
07/20/2025
It was 2003 and I was having my hair and nails done for my sister’s wedding.
I felt guilty. Like I didn’t deserve it. So instead of enjoying the experience, I made myself busy doing my daughter’s nails. Which, don’t get me wrong, I also enjoyed. But it was also a way to displace an enjoyable experience of receiving care. I couldn’t allow it in.
This isn’t about hair and nails. It’s about being able to enjoy moments. Without guilt or feeling bad. Without shame.
I had someone in my life who said I didn’t deserve this. Who mocked how I looked. Made fun of my body. And used the money I spent on this special occasion as a bargaining tool to manipulate and withhold. Hopefully, you don’t relate.
But if you do, here’s what I want to tell both you and the Brenda from 2003.
Worthiness and love aren’t earned.
You aren’t too big.
You’re not too much.
Yes, people stare but it’s because you are radiant.
It’s ok to enjoy the moments.
Witness the joy others feel around you just because you are you.
You deserve to be happy and feel joy.
You deserve to say YES to you. ALL of you.
I’m clearly out during mercury retrograde and found a ton of old photos in the garage. It was a reminder that none of us plan to give away pieces of ourselves. And that it’s never too late to reclaim YOU. To find your yes. And I hope you do!! That? That’s my life’s work. Reclaiming my own yes and guiding you to yours.
P.S. I’m Brenda Winkle—energetic leadership guide, psychic medium, and somatic coach for high-achieving women who are ready to lead with ease, clarity, and deep trust in themselves.
Your Yes Filled Life is my signature group program where we clear energetic noise, heal what’s been holding you back, and help you step into leadership that feels light, free, and aligned with your true self.
If you’re ready to stop overgiving, start trusting yourself, and live from your full-body YES—I’d love to welcome you in.