01/21/2026
Here’s a self reflection prompt to journal to 📝
I highly recommend doing so facing a mirror 🪞
Ask yourself this question authentically ❓
“Are you being true to who you are and what you value for yourself above pleasing others? “
Here’s how you hold yourself accountable by answering this question.
1️⃣. Who am I when no one is watching?
Not the curated version , the instinctive one.
Do my decisions match that version of me?
2️⃣. What values actually guide my choices?
Not what I say I believe, but what I live by:
• authenticity
• peace
• faith
• creativity
• integrity
• loyalty
• rest
• stability
• growth
Values are verbs. They show up in behavior.
3️⃣. Where do I abandon myself to maintain harmony?
People-pleasing isn’t just kindness , it’s protection.
Sometimes it protects connection, ego, image, or survival.
But the cost is usually self-betrayal.
4️⃣. What parts of me are tired of negotiating?
Your body will tell you before your mind will:
• dread
• resentment
• anxiety
• shutdown
• numbness
are often signs that you’re living out of alignment.
5️⃣. Who benefits when I shrink, silence, or edit myself?
If the answer isn’t “me,” then truth is being traded for peace.
6️⃣. What would alignment actually look like?
Not in a grand dramatic way but in the everyday:
• saying no without guilt
• choosing rest without apology
• expressing needs without shrinking
• honoring capacity
• choosing values over optics
Here’s the real twist: 🌪️
Being true to yourself will disappoint someone.
But pleasing others almost always requires disappointing yourself.
The question becomes: ❓
Whose disappointment can you live with?
Most people discover that betraying themselves is the most expensive form of peacekeeping.
If you’re asking this question, there’s likely a part of you that’s ready to stop negotiating your identity for acceptance.
Remember 🧠
“You HAVE PERMISSION To Bloom” 🪷
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