03/19/2026
Making improvements and achieving personal growth can be messy, unpredictable, and often involves taking small steps forward, as well as includes setbacks and plateaus. The growth we want so badly is often not a straight line forward. For children growing up in homes impacted by parental substance use, this may feel unacceptable. Often, because of “black and white” or all-or-nothing thinking, the impression is either that things are improving or they are a failure. It is hard to find gentleness and patience with our own progress. And yet, that is what is needed as we slowly but surely make changes in our lives that is meaningful, effective, and lifelong. When tempted to crucify yourself because growth isn’t the simple straight path you’d prefer, instead compliment yourself for all of your hard work, your ongoing commitment, and your faith that you are capable to be successful in all you hope to achieve. Keep moving forward!