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Holistic Life Navigation, P. O. Box 263, Bearsville, NY (2025)

09/08/2025

I was diagnosed at age 9 with ADHD, Tourette’s, and Nervous Ticks.

I would wince and scrunch up my face, twitch my fingers, and compulsively hum high pitch sounds.

I distracted children around me and was ridiculed for this all through middle school.

So I was prescribed an anti-psychotic sedative called Haldol to suppress the symptoms.

Take that in - a 9 year old developing their body on a sedative because of inconvenience.

My mom flushed the pills down the toilet and would lovingly say “honey, you’re making your faces again…”

You could say that was my early exposure to embodiment and awareness of the subconscious.

It turned out, many years later, that I was a singer with many songs in me. Many screams and cries as well that were repressed when I was constantly bullied.

This humming was a slow leak of those muted expressions.

I became a guitarist and pianist and wrote 150 songs in 2 years.

The twitch in my fingers had something to say and these instruments allowed me to express and hear them.

My ADHD also turned out to be an expression of something new and strange.

A mind that couldn’t conform.

I just couldn’t be colonized. Something in my DNA wouldn’t allow it. Was it my Taino or Irish ancestors? Does it matter?

All I knew was I couldn’t pretend to be interested in things that didn’t interest me.

Like… I can’t. I can’t even try.

Someone once commented that I’m boasting about not being able to conform. Am I? Maybe I am.

And maybe that’s the medicine I need now after a lifetime of feeling shame, failing everything I tried academically, and being told that there was something wrong with me.

So yes - I’m boasting now. Why not? I’ve learned that boasting is just speaking about my truth without shame.

Let’s love our uniqueness and remember that they only cause us to fall short by design.

So let’s redesign. Let’s live life FROM these expressions instead of against them.

It took me 17+ years to get this. So there’s no hurry even if it feels like there is.

I'll break this all down for you and teach you how to use food to support an ADHD brain in a FREE session on 9/24.

Just comment "ADHD" to get the free link in your DMs.

09/07/2025

Have you ever heard the reference to, "a seat at the table"? As in, "everyone deserves a seat at the table"? Camille and Luis riff on how they feel about "the table". They. Don't. Need. Your. Table. Luis wasn't allowed into spaces to spread his work because of how he looked, so he built his own HLN-shaped table.

If we are constantly searching for a table to belong to we are always in a co-dependent state (that most of us were modeled as children). Fawning and controlling might get us a temporary seat, but at what cost to our nervous systems?

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09/04/2025

Join me for an absolutely FREE session on 9/24 EST.

I'll be going over:

- how stimulants help treat ADHD symptoms
- how to balance the body from stimulants with nutrition
- somatic practices for navigating ADHD
- Q&A and more

Comment "ADHD" to get a free registration link sent to your DMs.

08/31/2025

Let's explore attachment styles. Luis has learned from personal experience that avoidant attachment types are simply bodies overwhelmed by a connection that feels overly needy, like a burden, and as a result they over-identify with independence.

Anxious attachment types seek safety outside of themselves, and often end up seeking that safety in an avoidant partner. So anxious types and avoidant types often end up partnered. The overwhelmed avoidant's behavior "proves" to the anxious type their need to grasp for safety, while that same grasping "proves" to the avoidant type that they need to run. A match, my friends, made in hell.

Listen to the podcast:
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Watch on YouTube:
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08/30/2025

This free webinar takes place on Wednesday September 24th at 12pm EST. Everyone who registers gets a replay.

Comment "ADHD" to get the registration link in your DMs.

And yes, this talk will also apply to people without the "H" as well as other neurodivergent expressions.

08/29/2025

This is the last weekend to redeem 10% off my entire 6 month Embodied Relationship group if you register before 8/31.

Just comment "10" and you'll get a link with the code sent to your DMs.

I can't wait to dive in with all of you on October 9th. xo

08/27/2025

These four simple steps for navigating conflict have been used in so many incredible situations.

I've used it for couples divorcing, repairing after an affair, betrayal, and even between republicans and democrats at a convention once.

It's magic because, instead of focusing on what the other person is doing wrong, you put the focus on YOU.

And this is a rarity with conflict. We tend to go into conflict and rupture with the desire for the other to be accountable for behavior and promise to change.

Good luck.

More juicy possibilities emerge when we let the other into OUR vulnerable experience with them.

I can make it all about you rolling your eyes and how you need to stop.

OR

I can make it all about what happens in my body when I do it.

I can teach you about MY body and how it's not you, but my response to you.

This creates intimacy during conflict instead of arguments and battling one another through finger pointing and blaming.

It's simple: when you do "this" I feel "this".

But bringing in your body, and settling it before talking to the person, gives them some of your co-regulation vibes to have more capacity to listen to you instead of feeling attacked and shutting down.

It is some seriously radical work to share yourself vulnerably with someone you rather just scream out.

And it's a game changer.

I'll be exploring this throughout my 6-month relationship group. It begins on October 9th and you can get 10% off the entire program if you sign up in the next few days.

Check out the link in my bio for more information.

DISCLAIMER: This is not intended for anyone in an unsafe or threatening relationship. Conflict and abuse are two different things.

08/26/2025

Your ability to enjoy your life while others suffer isn't a measure of selfishness, but of having a flexible nervous system.

This is the art of pendulation - and it's way different from bypassing.

Bypassing is pretending there's no suffering or ignoring it.

Pendulation is looking it right in the eyes, feeling the pain for a moment (empathy) and then touching back into your own experience.

I see so many people spending their time in pain because of what happens to others.

And it's not their fault - this is how somatic empathy works. You FEEL what you SEE.

And this is why I love the somatic practices of pendulating between what is true.

The suffering on the screen is true AND the peace in my environment is also true.

The person crying in front of me is true AND my own comfort as I sit with them is also true.

It's a practice of letting it all move through me, alchemize inside of me, and show up to the world with an open heart, mind, and body.

Which I see as a more helpful resource to those who are suffering.

08/24/2025

Join a crow, a fawn, and Luis on a morning walk to chat about the avoidant attachment style. There is a myth that avoidant attachment style folks are narcissistic psychopaths. He challenges this through the lens of somatics, seeing the avoidant attachment style as a habit in bodies that don't have capacity for connection. Their lack of capacity for their own feelings makes connection feel repressive work. So they push connection away. Instead of processing the feelings they often soothe the big feelings they don't have capacity for with p**n, cheating, and addictions.

Listen to the podcast:
https://holisticlifenavigation.buzzsprout.com/

Are you in a relationship with someone who has avoidant habits, and are you wondering what to do? Or do you want to tend to your own avoidant habits? Join us for a much deeper exploration of the attachment styles in our 6-month Embodied Relating slow group: https://www.holisticlifenavigation.com/relationship-group

08/21/2025

My 6 month Embodied Relationship group works with:

- attachment style through this lens
- practices for embodying your own self-connection and your relationship connection
- fawning, both, socially and sexually
- tending to rutpures and conflict
- bringing embodiment and somatic language into your relationship

We begin on Thursday October 9th and right now you can get 10% off the entire program by registering early before 8/31.

See you there. xo

08/20/2025

The hungry judge effect is a known phenomenon where glucose affects the harshness of someone's sentence.

After a meal break, a judge's verdict tends to me less harsh.

The same is true for relationships.

A simple rule in my home: NO big discussions, deep talks, or attempts to repair a rupture until we have eaten a full meal and, if necessary, took a nap or had a good night's sleep.

The urgency to talk when activated results in even more rupture in most relationships.

I'll be leading a 6-month group to teach you how to pause, connect to your own safety, and then ground your body with food and rest so you have plenty of capacity to speak deeply and directly to those you love.

I'll be teaching much more, too. The group is all about embodying your attachment style and learning how your body responds to your partners, friends, and loved ones and how to begin shifting it from a trauma response to a balanced, clear connection.

Sign up before 8/31 and get 10% off the entire program.

Link in bio.

08/17/2025

When I write about understanding avoidant attachment as overwhelm I'm not doing so to suggest that you simply "deal" with an avoidant partner because you now understand them.

Just because I understand you doesn't mean I am responsible for handling your trauma responses.

The purpose of understanding attachment styles through a somatic lens are to know that people aren't fixed into them, they're simply developmental habits to navigate childhood trauma and attachment issues.

However, one needs to be willing and conscious of these tendencies in order to develop out of them.

An unconscious partner who is avoidant in their attachment with you isn't working on themselves or transforming when they're avoiding you.

They're isolating.

And in that isolation they are preserving this part of themselves, not transforming it.

Cheating, lying, hiding, shutting down, auto-regulating with p**n and screens, overworking - you name it.

If they don't want to work on this, don't waste your time trying to convince them.

You'll only push them away further.

I know this intimately because I used to be SUPER avoidant and, when my partner gave me a very firm but loving boundary, it was my invitation to do the work on myself.

But no one could have made me do it. I had to want it.

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