Intuitive Healing Therapy

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04/22/2026

A wounded inner child will hold those close to them accountable for abuse committed by prior perpetrators.⁠
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This is done by projecting abusive parents or abuse dynamics onto those close to us, such as our partners or children.⁠
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It mostly goes onto our partners in some of the following examples.⁠
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*Trying to get our partners to be more sensitive to our needs.⁠
*Having big reactions to our partner's problems or quirks.⁠
*Sabotaging, picking fights, or demanding perfection to create distance or superiority.⁠
*Acting out, keeping secrets, or overly protecting our independence.⁠
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The people close to you may have their issues, and you may be with an unsafe or highly dysfunctional partner, but the projection is still there. It's not one or the other.⁠
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Another way to look at this problem is to think of our own parents and why they hurt each other or their children. What were they projecting or punishing the wrong people for their issues?⁠
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Chances are, if you are working on yourself, you might be doing this to much lesser degrees, but the concept is something we all struggle with until we can reparent our inner child around who needs to be truly held accountable for what happened to us.⁠
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The long path to healing revolves around letting people be themselves, seeing who they are, and fully seeing their humanity.⁠
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This can't be done by just trying to shoot for that. We need to check how our inner child views those close to us. What's the narrative about your partner not making that appointment or paying their credit card bill late? Who do they become to your inner child?

04/09/2026

In 1952, hysteria became a formal diagnosis in the DSM. Hysteria was a term for women who: had high anxiety, impulsivity, “dramatic of theatrical behavior” and “emotional outbursts.” Physical symptoms included sudden movements and sleep disturbances.

During Sigmund Freud’s era, women were brought into treatment by their husbands. Freud was the first to uncover these women had one common experience: childhood abuse.

What happened next would become one of the biggest coverups in psychology’s history.

Freud listened to hours to women’s stories of abuse and trauma. He believed them. Men, who were paying for treatment, were obviously not happy that their wives were exposing what went on in their childhood homes, and their marriages. Freud treated the wealthy class in Vienna, and there’s evidence that this connection created pressure for his silence. During this time he suddenly crafter a new narrative. That women created these false memories and stories based on their own fantasies.

Treatment for hysteria involved things I can’t share on Instagram. This only compounded trauma.

During this era, psychologists who were almost entirely male, failed to look at any root causes of hysteria. Decades of research were lost, and women’s lived experiences were denied immediately by the field claiming to treat them.

In 1980, hysteria was formally removed as a diagnosis. The same year, borderline personality disorder was created and entered in the DSM. 75% of people diagnosed are women. And once again, the label was a “personality disorder” instead of understanding that these were people experiencing PTSD.

In my early practice, I treated several people treated with borderline personality disorder. All were turned away from several therapists afraid to treat them. All experienced abuse, neglect, and complex trauma. Almost all were medicated (at high doses) during their teenage years. All most all had their reality denied by someone they loved. The stigma remains.

Imagine how many people we can help when we understand what post traumatic stress does to the mind, body, and soul. Imagine if we stopped calling people disordered, and started asking: “what happened to you?”

04/06/2026

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