Life Bridge Coaching

09/16/2025

Underlying Issues... interesting information from The Gottman Institute.

Fights often have deeper meaning. Here are some common underlying issues couples can have:



A fight about chores may really be about feeling unappreciated.



A disagreement over spending might reflect deeper worries about security.



An argument about screen time may really be about longing for more attention and connection.



A conflict over parenting styles might reflect fears about not being respected or supported as a parent.



A disagreement about social plans may actually be about wanting to feel like a priority.



Tension around intimacy might point to deeper needs for affection, closeness, or reassurance.



A fight about being late may really be about one partner’s need for reliability and trust.



According to Gottman research, every conflict has “dreams within” it. These dreams are the values, needs, or fears hidden underneath.



When you slow down and ask, “What’s really at the heart of this for you?” you can move from fighting to understanding.

09/10/2025

It may seem weird to post this here but there's a great lesson to be learned from his story. I hope you find this helpful. Micky and Dorothy were right. You'll understand when you read it.

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09/03/2025

Grrreat conversations to have!!!

Before you get marrried, there are some must have conversations to ensure your long term relationship success.

09/01/2025

Dream together, Grow together.

08/27/2025

Beautiful evening!!!

08/26/2025

A lot of the time, what you’re arguing about isn’t the actual issue. It’s often something underlying driving the conflict.

Reflecting on arguments they’ve had, many couples will say, “I don’t even remember why it started,” or, “It was over nothing.” Arguments and conflict may begin to feel frustrating or unresolved for you.

There is a reason you’re arguing with your partner. Dreams, deeply held values, and beliefs lie at the root of every conflict you and your partner have, even if it seems silly at first.

For example, you might dismiss a squabble over who gets to pick the movie for date night as “fighting about nothing.” But, if you investigate why it turned into a tiff at all, you might remember that your opinion or taste was often dismissed by your family growing up. Or maybe your partner is feeling like they aren’t being heard in the relationship or don’t have an equal say.


Next time you find you and your partner arguing about “nothing,” consider that it might actually be “something” and take the opportunity to learn, to connect, and to understand.

Ask them about their feelings, ask them why they are upset, ask them what’s going on… and really listen.

08/17/2025

Interesting...

A simple glance and a smile might seem insignificant—but psychology says they speak volumes about your character. Here are 8 revealing traits you might have if you make a habit of doing it.

08/16/2025

Love Maps... Great explanation.

One of the most powerful tools we can offer couples is the reminder that emotional connection is built, not assumed. Dr. Julie Gottman teaches that Love Maps are the foundation of a strong relationship: a deep understanding of a partner’s inner world. We help clients build these maps through open-...

08/05/2025

Grrreat questions!!!

Ready to get serious with your date? Explore these 75 essential questions to deepen emotional intimacy, enhance connection, and foster trust with your partner.

07/28/2025

Great video about conflict and understanding.

In this interview John and Julie Gottman answer some of your burning questions. Stick around for the full interview, subscribe and drop your questions in th...

07/04/2025

Grrreat post!!!

06/24/2025

Grrreat article.

Does it feel like everything turns into an argument with your partner or spouse? Learn about the conflict cycle and how to break it.