CMK Coaching & Consulting

11/18/2025

When couples come to me, they’re usually not “broken.” They’re overwhelmed. They’ve slipped into a negative dance where one partner gets bigger, the other pulls away, and the space between them fills with misunderstanding, assumptions, and hurt.

When communication breaks down, it’s rarely about the topic on the table. It’s about everything underneath it: the fear, the longing, the vulnerability, and the meaning we make when we don’t feel seen or safe.

In my work, we slow that whole dance down. We look beyond the content and into what’s actually shaping the moment — the nervous system, the attachment patterns, the beliefs and stories each person carries.

Using the science of attachment, nervous system awareness, and the tools of Secure Communication, we work on:
➜ Naming what’s really happening (not just reacting)
➜ Speaking from clarity instead of defense
➜ Understanding how beliefs, thoughts, feelings, and behaviors loop together
➜ Repairing ruptures and rebuilding trust
➜ Creating emotional safety within each partner and between them

A healthy partnership isn’t about avoiding conflict. It’s about learning how to return to the table — again and again — with compassion, curiosity, and clarity.

✨ This is Secure Love in action.

11/17/2025

From the outside, it can look like we’re doing “fine.”

But inside, so many women are carrying the weight of old patterns — conflict we don’t know how to navigate, stories we’ve outgrown, and a longing to feel more grounded, connected, and confident in our relationships.

Becoming Secure was created for women who are ready to change that.

This 7-week group experience helps you build a secure attachment with yourself first — so you can show up with more clarity, coherence, and compassion in every part of your life.

Inside the program, you’ll learn how to:
✨ Handle triggers and conflict with more steadiness and intention
✨ Understand your attachment patterns (without shame or labels)
✨ Shift out of old roles like people-pleasing, pursuing, or shutting down
✨ Communicate in ways that build connection instead of reactivity
✨ Live into your most empowered, secure self — not the version shaped by fear.

This work is tender, deep, and life-shifting — and you won’t do it alone. You’ll be held in a small circle of women doing the same brave work alongside you.

In the last year, I have had the honor of leading 4 cohorts of Becoming Secure Ladies and I can’t wait to kick off a new year feeling more grounded and capable to lead you all.

Enrollment is now open for January 2026. ❄️ Tap the link in my bio to learn more and apply.

Are you ready? 💜

11/17/2025

From the outside, it can look like we’re doing “fine.”

But inside, so many women are carrying the weight of old patterns — conflict we don’t know how to navigate, stories we’ve outgrown, and a longing to feel more grounded, connected, and confident in our relationships.

Becoming Secure was created for women who are ready to change that.

This 7-week group experience helps you build a secure attachment with yourself first — so you can show up with more clarity, coherence, and compassion in every part of your life.

Inside the program, you’ll learn how to:
✨ Handle triggers and conflict with more steadiness and intention
✨ Understand your attachment patterns (without shame or labels)
✨ Shift out of old roles like people-pleasing, pursuing, or shutting down
✨ Communicate in ways that build connection instead of reactivity
✨ Live into your most empowered, secure self — not the version shaped by fear.

This work is tender, deep, and life-shifting — and you won’t do it alone. You’ll be held in a small circle of women doing the same brave work alongside you.

In the last year, I have had the honor of leading 4 cohorts of Becoming Secure Ladies and I can’t wait to kick off a new year feeling more grounded and capable to lead you all.

Enrollment is now open for January 2026. ❄️ Tap the link in my bio to learn more and apply.

Are you ready? 💜

11/17/2025

From the outside, it can look like we’re doing “fine.”

But inside, so many women are carrying the weight of old patterns — conflict we don’t know how to navigate, stories we’ve outgrown, and a longing to feel more grounded, connected, and confident in our relationships.

Becoming Secure was created for women who are ready to change that.

This 7-week group experience helps you build a secure attachment with yourself first — so you can show up with more clarity, coherence, and compassion in every part of your life.

This work is tender, deep, and life-shifting — and you won’t do it alone. You’ll be held in a small circle of women doing the same brave work alongside you.

In the last year, I have had the honor of leading 4 cohorts of Becoming Secure Ladies and I can’t wait to kick off a new year feeling more grounded and capable to lead you all.

Enrollment is now open for January 2026. ❄️ Tap the link in my bio to learn more and apply.

Are you ready? 💜

11/04/2025

The most important attachment we’ll ever have is the one we form with ourselves.

It’s easy to think leadership is about what we do - the decisions, the strategy, the outcomes.

But how we lead always begins with how we relate to OURSELVES.

When we move through stress, conflict, or uncertainty, it’s our internal security that determines how we show up. Not a title, or our training.

From that place of steadiness, everything opens: clarity, compassion, and the capacity to lead with INTENTION instead of impulse.

That’s what I call Secure Leadership. And it starts within! 💙

I wrote more about this in my new Substack post:
✨ From Attachment Theory to Secure Leadership: The Science of How We Show Up (link in bio)

10/28/2025

Sometimes the best strategy sessions don’t happen in the office. They happen between breaths, on a climb, with a friend who sees your vision.
Movement makes room for new ideas.

10/28/2025

Have you ever walked into a meeting and felt your body tense before anyone spoke?
That’s your brain predicting.

It’s scanning for uncertainty and budgeting energy so you can stay ready — not because you’re fragile, but because you’re efficient.

When things feel tense, your system isn’t protecting you so much as preparing you.
Awareness lets you notice those predictions, pause, and guide your body back to calm — to curiosity, compassion, and clarity.

That’s what conscious leadership looks like: noticing the pull toward control and choosing connection instead.

📖Learn more in my recent Substack post: “From Attachment Theory to Secure Leadership.”
https://christinamking.substack.com/p/from-attachment-theory-to-secure?r=wkfum&utm_campaign=post&utm_medium=web&triedRedirect=true

10/01/2025

For years, I thought my work ethic alone defined me. I was dedicated, reliable, “hard-working and driven.”

But behind the scenes, my nervous system was often running the show. In the presence of authority, I’d shrink into people-pleasing, fueled by anxiety. Other times, I swung the other way — curt, questioning, on edge.

What I didn’t understand then was that my body was already deciding who I would be in the room, long before I could.

Attachment science gave me language for this. It taught me I wasn’t “too much,” and it gave me the clarity and grounding I needed to show up differently — in leadership, in work, and in life.

That’s what I shared in my latest Substack essay: “The Day My Nervous System Walked Into the Room Before I Did.”

✨read here: https://christinamking.substack.com/p/the-day-my-nervous-system-walked

09/16/2025

Our nervous systems don’t clock out at the office.

How we lead, communicate, and handle conflict at work reflects our attachment patterns — the ones that shape how safe, seen, and supported we feel. And yet, this is the piece so often missing in leadership conversations.

That’s why I’ve launched The Secure Leader on Substack — a space to explore how attachment science can transform leadership and empower workplace dynamics.

I’ll be sharing research embedded in stories, reflections, and tools! Come check out my first post — a welcome and an introduction to the journey ahead:

Exploring how attachment science can transform leadership, conflict, and workplace connection.

09/03/2025

Six weeks. Five women. Countless moments of courage. 🌿 Just wrapped my 3rd Becoming Secure Cohort, and my heart is full…

These women didn’t hold back. They reached inward to name not just their stories, but their fears, feelings, and vulnerabilities. They offered one another true support, and built bonds that extended outside our weekly sessions.

This is the practice of secure belonging — showing up honestly with our fears and vulnerabilities, and still finding ourselves held in connection.

It’s about the courage to truly know yourself so that you can show yourself. And in that, you find grounding and security for who you are and who you are becoming — even when others cannot.

Every time, I’m in awe of their strength, their realness, and their commitment to keep showing up. And honestly? I’m practicing too. These women challenge me to really do the work, to know the work, and embody the work. And that’s what makes this journey sacred.

I’m so grateful to walk beside such brave women. 💜 The next cohort begins this fall — message me if you’d like to learn more.

08/15/2025

✨ Norway, you stole my heart. ✨

A week of hiking, biking, kayaking, laughing, and connecting with new friends in one of the most stunning places I’ve ever been. The food, the views, the wild beauty — every piece was unforgettable.

It wasn’t a work trip, but it reminded me that the best part of my work — and of life and leadership — is the relationships we build.

Grateful for the people, the beauty, and the memories that make life feel so full.

🇳🇴 Already dreaming of the next adventure.

📍 Oslo – underground highways, vibrant streets, and a 7am plunge into the fjord to kick off day one.

🚂 Train to Aurland – a jaw-dropping ride into the mountains, followed by the Østerbø–Vassbygdi hike: gorges, ravines, waterfalls, and a river cutting through dramatic rock formations.

💧 Styvi Fjord – post-hike dip in icy blue waters (because how could we not?).

🌱 292 Aurland – “the green heart” of Aurland. A family-run eco hotel + farm, self-sufficient and rooted in conservation. Bjørn and his wife’s vision for sustainability is inspiring.

⛴️ Bergen – electric ferry arrival, then the Vidde trail: lush forests, sweeping views, and a fanicular descent to Bryggen, the colorful UNESCO World Heritage wharf.

✈️ Ålesund + Storfjord Hotel – kayaking glassy waters, boat ride to Norangsfjorden, mountain biking, and meals that will melt in your mouth for years to come! Oh Rhubarb compote I still can’t get you off my mind!

🌅 Endless light – sunsets that never truly set, just hours of golden glow. Mystical, magical, unforgettable.

07/12/2025

Anxious. Avoidant. Disorganized. Secure.
…Your attachment style isn’t your identity. But it is your nervous systems blueprint for how you seek belonging & security.

Your attachment style explains why you...
→ Overthink a text
→ Shut down during conflict
→ Avoid vulnerability
→ Overfunction in relationships
→ Feel “too much” or “not enough”

It’s not weakness. It’s a nervous system strategy. It’s how your body learned to stay safe.

The good news?
It can be understood.
It can be healed.

In Becoming Secure - we don’t just talk about attachment—
we experience what secure connection feels like.

Starts July 29th
📍 6-week virtual group
🧠 Tools. 💬 Community. 🔥 Real pathways forward.

Join us!
www.christinamking.com/becoming-secure