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11/04/2024

I just want to send an extra measure of compassion and love to everyone… it’s gonna be an exciting week for some and a really hard week for others… what I am sure of is that I want Jesus to rule over all things and pray that we fill our hearts and minds with compassion and grace every day and especially every day this week.

10/16/2024

Hi guys, looking for a good therapist but can't afford one?

I have a client that is starting to offer life coaching for $50 an hour. She is excellent. Sharp, compassionate and very trauma informed.

I have been helping her work through trauma, anxiety, panic attacks, sleep issues, eating issues for 4 years, has a solid foundation. She has decided to start doing life coaching. Now life coaching is not the same as therapy (no emdr processing or hypnotherapy) but she has a LOT of skills she is excited to share on how to regulate yourself, learning how to understand trauma, how to begin healing, using kindness, compassion and curiosity (guess where she learned that..lol).

If interested, PM me and I'll be glad to forward her information to you.

09/16/2024

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Alan’s special oatmeal - 4 servings makes 4 servings oatmeal (or more or less as you like) - I use about 4 parts almond milk (or regular milk if you prefer) to 1 part oatmeal.  Ingredients Almond milk (or other milk) 32 oz = 4 cups = 1 carton almond milk Oatmeal - Greenwise steel cut

09/06/2024

Don’t really need a fire but what has need got to do with it..lol

Blessings for a healing day.

08/31/2024

Tried another new pattern.

Blessings for a compassionate healing day.

08/25/2024

Chancy is feeling very relaxed today. 😊

Blessings for a compassionate healing day.

08/14/2024

Philosopher Thich Nhat Hanh once said, "Breathing in, I calm my body and mind. Breathing out, I smile. Dwelling in the present moment, I know this is a wonderful moment."

Blessings for a beautiful healing day my friends.

06/17/2024

Had a wonderful last few days at PlayThink 2024. So thankful for all the beautiful people (Will, Jules, Holly, Corbin, Luka and so many more).

Of all the things I learned, I learned (or at least experienced in a new way) the importance of truly giving ourselves compassion and grounding our spirit so that we can be compassionate to others from a place of abundance, not a place of deficit. When give compassion from a place of abundance, it creates more abundance. When we give compassion from a place of deficit, it creates a bigger deficit.

Blessings for a healing abundant week. Love you all my friends.

06/09/2024

A beautiful poem was shared in my worship this morning... I revised to be first person. Hope you like. Blessings for a healing day.

"My life may be miserable though I am not.

I am plundered I am betrayed. I am sold. Great black wings of death scrape over my life. misery gnaws at my bones. Why do I not despair? By day I am surrounded by the woods. I smell the cherry blossoms blowing in the summer. At night I see the deep, transparent skies, glittering with new galaxies. The miraculous comes so close to my ruined life, my dirty house, beauty that nobody can understand at all, but in my heart, I know this miraculous gift is the strength that has been given to me and to everybody for centuries and is the true meaning of life."

03/15/2024

Haven't posted much lately but wrote some on lies and truths for an upcoming workship. Thought some of you might like to read. Blessings for a healing day.

LIES that build our lives and destroy our joy…

LIE - Be strong and brave.. never cry… crying is for babies.
LIE - Be productive, stay busy… being still in a sin.
LIE - Be reliable and responsible and it will all work out… being happy and carefree is the road to failure.
LIE - Follow the rules… the rules of family, the rules of the church, the rules of society…never go outside the box.
LIE - Others should always go first. You should always go last.
LIE - Others needs are more important than your needs.
LIE - Your worth is based on what you do, not on what you are.
LIE - I will love you if you meet my expectations because then you are worth loving.
LIE - You can be lovable if you make me happy.
These are the lies that destroy our joy.

The truth is…

We can never earn our self-worth, we either accept that we have it or we don’t.
You are valuable because of what you are, just like a tool has worth for what it is.
You can use yourself in ways that are effective or ineffective but your worth is always there waiting to be seen and appreciated.
No one else can give you enough good feedback to heal your self-worth. Healthy adult you (and we all have one, even if it is hard to find) is the only one that can really reparent your inner child to help him or her realize his/her true worth.
Being productive can feel good but it is flimsy foundation for happiness.
The things that make us truly valuable are compassion, kindness, curiosity, empathy and love.
If we have the strength to be kind to ourselves and to others, everything else will take care of itself. When we fall, be curious how to learn from our shortcomings and give ourselves and others grace.
We must take care of our basic needs first (sleep, water, good food, emotional downtime, etc) or we will be of little value to ourselves or anyone else.
We can never make anyone else happy. We may contribute to their happiness by loving them and being kind to them but it is impossible to consistently make someone else happy. We can however be consistently kind to anyone, regardless of their emotional state of being at the time.
The path to happiness is being responsible for our own happiness and sharing our love with those around us. When we treat ourselves with love and grace we will enjoy being kind to others and loving them well.
If we are not kind to ourselves we will ultimately resent having to be kind to others that are not kind to us. We will instead want to meet anger with anger. That is truly the road to hell.
The road to joy is meeting anger with compassion and love regardless if that person deserves it or receives it, we can feel good about loving them anyway.
Love yourself exactly as you are and you will learn to love others exactly as they are (last sentence is a paraphrase from Mr. Rogers).
You are an amazing wonderful person and I love you just the way you are right now.

02/24/2024

DOLLY FOR PRESIDENT - Support the B***S

I really want Dolly for president. I suggest she create a new political party - THE B***S - Better Opportunities for all Our Brothers and Sisters
Dolly makes everything good bigger and better and we need more of that.
She is a rare combination of being unceasingly benevolent, unbelievable brilliant, extraordinarily talented and a financial super power in her own right grown from a humble country girl in the back woods of Tennessee.
I am terrified of our current choices, both of which are way past their prime and even if they weren’t, I am not feeling too good about the prospects of another 4 years with either of them.
I believe Dolly would:
Be honest and kind (there’s something we desperately need).
Figure better ways to deal with immigration, allowing for more people to come here from more places and integrate them into our society to make us all stronger.
Would face climate change head own, finding economically viable ways to protect our environment maybe supported in part by ongoing charitable opportunities (?).
Would put a stop to the rules that allow pharmaceutical companies, insurance companies and hospital corporations from charging ridiculous prices to pad their own pockets while leaving average American without access to decent health care.
Would change the rules about how we operate in Washington to reduce corruption and special interests while creating more opportunities for our elected leaders to work together for real growth and positive change.
I am so tired of politicians yelling, making ridiculous promises and blaming everyone else for their failures.
I just want a smart, honest, successful person to lead our people to a better place.
If you agree, please like and share and I challenge you to add a comment below saying one thing you will do as a result of reading this post to put more good energy into our wonderful country.
For myself, I commit to going down to the street corner close to my house where folks stand and ask for help and pick up trash for a while this weekend.
I just want to promote sending more love, healing and good energy into our country, our friends, our families, our neighbors and do what little I can to change a vile, ugly process that is our political system.
Dolly, even if you are not willing to run for president, I hope you will help me and all of us figure out how to move forward in a kinder more successful way than we have in the past.

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05/15/2023

My latest podcast. Thank you.

You are enough. You do enough. It's ok to feel safe when you are safe. What we do is largely motivated by what we feel. What we feel is dependent upon what we think. Some of our thoughts are conscious but many of them are sub-conscious.  We all carry sub-conscious thoughts about our self-esteem...