10/21/2024
Some people see me where I am now. They ask why I work so hard?
And then there are those who have watched me as a single mother raise these kids when I had a high school diploma, suffering from untreated and undiagnosed PTSD, complicated grief, low self-esteem; and still resilient enough to raise these babies in love, take them on vacations, put them in girl scouts, swimming, ballet, private school all while pursuing a bachelor's degree and working for the State of Maryland making a starting salary of $23,000 per year. I'll tell that story on another day.
This photo is a photo representation of why I work so hard. I remember those emotions, the struggle and what I was trying to overcome. I work hard and I'm never done because I have always wanted both me and my children as far away from this feeling as I could take us. I didn't wait to be saved I knew I had to save myself ( Trauma Response disguised as Resillience). Mental Health didn't matter for those who looked like me back then.
The photo below was a good day. I had successfully paid all my deposits and saved up spending money to take me and my children on a bus trip for a week long vacation to Myrtle Beach!
The person who invited me on the trip was a friend I met at work ( that State Job). Don't think you're at work just to make money, you might be there to learn something, help someone or meet someone that will help you. I had all three experiences at that State job.
That person began to include me and my children in all their family gatherings and outings. She helped me to expose my children to extra- curricula activities and camps. Then wouldn't you know it, I ended up meeting my husband who ended up being her cousin. And now we're family.Thank you Cecilia Roni Horton-Jones
So, if yall want to know why I'm serious about helping black women recover from depression, low self-esteem, domestic violence and other traumas associated with being a Black woman in America. Just look at the photo.
I am healed but the struggle is still real!
Signed,
Shinelle Oglesby, LCPC
The owner of Urban Trauma Counseling Center