Beyond Affairs

10/03/2025

09/17/2025

I love this quote. It stands as a reminder to me that it takes consistent effort, each and every day to reach success.

Success in healing from an affair also requires these same consistent actions. At times it can feel like we are not making progress in the healing journey. In those moments, I encourage you to do just one thing that produces positive growth in your healing. Journal, read something encouraging, reach out to a friend, get out in nature, share a hard trigger with your spouse, if you’re a believer: pray…even one small action is a consistent step in the right direction.

Remember, this journey is a marathon, not a sprint. Stay consistent. Stay the course. Stay strong.

08/29/2025

Holidays can have a triggering effect on us after betrayal. When everyone around me was happy, laughing, or enjoying themselves, I wanted to shrivel up and die. I struggled to enjoy any part of a Holiday. Instead, they seemed to trigger all my lost hopes and dreams. Holidays seemed to be a reminder of how much fun we used to have before D-Day. Holidays during affair recovery seemed to be as if someone was forcing me to run on my broken leg. For those celebrating Labor Day this Monday, here are a few strategies to help this holiday be manageable for you.

You can read more in depth about these strategies and how to implement them in this great Article written by Anne.

https://www.beyondaffairs.com/read/how-do-you-make-it-through-the-pressure-of-the-holidays-after-an-affair

Hoping your weekend is full of hope, healing, love, and growth! ❤️‍🩹

08/27/2025

My beautiful friend April, who has also walked the journey of betrayal, has just created a music video. It’s great. I highly recommend her music as part of your recovery soundtrack.
Check her out:

08/25/2025

This weekend is specifically designed for men who have the courage to take their lives to a higher level. It’s an opportunity for men to experience life-changing moments that empower them to live a life of honor.
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The remote scenic mountain location provides the setting for men to deal with their struggles by utilizing the environment and elements which makes growth a natural experience rather than a classroom lesson.
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We won’t be sitting in a conference room chatting about our ‘feelings’, nor will it be a ‘church-camp pray & ok’, and we definitely won’t be sipping lattes or getting our shoes shined. We embrace a common-sense approach, practical methods, and traditionally held values to guide us towards honorability. Simple message – Think – Say – Do – serious results.

08/19/2025

Did you know we offer a Newsletter?
Last week’s topic was ‘How to Confess Your Affair’. Take a sneak peek below:

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-An unconfessed affair is like cancer in a marriage. You might not be able to see it at first, but it is slowly eating away at the fabric of your existence…

-I have not had any betrayed spouses who are beyond the initial stages of recovery tell me they wish they didn’t know. So far they all tell me while it is very difficult and painful, they are glad to have the truth, and with it the opportunity to grow and heal.

-HOW YOU CONFESS MATTERS

-A NOTE TO THE BETRAYED! Many, many betrayed spouses have asked for all the details right away or (worse) indulged in a digital disclosure, reading endless emails and texts etc. They almost always tell me they regret this.

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You can sign up for our free Newsletter using the link in Bio.

08/08/2025

‘Hey, you’re gonna have to talk about this. You’re gonna have to talk about this a lot. You’re gonna have to talk about and answer the same questions a lot. That was something I didn’t understand until we got into this process. The time thing… Time does not heal. It really is something that every person should just get out of in their heads right now. That’s not how you should think. And that’s how I used to think. I thought, okay, I’ll put in some work. Three months goes by, six months, a year goes by…things will get easier as more time goes on…right? So if we get a year down the road, we’re putting in some work, shouldn’t it lighten the load? Then when you’re a year and a half, or maybe two years out, it should be better. And it isn’t! In fact, it makes things worse if you’re not doing the work consistently. And so it really isn’t time, it’s not days that have gone by. It’s really the days that you have put in. So, if you are putting in the work, you can count that as one day, but if you didn’t put any work in that day, it doesn’t count for anything. You have got to be consistent. You have to be consistent every day.’ JR - Texas
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07/30/2025

Today’s Podcast shares 3 secrets to get your man to open up and talk.

Listen here: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/beyond-affairs/id1708291879?i=1000719821689

07/24/2025

Our latest episode is LIVE!
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When trust is shattered, it’s natural to want answers — all of them, right now. But it can be difficult to have productive conversations with your spouse after betrayal. In this episode, we reveal 9 powerful  secrets that help betrayed spouses create an open and emotionally safe space for their partner to speak candidly.
Learn why how you start the conversation matters, how to use silence as an ally, and what types of questions invite honesty — not defensiveness. We’ll explore why the full story often unfolds in layers, and how your responses in the moment can either build a bridge… or reinforce a wall.
Whether you’re desperate for answers or afraid of what might be said, this episode offers real, compassionate tools to guide your next steps.
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07/19/2025

A “kiss cam” moment broadcast at a Coldplay concert struck a scandalous note when it apparently exposed a cheating tech tycoon and his head of HR mistress, as the band’s frontman Chris Martin mused they must be “having an affair.”
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I work with couples who wish to restore their broken families and lives after infidelity, and I can assure you that such a public exposure is a horrible way to find out.
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What the world needs to know is that this is not funny. The fallout from affairs has far-reaching rippling effects, not just for the betrayed spouse, but for the children, friends, other family members, coworkers and the company. Everyone gets hurt.
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What a married couple needs after disclosure is privacy as they navigate the aftermath of this betrayal trauma. It parallels a deep physical wound, like a broken bone, where the injured party needs to be rushed to a hospital, then the bone has to be put back in place, and the injury has to be protected by a cast so it is not further injured again and again, until healing can take place.
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It repulses me that people seem voyeuristic reading about famous people’s affairs, while the majority of people will themselves experience it at some point in their lives. We as a society are hypocrites. The pain of betrayal is beyond what most people can imagine. They know it’s bad, and they know they don’t want it to happen to them. What they cannot comprehend is just how bad it is.

I share a bit more about my thoughts on this incident in this article: https://beyondaffairs.com/affairs-are-not-funny-ceo-outed-at-coldplay-concert

If you’re walking the road of affair recovery, we are here for you. We realize the impact this story being blasted everywhere may have on those striving to repair their marriages after an affair. ❤️‍🩹

07/18/2025

We offer a private, discreet Community to those walking the road of betrayal recovery.

If your life has been rocked by infidelity, you are not alone. Within our Community, you will have the opportunity to talk to others who truly understand. Find support, guidance, and proven strategies to heal, whether you are reconciling or moving on.

Gain valuable support as you walk the journey "Beyond" the affair.

www.go.beyondaffairs.com/community

07/10/2025

Checkout our latest Podcast Episode titled ‘Should I Stay or should I Go’.