05/06/2026
Over the past few years, I’ve been rebuilding my work and, honestly, rebuilding parts of myself too.
I joke that I’m too short to have had growing pains as a kid… but reinventing yourself as an adult? The growing pains are very real.
One of the biggest challenges has been the ceiling I’ve placed above myself, and the ongoing work of pushing past it.
For a long time, I felt deeply drawn to bringing attachment science into leadership and workplace dynamics. I could see it everywhere. In communication. In conflict. In team dynamics. In how people lead under pressure.
But I also doubted myself and my beliefs. A lot.
Most of what I was reading framed attachment through romantic relationships or parent-child relationships, not leadership or organizations. So even when I felt like I was onto something, I’d second guess myself and pull back.
Then over time, I started coming across researchers connecting those same dots, which helped me build more trust in what I was seeing and experiencing firsthand.
I kept studying. Kept doing the work. Kept testing it in real conversations, real teams, real leadership dynamics. And eventually, what once felt like scattered insights started becoming something clearer. A REAL framework.
At the same time, the more clarity I found, the more vulnerable it felt to share it publicly. Funny how that works.
Recently, I spoke about this work to a larger audience outside my own community for one of the first times, and I’d be lying if I said I wasn’t nervous. I questioned myself the entire way there.
Would this make sense to people?
Could I translate the science clearly?
Was I actually ready for this?
I showed up anyway.
And people did understand. They felt seen. They connected to the work. They wanted more.
Building yourself and building something meaningful is not easy. It stretches you. It challenges you. It asks you to outgrow old ceilings.
But you don’t have to wait until you feel fully ready.
Sometimes you just take the next step… and grow into it from there. ✨
