The Bedford Center For Couples

10/17/2025

One of my favorites! We had some successful results this week — I love what we do! — We can, we do, and we will continue to! Happy Friday!

10/14/2025

Divorce is hard — but how you handle it shapes your child’s future. A former family court judge shared these powerful truths:
Kids should never be in the middle.
Keep adult problems between adults.
Model respect, even when it’s tough.
Stability and emotional safety matter most.
Divorce ends a marriage, not a family. Let’s build healthier co-parenting stories.

Welcome to Point C™, a powerful 5-minute fable about a child of divorcing parents, created by former Family Court Judge Lawrence R. Jones. This film is desig...

10/13/2025

Are you ready to transform how you support clients facing major relationship crossroads? I am offering a 3-hour interactive training where you’ll learn research-based strategies to help clients move beyond ambivalence. 22nd November at 12 noon EST

Dr. Nadia Delshad offers discernment counseling for couples on the brink of separation, and ambivalent about divorce. This short-term process helps each partner gain clarity and confidence about next steps

09/13/2025

Join Betsy Ross, Sonja Starins, Lars Lambrecht, and me for this enriching training session we're excited to offer to help you grow your Collaborative Law skills!

07/29/2025

Expand Your Skills with MCLC’s Allied Professional Collaborative Law Training!
Join us for our next training on October 29, 2025 from 10:00 AM to 2:30 PM Eastern. Learn more about MCLC on our website: https://massclc.org/
Designed for professionals who are consulted as neutral experts in their fields in family disputes. This training equips you to navigate conflict between clients and enhance client outcomes.

Benefits Of Attending
Learn the fundamentals of the Collaborative Law model and how to apply it to Family Law cases.
Develop results-oriented techniques to help clients reach successful resolutions to disputes in your specific area of expertise.
Identify and implement strategies to navigate challenging cases and to achieve success with high-conflict clients.
Train with experienced professionals who are passionate about the team approach.
Learn best practices for both in-person and virtual collaborative work.
Who Should Attend
This training is designed for any professionals who may be consulted in family disputes:
Mortgage Brokers
Realtors
Appraisers
Estate and Trust Planning Attorneys
Special Needs Attorneys
Immigration Attorneys
Anyone assisting family clients in conflict

Life’s changes bring important choices . . . You Can Divorce Carefully You Can Divorce Privately You Can Divorce Thoughtfully You Can Divorce Respectfully You Can Divorce Differently What if you could complete your divorce on your own terms outside of court according to your own timing? What if yo...

04/01/2025

Divorce Doesn’t Have to Be a Battle

Collaborative divorce offers a structured, respectful way to dissolve a marriage—without the emotional and financial toll of litigation. Instead of fighting in court, couples work together with trained professionals to find solutions that benefit everyone, especially if children are involved.

🔹 Less conflict, more cooperation

🔹 More control over the outcome

🔹 A private, cost-effective alternative to litigation

This approach isn’t about “winning” or “losing”—it’s about creating a foundation for a healthier future.

Could collaborative divorce be right for you? In her latest blog, Nadia Delshad highlights the advantages and disadvantages of this approach. Read more: https://tinyurl.com/3bfd443x

02/12/2025

How Your Childhood Shapes Your Money Mindset—And Why It Matters in Divorce

Money isn't just about numbers—it’s about emotions, identity, and power. From childhood lessons on saving and spending to the financial fears and guilt that arise in divorce, our money mindset influences every financial decision we make.

During a divorce, unresolved financial beliefs can lead to unnecessary conflict, costly mistakes, and emotional strain. Understanding how money impacts your decision-making can help you navigate divorce more fairly and confidently.

Learn why discussing your financial mindset is essential, even when separating, and how a collaborative divorce process can help: https://tinyurl.com/2vc8r34m

Collaborative Divorce-New Hampshire International Academy of Collaborative Professionals (IACP)

01/30/2025

When evaluating your marriage, it’s natural to believe you’re seeing things clearly—but what if hidden biases are influencing your perspective? Cognitive biases shape how we interpret experiences, emotions, and even our partner’s actions. In the divorce process, these biases can make it harder to approach decisions with clarity and fairness.

In her latest blog, Dr. Nadia Delshad explores common biases that can impact how you view your marriage and divorce, including:
✔️ Confirmation Bias – Do you only notice what reinforces your decision to leave?
✔️ Negativity Bias – Are painful moments outweighing any positive memories?
✔️ Fundamental Attribution Error – Are you assuming the worst about your partner’s intentions?
✔️ Hindsight Bias – Do you believe the outcome was inevitable, overlooking past complexities?
✔️ Self-Serving Bias – Are you taking credit for successes but blaming your partner for challenges?

Recognizing these biases can help you make more balanced, informed choices—whether that means working toward healing or pursuing a respectful, collaborative divorce.

Read more & gain fresh perspective: https://tinyurl.com/y2wrc6ak

01/28/2025

Have you ever found yourself caught in a cycle of misunderstandings or conflicts, wondering why the same patterns keep repeating? 🤔 The answer might lie in your attachment style—a concept rooted in psychology that shapes how we connect, communicate, and handle conflict in relationships.

In Dr. Nadia Delshad's latest blog she dives into:
✨ How attachment styles influence behaviors during divorce and conflict resolution
✨ Practical strategies to break unhealthy patterns
✨ Tools to help you foster healthier relationships

Whether you're navigating personal growth or supporting others through a collaborative divorce process, understanding attachment styles can transform your approach to relationships. 💡

📖 Read the full blog and start exploring your attachment style today: https://tinyurl.com/3dhmyzjj

NHCLA - Collaborative Divorce-New Hampshire
IACP - International Academy of Collaborative Professionals (IACP)

01/22/2025

At The Bedford Center for Couples we understand that grief comes in many forms—each unique, yet profoundly universal. Whether it’s the loss of a loved one or the end of a marriage, the journey through grief challenges us to rebuild our lives and rediscover our strength.
In this deeply personal and insightful blog, Dr. Nadia Delshad explores the shared experiences of these two types of loss. Through reflections on identity, emotional turmoil, and the search for meaning, the article offers guidance, validation, and hope for those navigating life’s most difficult transitions.
We invite you to read this heartfelt piece and reflect on the ways grief reshapes us—and how, in time, it can lead to growth and renewal.
🔗 https://tinyurl.com/mw5fb69x
If you or someone you know is facing grief, know that you’re not alone. Together, we can find a path forward.

01/16/2025

We all experience tough emotions—anxiety, sadness, frustration—but how we respond to them makes all the difference. Are you stuck in a cycle of avoidance, distraction, or overthinking? You’re not alone.
In her latest blog, Breaking the Cycle of Pain: A New Approach to Managing Difficult Emotions, Dr. Nadia Delshad introduce the DOTS Exercise—a powerful tool to reflect on how you manage emotional pain and whether your strategies are truly serving you.
💡 Explore:
• How distraction, avoidance, and overthinking impact your well-being.
• The balance between short-term relief and long-term growth.
• Practical steps inspired by Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT) to face emotions constructively.
This blog offers fresh insights to help you break free from emotional patterns and embrace a more fulfilling, meaningful life.
👉 https://eftpllc.com/dots/
Let’s transform the way we navigate life’s emotional challenges—starting today.

01/07/2025

Finding Balance Amid Emotional Chaos with Dr. Nadia Delshad

When relationships reach a crossroads, the emotions that follow can feel overwhelming—anger, sadness, guilt, fear—all colliding at once. These feelings are natural, but they don’t have to control you.

In her latest article, Dr. Nadia Delshad shares practical strategies to help individuals and couples navigate the intense emotions that arise during pivotal moments, like the end of a marriage or significant relational strain. Her insights offer a pathway to move from reaction to thoughtful response, fostering clarity, compassion, and emotional resilience.

Learn how to:
Acknowledge and honor your emotions without judgment.
Ground yourself with mindful practices like deep breathing.
Shift from impulsive reactions to intentional responses.
Reflect on your values to guide your decisions.
If you or someone you know is navigating relational challenges, this article is a must-read.

👉 https://tinyurl.com/3kxkuyub

Let’s transform emotional chaos into an opportunity for growth and connection.