying means I stop bullying myself through the day. Sometimes, it means I breathe on purpose. Sometimes, I just decide not to add shame on top of what’s already heavy.

It doesn’t always look like healing. But it feels more like me.

At one point, “self-care” started to feel like another thing to get right. I thought if I could just do it better, I’d f...
09/18/2025

At one point, “self-care” started to feel like another thing to get right.

I thought if I could just do it better, I’d feel better. But I wasn’t burnt out from a lack of tools. I was burnt out from pressure. From the constant expectation to improve.

Simplifying how I care for myself wasn’t about doing less. It was about doing what’s real. What’s actually supportive for me.

And I thought simplifying would feel like calm…and sometimes it does.

But other times, it’s this strange, aching in-between where I’m not busy enough to ignore myself, but not grounded enough to feel good yet.

There was grief in the letting go.
Grief for the rush, the drive, the self who survived through over-functioning.

This is the part no one shows you:
Simplifying can bring peace.
But first, it often brings you closer to what you were numbing.

Here are two changes I made that helped me feel more nourished, not just more responsible.

You’re not doing it wrong.
You’re doing something real.

Simplifying my days hasn’t been about “getting more efficient.” That language keeps me in the same hamster wheel. It’s b...
09/16/2025

Simplifying my days hasn’t been about “getting more efficient.” That language keeps me in the same hamster wheel.

It’s been about choosing a few small practices that help me remember: I don’t need to leave myself behind today.

Sometimes that’s silence. Sometimes it’s a little white space. Sometimes it’s a ritual to close the day.

The point isn’t that these choices fix me. The point is they bring me back to myself.

Here are four that I return to again and again. What’s one of yours?

Some of the biggest shifts in my healing didn’t come from adding more tools. They came from subtracting.Not because the ...
09/11/2025

Some of the biggest shifts in my healing didn’t come from adding more tools. They came from subtracting.

Not because the things I let go of were “bad.” A few of them were actually helpful, but they turned healing into another thing to manage, another loop of consuming, improving, performing.

Letting go was uncomfortable. My perfectionist part thought it looked like giving up. But what I found was space. Quiet. Relief.

Here are 3 things I released that made more room for me.

What have you let go of lately?

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